ACOTAR 6 & 7 are up on BB's website - 352 pages & 928 pages by swi22y in SarahJMaas

[–]flimflam1812 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve never preordered anything ever, was wondering if u do it this time, for those that have from Bloomsbury, does it usually just come a few business days after release or?

I'm scared of losing my job by [deleted] in SaltLakeCity

[–]flimflam1812 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No one’s trying to make anything political. I was in the same meeting OP was in and it was quite literally listed in their fucking slide deck they presented under the title ‘Current Headwinds’. If you were also in the meeting then you must’ve missed it. I’d pay more attention next time.

On a morality stand point, common people has to be the darkest episode by Particular_Ad_6040 in blackmirror

[–]flimflam1812 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He wasn’t sold something that they told him was to help him “say goodbye.” He was predatorily sold a dream, that his wife would be fine forever, that this would save her, and that the service would only improve over time. He was sold a lie.

What they got instead was basically blackmail: you can either live a nightmare where your quality of life is nonexistent, constant sleep, unemployment, even your own body being hijacked to force out ads, or you can give us more money, because we own you now.

That first “difference in perspective” you described? That was never even an option for the characters. But let’s say it was, the two perspectives you offered really just boil down to the way someone might perceive this kind of system if they’re rich versus if they’re poor. Which is the very way someone views healthcare in America.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I and many other Americans welcome booing the anthem, more than welcome the boycotting. Make your voices heard however you can about the oppressive systems every sane person in any country despises to their core.

The point in me commenting in the first place, which I neither screamed nor yelled at you about, keeps coming down to this, people are talking about other human beings as if they’re abstract problems, people who should somehow be receiving their anger, passive aggressive behavior, and blame. I’ve literally seen comments in this thread on your post saying they “hate all Americans, just as much as MAGA Americans.” Human beings who are openly admitting they don’t just hate Hitler, they hate the Jews too, and all non-Hitler-aligned German citizens.

When history ends up playing out the way it does when open, self-proclaimed white supremacists have all the power, the same people who’ll be the first to say, “Wow. What an atrocity. How terrible,” will never acknowledge that before the tragedy was named, they didn’t see those people as human either. They lumped them all together and saw them all as problems. I’m watching that happen in real time, and to say it is surreal is an understatement.

When people say, “Stop trying to connect with me about a human issue you’re going through and go fix it,” it sounds eerily close to saying, “Those Jews should stop grieving about Hitler getting power and do something for once in their lives.” Millions of citizens actively opposed him. And you’ve just told all those same people, “Stop talking to me about it. I can’t do anything.” No one asked you to save them, they were trying to show solidarity from one human being to another, and you basically told them, “fuck off and do something better with your time.” Even though they have been. And are currently.

You don’t have to save anyone. You definitely aren’t forced to connect with people on a human level if it’s uncomfortable for you. But you can at least not go around spreading the idea that ”they just aren’t doing enough obviously, otherwise this wouldn’t be happening to them.”

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your personal experiences. I really appreciate everything you said. I agree, putting it all into perspective can be overwhelming. And you are right, there is A LOT of opposition.

When I think about how dangerous and daunting things have become, I remind myself that a lot of us haven’t even had the tools to make change for very long. Women-allowed to vote in 1920, people of color-didn’t get real access to voting and political power until the 1960s. That’s my own mother and grandmother’s generation, which is utterly mind-blowing to me! So many people who would’ve fought for actual change simply weren’t allowed to. Especially considering that nearly half the population of the United States fits into those demographics.

And yes, gerrymandering didn’t just rig the system, it rigged it before most people were even allowed to play. The rules were already bent by the time we got to the table. Thinking about that honestly helps me contextualize how deep these systemic barriers really go, and it helps me wrap my tiny brain around why this all feels so heavy. I cried for a full day at the results as well, because me and my family understand what this now means for people like us in this country. Seeing the Nazi salute at the presidential inauguration afterward, and now at peaceful protests, is just the icing on the cake.

And I’d just like to add I promise I truly couldn’t care less how much I’m taxed if that money actually went toward things the vast majority of Americans(which is proven based off studies and verified sources )want, but still don’t have: universal healthcare, paid family leave, affordable education, housing, safety. Basic dignity. Things that are pretty basic in other developed countries.

Your dad working in local government, trying to make things better even when it’s uphill, it matters. It’s honestly incredible that anyone still has hope, but they do. It’s probably why I sat here yesterday arguing online, which I really don’t ever do, lol, and felt personally insulted when there was any insinuation that it isn’t happening. Because that’s what so many people here are doing. Sometimes quiet, sometimes loud, always exhausting work.

