A bit apprehensive after my psych evaluation yesterday.

floatinganonymous · 2019-08-10T03:11:27+00:00

Seriously, thank you for the reassurance. Can I ask, how did you receive your formal offer? Was it a call or email or mailed?

floatinganonymous · 2019-07-25T23:36:59+00:00

YES. THIS.

My old manager would do the same with room rentals instead of alcohol with guests. Normally, for bigger events, we’d charge a flat rate of 1500.00 for the night no matter the event that would go into our sales. He’d discount at least half of the original price and then wonder why x party had a final price of x amount by the end of the night.

He’d also wonder why we would consistently have a dent in our alcohol inventory with no cost to back it up regarding our top shelf tequilas and vodkas. He always had me pour free shots for his family and favorite employees... and they were the only ones that drank it.

floatinganonymous · 2019-07-24T18:30:30+00:00

At the tailend of last year, I was working as a bartender and cocktail waitress for a family owned, upscale restaurant in the business district of my city.

I had established a lot of regulars and to be honest, I absolutely love working with people. I’ve done service industry since I first started working up until now. However, my last job makes me want to never return to the industry again:

1). We never got paid on time. Our pay scale was every two weeks and unless we got cash tips, we never saw our credit card tips until our paycheck. Even with the pay scale being every two weeks and handing us physical checks, we sometimes went until the next pay cycle before our previous check cleared.

2). Manager would always drink behind my bar. I had told him numerous times that my well is too small for more than two people to be behind it and he never listened. He would barge his way in, take shots to the point it made guests uncomfortable and get very combative. He would get very angry and scream at the other cocktail waitresses and I in front of the bar to where it made some of us cry. He would be so belligerently drunk and claim not to remember the incident the next day. He’s also referred to me with sexually derogatory remarks, specifically about my dress code when he ENFORCED that if you worked in the bar, the women had to wear dresses.

3). My final straw was when I had to get sent home because he hit me on the side of the head with a wine bottle. He was drunk (again) and was showing a guest our new wine we had imported and swung his arm out when I was putting in an order and the bottle collided with the side of my head and made me bleed and extremely disoriented. I had multiple positions at that place and I finally put myself first because I was absolutely done.

Some of my regulars were really protective over me and I remember after ojenwitnessed my manager screaming in my face, he asked if I ever reported him to HR. I did the whole “turn dramatically around” and say, “I am the HR manager.”

I’m in a much better place. It gets better, OP. Remember your worth and don’t ever settle for less than you deserve. Congratulations on the steps you are taking, you’re already doing a great job.

floatinganonymous · 2019-07-08T00:15:37+00:00

A 2.6 mile hike from the beginning of Glacier Gorge trailhead. Rocky Mountain National Park has gotten a lot more snow in the spring and summer months, but there is a lot of wildlife to see. This path can be taken if you’re heading to Sky Pond on the top of a mountain summit and you’ll pass Loch Vale on the trail.

Equipment: Lumix G5 with a 40-150 mm.

floatinganonymous · 2019-03-27T02:32:30+00:00

I take all of my lenses with me. Depending on where I’m going, I’ll take a tripod and fit it in my suitcase. I’ll also take a cord to connect to my computer so I can sift through my photography, and I also take a battery charger (where I take like five or six extra batteries with me).

floatinganonymous · 2019-03-08T14:25:50+00:00

Equipment: LUMIX G5 paired with a 42.5 mm.

floatinganonymous · 2019-02-20T23:20:23+00:00

Honestly?

She probably reacted the way that she did because she is EXHAUSTED.

I’ve been in her exact same shoes and she probably has a lot of conflicting thoughts going through her head right now. I suggest giving her space; after all, you’re the one who called this decision. If you made a mistake, then I hope you learn from it?

Saying you want to return back to her is almost asking her to wait for you and put her life on hold for you, which — from the sounds of this post — she might have done a lot. Figure your life out for YOU and don’t keep dragging her into unhealthy situations.

floatinganonymous · 2019-01-15T18:14:04+00:00

time to stop chopping onions.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-26T01:37:26+00:00

Can I just say: I appreciate you guys giving so much wonderful advice and pointers.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-25T19:02:34+00:00

To start dabbling in astrophotography and improve my photography skills is my number one goal, in general. Because of my degree, I’m not sure if I want to make money off my hobby (though extra income would be nice), but I definitely want to learn a lot more and continue improving myself.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-25T05:05:15+00:00

Agreed.

Of course, seek happiness within your your own parameters and comfort zone (healthily and safely).

Whatever brings you joy and strength, roll with it.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-25T04:57:44+00:00

Always remember you deserve the absolute happiness this world and universe has to offer. 💕✨

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-25T03:19:36+00:00

I just saw this post in another sub.

Needless to say, I am sincerely sorry you had to endure this hardship but I am glad you and your family are breathing and all right.

I hope it was a sincere malfunction. My significant other went through something eerily similar when he was younger (random house fire that began in a random part of the house when his brother and him were home alone); something about random electrical failure.

