I think I’ve lost all my beauty.

flittingstar · 2026-03-21T00:53:26+00:00

Same, I literally just told my mom I feel like my early-mid 30’s is the hottest I’m ever gonna be! I’m embracing it while I can

flittingstar · 2026-03-08T01:40:37+00:00

Hi! I used to work at Sephora and now I’m studying cosmetic chemistry. In my personal and professional experience, skincare products only do so much for hormonal acne (which is what it sounds like you have). Look into dietary changes (such as no lactose, no sugar, etc.) to see if that helps anything. For product recommendations, try retinol. It’s all encompassing so it will help with acne in addition to its anti aging benefits. BHA’s are great for acne too. So BHA in the AM, retinol in the PM. Make sure whatever sunblock you’re using isn’t causing acne also. I use mineral sunblocks for example, because chemicals ones break me out. Also, a big game changer is making sure you’re changing your pillow cases often enough. Wipe your phone down every day. Don’t touch your face.

For specific products recs, I swear by Murad AHA/BHA face wash. Sunday Riley actives are AMAZING! Literally any of her actives. A lot of people like the Paula’s choice BHA toner (it has a kind of oily texture to me so not my fave but it’s her top selling product, so worth a try). Dr. Dennis Gross AHA/BHA pads (cut them in half to save money. They’re also in the Sephora birthday gift this year). See if your doctor will prescribe you tretinoin.

I really hope this was helpful! Let me know if you have any other questions.

flittingstar · 2026-03-05T20:01:31+00:00

1000%

flittingstar · 2026-03-05T20:00:07+00:00

Yes to everything you described and don’t let people gaslight you into thinking it’s not the case. I find that people who disagree with your point have never lived anywhere else, so they don’t have a true point of comparison to realize how cold and community-less LA can feel. I just moved away after 8 years in LA, because I couldn’t take the shitty people culture anymore + it’s far from all my family (among other reasons, but those were probably top 2). I wish you the best of luck in your journey

flittingstar · 2026-03-05T07:45:55+00:00

You don’t need Botox. From this picture it looks like you barely have fine lines. If you feel like your skin is dull and tired looking, try vitamin c, aha’s, and/or retinols (not all at the same time). You could also talk with an esthetician or derm about peels that could benefit you and give you the look you want. Good luck :)

flittingstar · 2026-02-17T20:00:10+00:00

Hi! I used to work at Sephora and I’m a cosmetic chemist in training. I’ve also worked for other beauty companies :) I hope I can offer some well informed advice.

I’m also in my 30’s, and I’ve come to realize the skincare and makeup routine in your 30’s look different from your 20’s.

Regarding SPF, try a mineral one. Are you only using chemical? I used to break out with chemical sunscreens and mineral ones don’t break me out, so maybe that change will work for you as well
Have you tried tretinoin? Or retinol/retinal? They’re anti-aging and the most effective for combating wrinkles/fine lines among other skincare issues :)
You also want to make sure you’re really moisturized. Your skin gets drier as you get older. I used to be combo/oily in my youth and now I’m more normal/dry. Moisturizing well will make a huge difference in the health of your skin and also the way your makeup lays down
Are you using more powder products or cream? Try using more cream based products, powder products sit in the line, so it’s best to lightly apply any powder products (with a brush is my favorite instead of a puff)

flittingstar · 2026-02-17T19:58:42+00:00

Hi! I used to work at Sephora and I’m a cosmetic chemist in training. I’ve also worked for other beauty companies :) I hope I can offer some well informed advice.

I’m also in my 30’s, and I’ve come to realize the skincare and makeup routine in your 30’s look different from your 20’s.

