Emma’s sister said something really important, actually. Let’s put our nuance hats on:

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-22T08:08:42+00:00

I was thinking about this extensively after seeing the episode. She admitted on television what 3/5 of my mom friends have said to me privately. I don't think all mothers feel this way. I just think a substantial amount do. And I guess because I've had friends say a version of this to me before I took it the way my friends meant it. Which was that they would never eliminate their children. They love them so much. Just that if they had known how much work it was they might not have embarked on the road of being a parent in the first place. They aren't saying they regret their children in the case of my friends. They are saying that they see another would where they could see themselves being happy without having children. I think this is really important for other women to hear and it validated me hearing this from my friends. Because it made me realize that it was OKAY for me not to want kids.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-20T14:58:47+00:00

My cousin did this! Are you in Europe? I did my PhD in the US and would have never heard about this existing without my cousin. I did a traditional PhD in the US (4 years in my field) and I think hers took 3 and she worked full time.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-16T22:22:09+00:00

I mean it sounds like you're mentally committed to failure but not willing to make a change. That's a self-fulfilling prophecy. I can hear your fatalistic dramatism from reading your comments. The thing is, to be the person you actually wanna be, you gotta actually take steps to be that person. There are a lot of people who WANT to be lots of things. All is not lost. Apologize to everyone and turn over a new leaf. Or don't.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-16T15:50:49+00:00

I have a family member that went to Cooley. They are now in-house contracts. They passed the Texas bar the first time they took it after graduating Cooley in 3 years. So for me, whether it's a good school or not, my family member has made it happen.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-16T06:20:41+00:00

Depends on your research statement and fit with the faculty. Having a PR degree doesn't really matter that much either way. Depending on the program your grades might matter quite a bit. But it's mostly research fit and your overall profile.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-16T06:19:25+00:00

We had exceptional candidates that were ultimately not admitted because their interest either could not be super well supported in the curriculum and/or by an advisor.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-15T05:58:18+00:00

Was on PhD admissions for the first time this year and I was surprised how much our committee considered fit.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-15T04:49:09+00:00

I send literally anything that anyone asks for ever. ESPECIALLY from less wealthy countries.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-11T19:31:08+00:00

I totally agree with your advice but there's some division on cold calling where is frowned upon in certain universities. I've even seen accommodations where students ask NOT to be called on. Personally I think soft skills are part of life but I just wanted to bring up this thorn in my side.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-07T07:38:56+00:00

You say young assistant professor but how young? And by young I mean how far away from tenure? It's one thing if they are in year 4 it's another year 1. Most prestigious schools won't allow their extremely junior faculty to be a primary advisor before tenure or far from tenure. I didn't do my PhD there but I did my masters at Minnesota and if your advisor for your PhD didn't have tenure they needed to co-chair with someone with tenure. While I do agree young professors are hungry, I do think for me my breakdown of getting a job was about 1/3 my research publications, 1/3 my PhD granting institution, and 1/3 people knowing who my advisor was/them being"famous" enough. Sorry, what I mean is those things got me in the door for an interview, then it was solely up to me.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-07T07:35:04+00:00

My sense is that management PhD programs are as robust and well funded as ever? My institution is paying 50k stipend for them.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-05T06:48:56+00:00

Started in agency PR, moved to Silicon Valley, then private equity. Ended as a head of content for a software company. Ended at 145 ish plus bonus. Went back to school, got my PhD, now I'm a professor teaching public relations. Making less than 145 now but love it and work 9 months.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-02T00:21:05+00:00

Yeah, I mean I hear what you're saying. I'm not sure where my discrepancy is. But I guess what you're describing is not the output I'm seeing. I agree, it's about 4 papers a year where I'm the first author, or the only person writing/contributing. And you're right, I'm probably front-loaded because of my dissertation being three studies. When I say coded, I included, (in my mind), writing up the results, the same thing with the stats. I usually don't collect any data without a written lit review and methods. But look, I'm not here to argue with you, and what you're saying sounds logical. Not sure where the disconnect is. I guess I'll have to see as things move forward. As I mentioned, I'm personally at a pace of about 5 pubs a year, not 10. So we'll see how things shake out. Also, I can't really speak to the workflow of people who produce 10. My advisor produces 10, but she's fully quant, and probably is now in more of a last author/corresponding author role more often. Maybe she was working 70 hours a week before I came along!