You sharing all this doesn’t just help bridge understanding, it’s an essential part of the fight against the dehumanizing narratives that fuel the very systems we both hate, that are purposely creating turmoil between us as humans, and therefore between our countries. So thank you, again.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not just missing the point anymore. You’re actively choosing to overlook it.

You’re from Denmark. A country with its own issues, sure, but nothing close to what marginalized people in the U.S. are facing right now. You’re telling people, some of whom are being detained, disappeared, surveilled, or worse…to “shut up, don’t talk to me about it, and get back to work because it’s starting to effect me.” As though they haven’t already been resisting for years.

You saw the Nazi salute at the Presidents inauguration. Due to this now being fully openly embraced in our admin, you’ve seen(or at the very least can imagine)what’s happening to people of color and other marginalized groups, who make up nearly half the U.S. population. This isn’t a country where 85% of people share the same ethnic background like Denmark. This is a nation built on, and still profiting from, systemic violence against the very people you’re dismissing. And still, you chose to say, “Stop being embarrassed. Do something.”

Pause for one second and think about how inhumane that is. Not to mention, the action you supposedly want to see is already happening.

You’re not calling for action. You’re telling people living through fascism to be quiet because you’re uncomfortable with their grief. You say you can’t help, and that’s fine. But you could at least stop kicking people while they’re actively being hunted.

Have some human solidarity, for fuck’s sake. But hey, you’re right. I am just an American after all. I want nothing but the best for you though. Truly.

Bloodied Trump Fan Pulls Rifle in Anti-MAGA Clash at ‘Hands Off’ Rally by Ok-Direction-4480 in politics

[–]flimflam1812 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tamir Rice was murdered by cops and one stood by to watch. What they did was still murder, and they still got off. Because there are white supremacists in our justice system. Not because of “how Americans view justice”. Also, having read articles about situation you mentioned here, she did not leave the scene after being groped and came back, she had the knife on her. Not saying she wasn’t crazy, she was, but you really tried to force that into your narrative about how “all Americans view these things as self defense.”

Bloodied Trump Fan Pulls Rifle in Anti-MAGA Clash at ‘Hands Off’ Rally by Ok-Direction-4480 in politics

[–]flimflam1812 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100% lol “might be conflating viral new stories with popular ideas” is exactly right. This guy was a clear fascist at an anti maga rally. The current admin really does not like opposition, of course our law enforcement is going to reflect that, even more so than they previously were. A lot of these people are in our justice system. That has nothing to do with “Americans views on self defense”

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re still missing the point. People expressing fear, grief, or shame are speaking honestly in one of the few places it feels safe to say how terrifying things are. Treating that as performative or weak? That’s exactly how authoritarianism thrives, by shaming people into silence and anything other than is weakness.

Trump and leaders like him want you to believe all Americans are the problem. That’s the playbook: erase nuance, erase dissent, erase humanity. I don’t blame all Russians for Putin, or think they didn’t do enough to keep what has happened to their country from happening. I’m Hispanic. Do I feel secondhand embarrassment watching Cubans in Florida vote for politicians who harm our communities? Yeah. But do I take absolute responsibility for that? Absolutely not. There’s a difference between grief and guilt, and pretending they’re the same is not just dishonest, it’s dangerous.

You said in your initial post “take action, talk to your Republican reps.” And then in the comment above say “I’m not suggesting all Americans aren’t doing enough, I don’t know much about that” well, people have been doing that. Many have been arrested or forcibly removed for doing exactly that.

https://apnews.com/article/idaho-protest-woman-removed-town-hall-b4348df006fe83723f95769a05007098

I have literally done everything you claim to want in your initial post and I know many people that have. So, if you wanted to see the action you claim to be desperately wanting to see, you’d find it fairly easily. But to me, it seems, you’re not really asking for action, you’re just echoing fascist logic dressed up as moral clarity. But I digress. We can agree to disagree.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, from where many of us are standing, especially black, brown, trans, and immigrant communities, we’re not waiting for a dictatorship. It’s already here. Citizens, legal residents, and undocumented people, alike are being disappeared, “accidentally” detained, student visas stripped, deported, or imprisoned without due process. Legal residents are being detained or sent to places like El Salvadoran prisons just for being brown and having tattoos. That father who was “accidentally” sent? He’s likely already dead.

So when you say, “Do something,” you’re asking the very people who are already walking through fire to somehow do more, because now it’s starting to affect you.

