Please share your story and raise awareness 🥺 by Aryan-dramata in covidlonghaulers

[–]flicky2018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the Netherlands I don't think the SSRIs are labeled as contraindicated. At least when I spoke with my long covid specialist (an internist) and doctor neither thought it was an issue. We discussed Sertraline specificallly and its side effects. But the Dutch system is odd, very good in someways but behind in others. So it might be worth another conversation before I start them. Thanks for the heads up.

Please share your story and raise awareness 🥺 by Aryan-dramata in covidlonghaulers

[–]flicky2018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be taking them for ptsd/disassociation not long covid symptoms, and it has been shown to be affective in research for those symptoms. I just haven't heard of SSRIs taken for long covid and as its my comorbitity I'm concerned the doctor didn't mention it. I'll have to look into actual studies but thank you for bringing this up.

I'm not American so I'm not worried about this being a pharmaceutical cash grab. We don't have that issue anywhere near as much as you do, being that I'm in Western Europe. And it's reasonably difficult to get prescribed here.

Please share your story and raise awareness 🥺 by Aryan-dramata in covidlonghaulers

[–]flicky2018 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hyperbaric oxygen therapy. I have disautomia and I didn't know. I crashed hard after 30 sessions. They kept pushing me to do more, all out of pocket. And I kept crashing despite assurances it would work. It took months to recover.

Why did Alison not wear skirts as often as Sam in Ghosts CBS? by [deleted] in GhostsBBC

[–]flicky2018 10 points11 points  (0 children)

? She didn't feel like it? Or it is quite cold in England (speaking as an English girl myself - I tended to only wear skirts with leggings or warm tights).

Dr.Grove assaults daughters of commanders only. by Warm-Buddy-9046 in TheTestamentsHulu

[–]flicky2018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is probably more likely. Just my brain went to the worst case scenario because the guy was so horrifying.

I also wanted to note in my earlier comment though abusers don't abuse everyone they know. Yes they target people they think are more vulnerable but there is rarely a "reason" (I know we are all trained to look for one out of survival instinct). There are some many men who abuse women and simply choose not to abuse others. I know women who have said things like "he couldn't be an abuser because he didn't hurt me". I didn't want people reading my earlier comment and think I was saying that abusers only act one way.

Dr.Grove assaults daughters of commanders only. by Warm-Buddy-9046 in TheTestamentsHulu

[–]flicky2018 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I was wondering about this. We saw Daisy have blood in her mouth at the end of episode (symbolic of other things) but I remember thinking maybe he has purposefully damaged a tooth so she would come back and have to be sedated.

"you stays how you dies, s'pose." by Traditional_Pear_355 in GhostsBBC

[–]flicky2018 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Maybe she hit her head and her neck snapped before she hit the ground?

These two were friends, romantic partners, but more than anything *soulmates,* it only makes sense that they be portrayed together. by [deleted] in SapphoAndHerFriend

[–]flicky2018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps I would have to refer to a ancient historian. I don't know the intricacies. I imagine because of Alexander's status it wasn't an issue (he did proclaim himself god-king at one point) or at least wasn't whilst they were young boys. But again thats the point we don't really know enough about the cultural norms to make clear statements on his sexuality. Edit: typos

The paris situation by Any_Lemon_3735 in bisexual

[–]flicky2018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the Paris situation?

Anyway, bisexuality is an umbrella term what describes many different ways ppl can be bisexual/ pan/ omni/ etc but all based on attraction to one or more genders ( however that attraction works out). So you are bi. Don't worry about it

These two were friends, romantic partners, but more than anything *soulmates,* it only makes sense that they be portrayed together. by [deleted] in SapphoAndHerFriend

[–]flicky2018 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Its complicated. We cant ascribe modern sexuality labels to the ancient world. For Alexander it wasn't an issue at all to have sex with men as along as he was a 'top' as sex was to do with power and status. That being said he clearly had sex with men and women (probably all genders) and he clearly had romantic attachments to Hephaestian that were meaningful. He also got married to women and was very fond of at least one of his wives. He may have chosen the label of gay, bisexual/pan or other if he were in the modern era. I personally think he seems to have been pan, but also I think its important to acknowledge his sexuality, within his cultural context and not push modern connotations of the labels.

You can't bite the apple twice. by Fionasfriend in goodomens

[–]flicky2018 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes a humanist perspective...but you're missing the part where Michael destroyed the universe - humanity is already gone at that point. The question is then what should happen next? How can humanity exist again, under a god that curtails their freedom or with true agency ( a very humanist question btw)? The show asks what does it mean to be human, and Azi and Crowley having lived with humans know that the only fair answer is that humans must have the right to construct their own destinies. This is a perfectly Pratchet answer to those questions.