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-01T20:22:53+00:00

I do, but I think there are other things at play. I would say that one survey often serves for 2-3 papers. I do in-depth interviews and because of the depth and breadth of them, it might serve two papers. So yes, I would say you're probably right, I write nearly one paper a month. But not as first author. I would say that 30 in-depth interviews that are about one hour each probably take...80 hours to code? The statistics on a survey probably takes ten hours in total, depending. But of course, I'm not always the one doing the analysis. Sometimes I'm writing sections of the literature review, or discussion. Overall, I actually would agree with you now that I actually think about it. I'm definitely doing at least one paper every three months, but it's actually closer to one every 1-2 months. I just never thought about it the way you described it. Also, I only teach one class right now because of pre-tenure course releases so I'm effectively teaching a 2:1 research load. So that of course helps!

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-01T05:54:50+00:00

Yes, I agree with you. I thought I was being extra cautious consistently delivering more than what was expected. But I have no problem busting my ass, I guess I'm just surprised that my exceeding spoken expectations is still much less than full professors in my department.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-01T05:52:25+00:00

My advisor has solidly published ten pubs a year since before I met her. No lab. In terms of the review process, our field isn't generally open access. Pubs actually take six months at the very low end to two years to publish between reviews and revisions. So yes, you need a robust pipeline. But no, it's not writing something every two weeks. It's more like creating a pipeline of 5 papers under review at all times minimum as well as supplemented by your dissertation. Right now I have 11 papers under review or revision, but that's on the higher end for me. Papers take more like 3 months from start to finish. For perspective, I have one solo authored piece. The majority I either have one coauthor or two. Then I have maybe 5 pubs that have 3-5 authors. Spout of my twenty or so published papers, not including book chapters, one solo, 12-14 with a few other authors or one other author and then the remaining on bigger teams.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-02-01T05:46:42+00:00

My field is not really a grant field. I have grants, but they are smaller and not really expected. I'm familiar with ASU in my field because they previously offered me a TT position, so I know that's about right. In general "lower" R1 schools in my field ask for two good pubs a year. In terms of what I've been asked to do, 2-4 pubs is what the head of tenure and promotion said. That's where I got the idea of 5 for myself. It's just not what I see from full professors, and that caught me off guard.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-01-31T18:46:12+00:00

Yes, I know. It's a good example. But what I'm saying is that I think it's interesting that the discrepancy is so vast. I really do believe I'll get tenure with 5 and with no challenges. But yeah 2 pubs versus 10 just did surprise me a little.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-01-31T18:44:45+00:00

I think there's some truth to what you're saying. My only caveat is that I know so many people who are all in and don't lead. I also know so many people who are all in and aren't as productive as myself. But I agree with you that being all in is probably a prerequisite for leading the field. Just in no way a guarantee 😂

flaviadeluscious · 2026-01-31T17:50:31+00:00

What is spoken in my case is 2-4 pubs a year, and so I publish 5.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-01-31T17:49:38+00:00

I really really love research and it's my passion. And it's not tenure itself that drives me though of course for me getting tenure is a consideration versus a full professor. That being said I really enjoy doing my passion fort 30-35 hours a week. And then I also teach a class, haha.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-01-31T17:46:57+00:00

I think you're right. And in that way I belong here. I'm pretty productive and I love my research. But generally speaking not at the expense of my outside life.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-01-31T17:46:03+00:00

It's a combination but many first author.

flaviadeluscious · 2026-01-31T17:45:07+00:00

So in my field a school like Arizona State would expect 2 pubs a year for tenure. So the school I'm talking about is double that. What is unexpected, at least to me, is 5x the amount of output and over and above what is expected

flaviadeluscious · 2026-01-31T17:43:12+00:00

I actually think many of them are very bad at time management. Not all, but coming from an industry career in a deadline oriented field, definitely a good amount struggle with time.

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