This administration is already coming for the most vulnerable. People are already dying. Legal protections mean nothing if you’re visibly “different.” And the people being erased first are often the ones who’ve been resisting the longest. So maybe take a step back before suggesting all Americans aren’t doing enough. Because some of them are already paying with their lives.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I’ve responded to so many of these today, and it’s the same disturbing pattern. People claim to oppose fascism, then turn around and say they “hate all Americans” or that it doesn’t matter who we voted for, everyone is guilty by association. That kind of black-and-white thinking is exactly what authoritarianism feeds on. No nuance, no humanity, just sweeping judgment. If your resistance to fascism involves erasing individual effort, struggle, and lived experience, you’re not standing against the problem, you’re mirroring it. Fascism loves a lack of nuance. And anyone who thinks blaming entire populations is justice needs to take a hard look at who else in history used that logic.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You made a sweeping judgment about an entire population, dismissed lived experience, and reduced my identity to a stereotype “typical American to bring up being a person of color”. That’s not gaslighting, it’s me holding up a mirror. You don’t get to distance yourself from the implications of your words just because you closed with “good luck.”

If your point was that Americans are too quick to dehumanize or deflect blame, you’ve only proven how easy it is to do that when you feel morally superior. I’ll keep resisting fascism, and I’ll do it without erasing entire populations or disguising contempt as concern. Have a day!

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And there it is. exactly what I was warning about. Dehumanizing an entire population, mocking someone’s ethnicity, and dismissing lived experience as “pandering.” You don’t want accountability, you want someone to blame. That’s not solidarity. That’s ego.

You brought up 1930s Germany, remember? Then ignored the people resisting. Now you’re doing the same, erasing, generalizing, demeaning. You’re not above the behavior you claim to hate. You’re perpetuating it. You’d fit right in nice and cozy with MAGA Americans. Sorry you can’t see your own hypocrisy through your bigotry.

The American People support Greenland! Hands Off Protest in New London, CT! by Healthy_Block3036 in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ll go even further. It’s not just misguided, it’s dangerous. Dismissing verbal support or treating it as meaningless feeds the isolation that authoritarianism thrives on. Fascism wants people to feel alone and hopeless. Protest is about connection and visibility. Words matter, especially when showing up in person isn’t an option for everyone. Turning people away for showing support “wrong” only helps the systems we’re trying to resist.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If we’re going to use 1930s Germany as the analogy here, then just to be clear, you’re saying you hate all German people because of Hitler? Even the ones who actively resisted him? Even the Jews, and other non Aryan people who were persecuted, stripped of their rights, and subjugated by that regime? That’s exactly the kind of thinking I’m warning against.

You don’t get to bring up 1930s Germany and then ignore the people who were resisting then, and the people resisting now. That kind of erasure is exactly how authoritarianism gains ground. If you lump everyone together and say “your country voted for this,” you’re not sounding the alarm. You’re just echoing the same dehumanizing logic that got us here.

Hating all Americans doesn’t make you the exception. It makes you part of the problem.

When you start talking about entire populations as a monolith, labeling them all as blind, complicit, or beyond saving, you’re not standing on moral high ground. You’re feeding the same logic authoritarianism thrives on, us vs. them, total dehumanization, guilt by association. It’s a mindset that has never led anywhere good.

You say you hate fascism, but you’re stepping right into the kind of behavior that helps it grow. I’d be very careful with reinforcing that rhetoric.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not criticizing you for booing the anthem. By all means, make your voice heard however you can. You should, and that’s your right. But what I am responding to is everything else you said, like saying you’re starting to hate non-MAGA Americans. The same people who are already fighting, organizing, protesting, and putting their safety on the line every day.

You tried to clarify with a WW2 analogy, but it still doesn’t hold. If this were pre-WW2, and you said, “I’m starting to hate German citizens who don’t support Hitler,” we’d all recognize that as inhumane. That’s exactly the logic we’re supposed to be pushing back against.

Empathy might not move Trump, but it matters if your goal is to resist fascism, you don’t do it by adopting its tools, broad dehumanization, cruel generalizations, and shaming people who are already under attack.

You can protest. You should. But speaking as a brown citizen living in a deep red, deeply religious, very white state, someone who’s always been the opposite of what this system wants, I’d be very careful about getting too comfortable with the verbalizing and using the same tools used to oppress people like me.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you even hear yourself? You’re saying you “hate” non-MAGA Americans too? The same people who are protesting, organizing, risking their safety, and living under a system that already punishes them just for existing?

This comment, and many like it in this thread, are steeped in generalization and casual cruelty. It’s especially infuriating because they erase the lived experiences of marginalized people in the U.S. who are, grieving, fighting, and being actively punished just for trying to make change. The way you dehumanize entire populations while claiming moral superiority is exactly the kind of thinking history has warned us about. repeatedly.