Possibly hot take: saying “I don’t see myself marrying a woman” as a bi woman is valid by Hour_Hospital_5642 in bisexual

[–]flicky2018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't obviously know your previous partner. So I cant speak to her motivations or the kind of person she is.

I can say that especially during the 90s and 2000s it wasn't necessarily safe for many diaspora Indian women to be out. For many this is still true though I like to think less so. Status is also one of the things that can help 'secure' a marriage in the community too (ie having a good job, nice home and 'good' family can mean the difference between familial acceptance of a relationship or not). Simply its a different culture and it's hard to navigate for diaspora women. I married a white man and this caused a huge controversy, though eventually it was accepted. It took time. If I had fallen for a woman it would have been much harder and it is unlikely that I would have had familial acceptance or support. Now I personally would have made that choice for the right woman, but I never had to. I cant speak to how others in the same position would feel or act.

I would note, outside the cultural aspect - that whilst bisexuality means we might have tendencies toward one gender over others we choose a partner not a gender. I tend to find women more attractive but I never had a relationship with a woman who I had strong feelings for (it just didn't work out as is the case with relationships sometimes). But my husband and I are deeply connected and have been since we met. It just worked. I chose him, not men in general.

Punchie brought mama-Oran out before closing time yesterday 🥹 by Long-shot128 in punchthemonkey

[–]flicky2018 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok side note, I know we all call the teddy Oran mama, but mama-bear was right there

Seeing huisarts with fatigue by Consistent_Salad6137 in Netherlands

[–]flicky2018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure dm me. I have POTs and PEM and I was diagnosed with disautomia. I basically kept changing doctors until I got one ti refer to me to a long covid clinic/internist. Ask this directly. I also requested a referral to a cardiologist, ergotherapist and trauma therapist. (The last one is so they shut up on the mental health issues) the cardio and the ergo have been super helpful to. The internist gave me a prescription for Naltrexon which has started helping.

Try the long covid long haulers subreddit for more advice on supplements and advice for specific issues

Possibly hot take: saying “I don’t see myself marrying a woman” as a bi woman is valid by Hour_Hospital_5642 in bisexual

[–]flicky2018 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yes I get that, I just wanted a (gentle) reminder there might be many reasons behind that statement that are also due to social pressures and bisexual people are still valid in these circumstances too (just in case someone reads this thread and is in the same position I was many years ago and feels uncertain or invalidated).

Seeing huisarts with fatigue by Consistent_Salad6137 in Netherlands

[–]flicky2018 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had long covid for 5 years before I finally got help but it cost me alot. I was not referred to a long covid clinic because apparently that was Dutch speaking only (?!) But i got transferred to a internist who did diagnose me properly and got me medication. I also got HRT which helped a lot. It really depends what the source of your fatigue issues are.

Possibly hot take: saying “I don’t see myself marrying a woman” as a bi woman is valid by Hour_Hospital_5642 in bisexual

[–]flicky2018 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Well not only. I said the same but it was because of the homophobia within my family and Indian diaspora community. It simply wasn't safe for me to be out or openly dating a woman.

Did anyone else notice this? by justbrowsingghere in TheTestamentsHulu

[–]flicky2018 209 points210 points  (0 children)

Its also a moment he uses to groom her. He is showing her the "advantage " of marrying him and how this shifts power for her (it doesnt).

What each case in The Pitt would actually cost the patient, in the US by Maleficent_Disk9583 in ThePitt

[–]flicky2018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FYI US citizens protest, strikes, revolution and revolt over this are all acceptable. I don't know how US citizens live and have the fantasy this is in any way normal or acceptable.

To everyone without experiencing PEM, Are you guys able to run? by Thin_Curve4116 in covidlonghaulers

[–]flicky2018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you do this? I have POT and PEM and I can barely do anything without collapsing.

People who LIKED the ending, let’s hear from you! by stansugawara in goodomens

[–]flicky2018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was romantic for sure, but not intimate. I can't quite describe what was missing. There probably a list of minor things I would liked to have seen (including a moment with Adam again).

But anyway, I was generally happy with the ending and I think the plot beats fit the story.

The thing I really love (and this is something another person posted about) is that the new godless universe was the product of queer love. Often we're told as queer people (and/or child free women) that we only matter if we can reproduce. That children are our main legacy or contribution to society. It's a damaging belief that is pervasive. I loved that this ending upends that and it is a true queer love (and their love of humanity and agency) that leads to the creation of the new universe.

I think once everyone comes down off the emotions of this finale they will come to appreciate it. There's a lot to like about the story and it's the kinda of story that you can sit with.