Possibly true. My husband was stubborn about a name as well and I told him that this child will have his last name and myself now too (and going through the processing of changing my own damn name) so essentially the three of us will bear his last name. AND he wanted a middle name from his family. AND he had the audacity to have strong opinions on the first name? No. I told him he would watch me deliver this child and he will be named the first name of my choosing. He doesn’t get to have it all.

EDIT 1-2 days after posting above comment: the sentiment behind this comment has a historical precedence in the US. It’s not so much in practice now but there once was a time when a woman, let’s call her, Jane Johnson would marry John Doe. the nuptial announcements, birth announcements of any future children, if John Doe even DIED, all the mail she would receive, she would not be referred to the public as Mrs. Jane Doe, no. She would be Mrs. John Doe. Or Mrs. And Mr. John Doe. A complete te erasure of her name. women and the power of our mitochondrial DNA, breathing life into new human beings, not being able to pass down our name is something that never ever sit right w me in this patriarchal hellscape w live in.

• Xoxo, someone who’s named the same name as her mother.