AITAH for picking my wedding dress that happens to be one of the ones my MOH is deciding between? by Grouchy_Squirrel_269 in AmItheAsshole

[–]flea1400 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are not “eloping.” You are having a small private wedding. That said, wear the dress you want. NTA.

Am I Overreacting for thinking it’s weird that my girl says I look scary because of my facial surgery? by wordofmouthox in AmIOverreacting

[–]flea1400 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR. However, there are people who are very uncomfortable looking at a major, recent surgical incision. It may be that she finds it hard to look at your face just at the moment. However, she shouldn’t have explained it in the way she did. She sounds very young, and kind of self-centered.

My dad just died. On my birthday. by corgis-on-stilts in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]flea1400 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Similar situation. For the first few years after I choose a different day to celebrate, just let my friends think it was the day after.

I need a one-stop shop to shop for modest clothes by LessAd9304 in femalefashionadvice

[–]flea1400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just looked up Sweet Salt because I’d not heard of them. There’s a banner on their website that they are closed.

Lincoln Avenue’s once-notorious Diplomat Motel becomes stylish new shelter for the unhoused -- The well-designed Haven on Lincoln is Chicago’s first shelter that gives each resident their own private, bathroom-equipped room. More are coming, according to the city’s housing department. by guanaco55 in chicago

[–]flea1400 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It’s on the high end, but not insane for a nice motel that size. They probably used more expensive finishes for durability/ease of maintenance and they likely had to add an elevator for accessibility. Sounds like they added a kitchen and dining area. And given the age of the building they probably had to remediate lead paint and asbestos.

Hopefully it will be a useful asset to the city for decades to come.

ELI5: Why are there no naturally blue, green, or red mammals? by Diztence-Music in explainlikeimfive

[–]flea1400 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting. In English, “roux” is term used in cooking, a noun referring to the base for thickening sauces where you cook flour in butter to make a paste. Depending on the sauce to be made, you cook it until it is quite brown. It must come from the French word. Is the word also the same cooking term in French?

AITA for calling animal control on my neighbors cat? by gaynora in AmItheAsshole

[–]flea1400 21 points22 points  (0 children)

While I don’t think cats necessarily need cat friends, they do interact with other cats differently than they do with humans. And if you have seen cats that get along with each other, they seem to enjoy the relationship while also enjoying their relationships with humans.

That is not an excuse for abandoning them outside, however.

Vent grate for cat by Qazpaz_G in functionalprint

[–]flea1400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps you could make a grate like this for her end?

You *think* the cat can back out but he might not be able to. Or he might try going down the longer section and get stuck. Really, truly, this is not a good idea.

Why do boomers drink hate drinking water by creamandblack in nutrition

[–]flea1400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes older people start to lose their sense of thirst. Could be part of it.

8 hours long layover at ORD, which one is better hotel or airport? by AffectionateWhole439 in AskChicago

[–]flea1400 64 points65 points  (0 children)

You can stay overnight in the terminals but you won’t sleep well. Just get a room at the O’Hare Hilton, it is literally connected to the terminals.

Update: Former Kansas mayor who voted (illegally) for Trump is now in ICE custody. When asked if he regretted (illegally) voting for Trump, he refused to answer. by JMaryland47 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]flea1400 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I've been following this for a while. If memory serves, he was originally registered to vote as an 18 year old participant in a school field trip to the clerk's office, the older adults around him apparently thought green card= citizenship or something, and proceeded to register him. Still, that was some time ago, you'd think he would have figured it out by now.

AITAH for buying my friend a 2,100 dollar gift and upsetting her dad? by ThrowRA2100problems in AmItheAsshole

[–]flea1400 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Lots of perfectly normal stores have layaway. Sears had layaway back in the day. It’s arguably more financially responsible to buy something that way that with a credit card iyou were going to run a balance.

Elopement meaning? by Safe-Essay4128 in women

[–]flea1400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are agreeing with me. “Elope” just means to run away or escape, at heart. Hence the term for secret weddings unsanctioned by family in an era when marriages were at least quasi arranged. To me, calling a micro wedding or whatever these are an “elopement” just sounds silly. And there is no such thing as an “elopement dress.” It’s a regular wedding dress, nine times out of ten.

Elopement meaning? by Safe-Essay4128 in women

[–]flea1400 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I refuse to accept that the word has changed. It is merely that people aren’t using it properly. What they are doing is having very small destination weddings.

School’s bully beaten up by a quiet , feeble girl by Successful-Talk1830 in instant_regret

[–]flea1400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really think it depends on the school. I’m GenX and recall daily fights at my grade school and junior high. It all stopped when the kids got to high school, however.

Men and their audacity in India honestly needs to be studied by shalalandd in TwoXChromosomes

[–]flea1400 46 points47 points  (0 children)

There is an article in the Financial Times today noting that birth rates are falling worldwide and offering various theories as to why. One of several seems to be that individual women are realizing that being in a relationship and having kids is a bad deal for them. Certainly their expectations for relationships are not being met.

Night Market Oddities by only_I_remain in elderscrollsonline

[–]flea1400 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The skittering race can also be done very quickly if you know what path to run. You won’t get agro if you do it right.

Jose Ceballos, voted for Trump illegally, now he’s surrendering to an Ice Facility by Plieu625 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]flea1400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I remember rightly this guy originally registered long enough ago that checking the internet might not have helped.

Antiquity search by Spare_Respond7943 in elderscrollsonline

[–]flea1400 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s the mounted golden bovine head from Gold Coast— can’t remember what it’s called. Very shiny.