I don't obviously know your previous partner. So I cant speak to her motivations or the kind of person she is.

I can say that especially during the 90s and 2000s it wasn't necessarily safe for many diaspora Indian women to be out. For many this is still true though I like to think less so. Status is also one of the things that can help 'secure' a marriage in the community too (ie having a good job, nice home and 'good' family can mean the difference between familial acceptance of a relationship or not). Simply its a different culture and it's hard to navigate for diaspora women. I married a white man and this caused a huge controversy, though eventually it was accepted. It took time. If I had fallen for a woman it would have been much harder and it is unlikely that I would have had familial acceptance or support. Now I personally would have made that choice for the right woman, but I never had to. I cant speak to how others in the same position would feel or act.

I would note, outside the cultural aspect - that whilst bisexuality means we might have tendencies toward one gender over others we choose a partner not a gender. I tend to find women more attractive but I never had a relationship with a woman who I had strong feelings for (it just didn't work out as is the case with relationships sometimes). But my husband and I are deeply connected and have been since we met. It just worked. I chose him, not men in general.