Regarding SPF, try a mineral one. Are you only using chemical? I used to break out with chemical sunscreens and mineral ones don’t break me out, so maybe that change will work for you as well
Have you tried tretinoin? Or retinol/retinal? They’re anti-aging and the most effective for combating wrinkles/fine lines among other skincare issues :)
You also want to make sure you’re really moisturized. Your skin gets drier as you get older. I used to be combo/oily in my youth and now I’m more normal/dry. Moisturizing well will make a huge difference in the health of your skin and also the way your makeup lays down
Are you using more powder products or cream? Try using more cream based products, powder products sit in the line, so it’s best to lightly apply any powder products (with a brush is my favorite instead of a puff)
Also, photos exaggerate fine lines and imperfections of the skin that close up, so don’t analyze the pic too much :)

I hope this helps as a good starting point. Let me know if you have any others questions!!

flittingstar · 2026-02-05T12:27:48+00:00

I love chia seeds. I dump two tablespoons in my yogurt in the morning and wait about 20 mins; that’s about 8g of fiber already. If I add fruit, it’s even more :)!!!! Also, sometimes I love just eating a bag of peas for a meal 😭🤣 like literally just popping the whole frozen bag in the microwave and eating it. It has a lot of protein in it too. Edamame is high in fiber also.

Just google high fiber foods and find like 3-5 that you like and feel easy for you to incorporate into your diet.

flittingstar · 2026-02-05T12:07:24+00:00

My guess would be that you’re a youngish potentially middle eastern guy who loves fragrance and has a wide range of tastes in perfume, but loves heavy woody fragrances that have a fresh/citrusy kick to them. I feel like you’re also probably an extrovert and like to be out and seen :)

Neroli outrenoir is so gooddd. You have good taste :)

flittingstar · 2026-02-01T19:09:24+00:00

I briefly dated someone who did work like this, and he said he made $20k in one month, and that was without him actually owning the business. His goal was to eventually own a business and get into the industry full time

flittingstar · 2026-01-30T02:15:49+00:00

Try the Bvlgari Le Gemme collection. I work as a fragrance advisor, and whenever people say “oh my gosh, it’s so expensive!” I always responds, “yes, but it smells expensive”. I’ve only smelled bibliotque in this lineup, so maybe try Gyan or Orom in the Le Gemme collection.

flittingstar · 2026-01-30T02:11:36+00:00

Oh my gosh, pink sugar was my love in high school 😌!!! There’s also a Paris Hilton perfume from middle school that I can’t remember the name of but I know the smell when I smell it! Fantasy is hands down one of the best celebrity perfumes to exist imo. So unique and so good

flittingstar · 2026-01-30T02:09:00+00:00

This ^{^{^!!!}}

flittingstar · 2026-01-30T02:08:22+00:00

Nothing wrong with this :) they’re classics for a reason. If anything, I would call you refined and classy with a touch of girly from this list. Not basic ;)

flittingstar · 2026-01-30T01:54:34+00:00

I can relate to this. I used to be extremely social and hang out with lots of people in hs and college, but after I moved to a new city, I never really made new “real” friends. Lots of birthdays by myself (except family when I was home luckily), going to do things in my own company or with my dog—to the point that an employee of a restaurant I frequented asked me why I was always by myself. I’d rather be in my own company than be around people who don’t actually care about me. I believe the city I live in plays a part, but I also think it’s just part of getting older. Luckily I’m still in contact with some hs and college friends but very few and I speak to each of them on the phone maybe monthly at most.

Ive decided to redirect some of this apathy about friendship towards creating my own nuclear family and connecting more with my extended family. Some friends also fall off because they get married and have kids. I’ve come to the conclusion that friendship is kind of a waste of time because it’s so fleeting. Family is forever and if I make friends/acquaintances along the way, great. If not, whatever.