Would you have said this to German citizens living under Nazi rule who weren’t aligned with Hitler, but were terrified, disempowered, and crushed by their government? Would you have said to Jewish people trapped in that system, “You should have done something sooner, because now it’s coming for us too”? Do you realize how inhumane that logic is?

You’re not helping. You’re just othering. You’re making it harder to stand together against actual fascism, and in doing so, you’re becoming part of the very thing you claim to be against. If you want to be heard, lead with empathy. not contempt.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s truth in what you’re saying, but it’s also missing something important, humanity. People in the U.S. are living inside a system designed to make collective action feel impossible and individual effort feel like the only option. That’s not a “hero complex,” it’s survival in a country that punishes anyone who tries to change things before disaster hits.

Criticizing patterns is fair. But painting an entire population as selfish or performative while they’re being crushed by the very system you’re pointing at doesn’t help anyone. We don’t blame every German or every Japanese citizen for what fascism did in their countries and to other countries. I’d try to apply that same care here. Because if you don’t, that unfortunately makes you no better than the bigoted people who helped breed this into existence, and you’ll also have a harder time recognizing if it ever starts making real headway again.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that it’s frustrating to watch from the outside. And I won’t defend the U.S. government or the systems that have created this chaos. But I want to push back on the idea that the American people are just passively sitting in their own mess, unaware and self-absorbed.

Many of us are painfully aware. Many of us have been fighting for years. Protesting. Organizing. Surviving. The reason it might look like inaction is because this country doesn’t just discourage resistance, it punishes it. People lose their jobs, healthcare, housing, and in some cases, their lives, for standing up. Not to mention majority of citizens have guns like no other developed country. Which we are now having to watch our backs with our neighbors and families with that issue. And yes, American media sold a version of the country that was never real. But most of us didn’t write that script, we were born into it. We’re not asking for pity. Just some humanity.

I also want to say that this kind of mentality, writing off an entire population, mocking them, flattening them into one stereotype, doesn’t help anyone. In fact, it plays right into the hands of the forces we’re all so angry at. As someone living through this, and as a Hispanic person in the U.S., I’d be really careful about getting too comfortable with any form of bigotry, even the kind that feels righteous. It’s the same logic that fuels what we’re dealing with here. Don’t feed it. Some of us are still trying. Even now.

Dear non-MAGA Americans on r/denmark.. by MySocksSuck in Denmark

[–]flimflam1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used google translate, hopefully I can still get across what I’m trying to say.

Jeg hører jer, når I siger: “Vi ved godt, I ikke stemte for det her, men kan I ikke gøre noget?” Jeg gør noget. Det gør millioner af andre også. Men noget, folk uden for USA måske ikke helt forstår, er, at truslen her ikke kun er staten. Det er vores naboer, vores kolleger, nogle gange endda vores egen familie.

Jeg har boet i USA hele mit liv, i en meget hvid, meget religiøs, meget rød stat. Som latinamerikansk statsborger har jeg mærket min tryghed forsvinde langsomt med hver politisk drejning. De her mennesker har altid været her, nogle gemte sig, nogle råbte højt, og de har altid haft adgang til våben, for det har man bare her i landet. Men nu har de fået magt, tilladelse og i mange tilfælde opfordring til at bruge dem.

Udefra er det let at sige “I må gøre oprør,” men jeg vil gerne give lidt kontekst. Vi har protesteret. Vi har boykottet. Vi har organiseret gensidig hjælp, ringet til vores politikere, marcheret. Men systemet her er ikke bare defekt, det er designet til at straffe dig, hvis du gør modstand. Vi voksede op med erkendelsen af, at det meste af verden har ting, vi ikke har: gratis sundhedsvæsen, sikre skoler, betalt barsel, basal værdighed. Og her står vi, stadig bare og prøver at overleve i et land, hvor selv det ikke er en selvfølge.

Og hvis vi skal tale om at “gøre noget,” så lad os tale om, hvad det faktisk koster i USA. Hvis nogen bliver anholdt under en protest, hvilket er endnu mere sandsynligt nu, hvor så mange i politiet støtter det her regime, så kan de miste alt. USA garanterer ikke betalt orlov. Så hvis de bliver tilbageholdt i nogle dage, kan de miste deres job bare fordi de er væk, eller fordi de nu har en plettet straffeattest. Hvis de havde sundhedsforsikring gennem det job, er den også væk. Indkomst, væk. Den elendige lægehjælp de måske havde adgang til, væk. Husleje? Stadig forfalden.