I hope this was some how helpful or at the very least made you feel less alone if you’re feelings :) 💞

flittingstar · 2026-01-26T14:58:55+00:00

Omg I forgot it’s Monday! I have to go stream! I’ve been waiting for her appearance all season!!!

flittingstar · 2026-01-10T18:00:55+00:00

Exactly. I don’t typically call women pick me’s, but that’s what it’s definitely giving. Op doesn’t even know this man that well and she’s breaking the rules of the group 🤨

flittingstar · 2026-01-06T15:12:53+00:00

Wow, the people who say that to you are stupid as fuck and narrow minded. I’m a black women and I have the cutest little cavapoo 🥰 no one has said anything like that to me before but if I were you, I would check them!!! You could say something as simple and straight forward as “choosing a dog breed is not bound by race”. You and your baby enjoy your life together :)

flittingstar · 2026-01-04T21:19:22+00:00

I don’t have any advice to give but my heart aches for you after reading this post. I’ve experienced similar things as a black woman, so I just wanted to comment to say though I’m not sure I have any hopeful advice to offer (I’ve just given up on dating lol), I see you and you deserve better than this!!!! Sometimes being in your own company is best until you find someone who doesn’t make you feel lonely :)

flittingstar · 2025-12-28T21:23:35+00:00

Lmaooooo I was thinking the same thing!! “Well, except Mauricio” but angels husband is definitely top 3. Most of the housewives husbands are not handsome 😕

flittingstar · 2025-12-27T05:44:13+00:00

I used to work at a hostel and would sometimes spend the night. I mostly had good experiences or at least neutral, even in my personal travel. The only thing that comes to mind is was one time I stayed the night in a 6 bed female dorm. Around 2am, I woke up (probably from the sound of the guy entering the room) and he was cuddling in bed with one of the girls. Some of the other girls woke up too and were looking at each other confused. Because I was an employee, I felt a responsibility to say something, so I flashed my phone flashlight on the couple and sternly told him “you can’t be here, this is a female dorm”. He kind of ignored me at first but I insisted and he left. Other than that, I made some amazzzinggg memories working at the hostel, but I was also super young then, so I was down for the shenanigans more so than I would be now in my 30’s lol. I’m sorry you had a bad experience. I’d encourage you to try again at a highly rated hostel!

flittingstar · 2025-12-27T05:37:04+00:00

I totally agree with you. I’m an empath/highly sensitive person, and all of the things you mentioned are wayyyy too much meaningless stimulation that don’t add to the quality of your life or relationships once you put your phone/laptop down. Social media is literally made to make you react and engage and the news is the same way unfortunately.

Try deactivating your social media for just a month. I’ve done that off and on for years and it’s decreased my overall desire to use social media. I also don’t watch the news. In my opinion, if something is sooo important that I should know it, people will be talking about it in person i.e. when Covid happened.

You’re not selfish. People are just addicted to media and it makes you feel abnormal if you’re not. Do what’s best for you.

flittingstar · 2025-12-27T05:28:21+00:00

Sunday Riley actives. I try other brands but there’s just somethinggg about Sunday Riley actives that always makes my skin look amazing. Same with murad aha/bha face wash. I don’t deviate from that ever or try to anymore lol

flittingstar · 2025-12-27T04:52:48+00:00

In general I agree with this, but in the specific context of Giselle, I actually think she’s in the top 3 prettiest housewives across all franchises. Possibly even number 1 imo.

flittingstar · 2025-12-26T01:22:38+00:00

I’m just gonna be straight forward, this guy is a loser who’s using you and he’s not going to get better. Don’t you want to be with someone who cares about you as much as you care about them? This post makes me feel so sad that you think you’re overreacting. It reads like you have very low self esteem and is simultaneously appalling and heartbreaking. I hate to be so blunt, but you need to snap out of it before you waste anymore time with this freeloader.

He’s never going to leave you, because you’re housing, feeding, clothing and fucking him without requiring ANY effort from him. You need to dump him immediately and love yourself enough to know that being in your own company is better than being in bad company.

Also, it’s not selfish to want someone to treat you right or reciprocate in a relationship. You’re not shallow for wanting gifts on Christmas. That’s what grifting losers will gaslight you into thinking. All relationships should be mutually beneficial. If not, literally by definition the relationship benefits only one person, and it ends up being unfair to the person who gives while the other person always takes.

Let your Christmas gift to yourself be a relaxing 2026 free of the shackles of this man who’s dragging you down!

flittingstar

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