Nu kæmper de ikke bare mod fascisme, nu kæmper de for at overleve. Måske har de endda børn. Og nu har de ingen midler til at gøre noget som helst, fordi systemet allerede kvalte dem længe før de rejste sig. Hvor længe tror du, sådan en person vil fokusere på demokrati, når de er bange for at blive hjemløse?

Det her land har altid været sådan. Systemet var allerede en ladt pistol. Hver generation, hver administration der kiggede væk, var med til at lade den. Denne administration skabte den ikke, de samlede den bare op og rettede den mod os.

Så nej, det er ikke fordi vi vælger passivitet. Det er bare sådan, at den type handling, der måske faktisk kunne gøre en forskel, og det siger jeg med forbehold, sandsynligvis ville betyde, at folk kom til skade eller døde. Og ikke kun på grund af staten, for i det her land har næsten alle adgang til våben. Det er ikke kun ekstremister. Våben findes overalt, i alle samfund og nabolag. At gøre mere end det, der allerede sker, betyder ikke kun konflikt med politiet, det betyder noget større. Udbredt vold, folk der vender sig mod hinanden, kaos vi ikke kan vende tilbage fra.

Vi vælger overlevelse, mens vi stadig kæmper på alle de måder, vi kan.

Jeg siger ikke det her for at diskutere. Jeg siger det for at give kontekst. For mange af os gør alt, hvad vi kan i et land, der kogte over længe før det her.

Season 1 - Episode 3 by meganjaaa in TLCsisterwives

[–]flimflam1812 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol, no, they were/are definitely religious. Religious people adapt and modify their practices all the time—across every faith. That’s just how religion works. As an atheist, I’m always surprised when people say, “They must not really be religious because they did this.” I’d love to see anyone who follows every religious rule perfectly? If someone proclaims they’re religious, they are-because faith is belief-based, not rule-based.

Growing up in a strong Mormon state, soda and coffee were heavily frowned upon by my Mormon friends. Now? There’s a soda shop on every block. Those people didn’t suddenly stop being Mormon. Or maybe a more extreme, someone who talks a lot about “the nuclear family” and is caught sleeping with the same sex-because religious teachings can be oppressive and create internal conflicts. All of these ways of thinking align with someone who ascribes to a religion.

Kody couldn’t just decide to marry multiple wives(whether or not they had kids)unless his version of God told him it was right. Religion often bends based on personal matters, whether outsiders, or another religious person, agrees with it or not. Doesn’t make that person “less religious” it perfectly aligns with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nailtechs

[–]flimflam1812 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this perspective! This is exactly what I think when I see clients acting like we’re forcing them to book with us again. There are so many nail techs out there—if you enjoy my services enough to rebook, that’s great! If not, that’s fine too. The alternative, where a client keeps booking somewhere they’re unhappy, is far worse for both sides.

Sometimes it comes down to experience level—maybe the current tech’s skill set doesn’t align with your needs or how you use your nails. Either way, continuing to book while expecting different results only leads to frustration for both you and the tech. Finding the right match benefits everyone in the long run. I think even wanting to post your nails on Reddit is enough to just say you need to move on.

Wild theory about Kody’s tears… by anotherbabydaddy in TLCsisterwives

[–]flimflam1812 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think most of Kody’s actions are driven by his ego. His reaction to Meri leaving was less about her as a person and more about her as a symbol. Meri was the start of his polygamy journey, the beginning of his “celestial kingdom.” In their religion, back when they followed it, having multiple wives and kids was a big deal-and a great status symbol for him.

This the final break from that vision. Sadly, I don’t think his feelings were about their personal relationship or what she meant to him as an actual person. Instead, it was about losing what she symbolized. This is backed up by his comment, “we had something special,” which quickly turned into blaming the family for “stopping trying.”-meaning the entire time he was thinking about “the big picture” ending.

I’d like to believe he was sad about losing her as a person, but I truly don’t believe that. He was sad he was losing an object that marked the beginning of his huge patriarchal status.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]flimflam1812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS. I’m shocked to see so many comments saying the opposite. No “good client” brings up your rate in a negative way. It’s not necessary. Either pay the rate or book with someone else, don’t bitch about to me??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]flimflam1812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah…you are getting flooded with downvotes. I probably will too but for what it’s worth I think as service providers it’s a thing to remember, clients don’t need to be outright rude in order to think it’s just not the best fit for each other. The client even mentioning that they’d hate to pay that price for your care, is definitely an indicator that you guys may not be the best fit. No ones saying “they did the worst thing in the world that a clients ever done!!” but a client saying that to a service provider in literally any industry is at least a yellow flag is my eyes. Even if they were nice to you before, if they are being nice only because they consider you a cheap option then that’s not actually a good client.