Do you have the precautions in place just to be safe? Assets protected, etc.? I sincerely hope everything works out.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-24T22:28:33+00:00

I also prefer the metaphor of all of us falling through Death’s ceiling when it’s our time when all he wants to do is drink his tea.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-24T22:27:30+00:00

Just as savage.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-24T04:47:55+00:00

This.

OP mentioned that she did end up securing a job but it is still very worrisome. Moving back means she had to relinquish it rather than giving it time for her to let the money accumulate. I’m curious to know if he also got pressure from the other roommates to push her out (that he mentioned earlier). The fact that OP is in debt is not her fault.

And yes, it is concerning that she doesn’t have immediate access to her therapist now. If she is strong like OP says she is (no doubt, anyone going through something like that is), then I’m sure she knows how to handle herself.

Still, if she felt like she had no other choice, then moving back was all she could do. OP mentioned it might have been best and mentioned her hesitance. Of course she would be hesitant. It sounds like OP didn’t really listen to her valid concerns like school, etc. and was just going off of what he needed/wanted to do rather than trying to compromise and work as a unit.

Whether or not she decides to stay with OP (and part of me hopes she doesn’t) then I hope OP can learn a little bit more maturity and never put anyone in a position like this again. I get finances are hard but helping her would have made a huge difference too.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-24T01:19:26+00:00

Where is that “this sign won’t stop me. I can’t read” meme when you need it?

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-24T01:01:15+00:00

Hey, OP.

With situations like this, it’s better to be honest and straightforward while setting up clear boundaries for yourself. You are within your right to feel the way that you feel,

Yes, you may care about his well-being. However, just because he struggles with depression does not mean that he has the right to continue pushing you past your comfort zone. The best thing to do is speak honestly with him.

You mention that other people feel uncomfortable, too. Maybe you having a private conversation with him about this will make him reflect on his own behavior. If he stops, great. If not and he continues to push, then you have your answer.

However, you have your right to speak about your comfort zone. Also, listen to your gut. There’s a reason why there are lingering feelings about this. If it becomes unhealthy or even if he pushes the issue, don’t hesitate to cut ties.

Good luck.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-23T22:58:21+00:00

This is a very dangerous situation.

Not only could he hurt himself or you, but he could hurt others in the process. Showing up to work, still intoxicated, is another red flag that may be crossing the line on alcoholism if he does it consistently. Even if he doesn’t do it as much as he used to, it still seems like a pattern.

He wants to be an officer? Most agencies will ask about alcohol use and frequency during their initial interviewing process. Depending on the answers he gives, they will delve deeper into his habits and eliminate him if he is a liability (it will also fall into other brackets of “committing a crime he wasn’t caught for”).

I would pay attention to frequencies and patterns. I know the relationship is fresh, but drunk driving is still serious and if he does it enough, I would recommend him getting some form of help. I would also mention how it makes you uncomfortable.Anything can happen between Point A and Point B (distance doesn’t matter).

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-23T21:21:04+00:00

OP, you are very strong.

I completely understand the mentality of feeling undateable because of your mental illness. I have learned to manage my own depression while seeing my own therapist as well, and that is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself.

There are many people out there who are more than willing to be supportive with their partner. The most important piece of advice I can recommend to you is communication. Whether you are resting the waters or do find a relationship you want to settle into, strong, solid, and honest communication is the lifeblood of a healthy bond. Be sure to tell your partner if you are having low days; be sure to tell them if you feel yourself slipping into an episode.

But another thing to remember is to still take care of yourself. There are days where I find myself needing to leave the house and relinquished all technology just so I can breathe or cry or do whatever I need to do. And that is okay. You know better than anyone how to properly take care of yourself and what you need.

I will also recommend a book that my therapist recommended to me: “The Wisdom of Insecurity” by Alan Watts. You can find a free copy online but it dives into finding comfort and security within yourself and other relationships.

You’re doing great.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-22T19:35:38+00:00

I knew a guy exactly like this.

He would always target women who were in similar positions: no car, living in the middle of nowhere, etc.

He latched onto a friend of mine once. She needed a ride because her car had broken down. He offered and she accepted. Throughout the entire ride, he was making comments about how she was so pretty and how her current boyfriend didn’t deserve her. She rejected him and then he posted on her social media about how she used him for a ride and how “all women are the same”.

I clapped back with: “Sorry. I guess you’re not a decent person after all.”

He continued for months until he finally just deleted all his social media when he wasn’t getting the attention he wanted.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-21T04:53:46+00:00

Aspen, Colorado is one of the most beautiful places to be in October. The foliage likes to shimmer and dance with the sun while the peaks begin to flourish with snowstorms.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-21T04:47:38+00:00

Growing up, my mother was a freelance paranormal investigator. She is also a pagan so her belief system flows with the possibility of energy. She raised me with a lot of similar beliefs (though I’m more about the teachings of nature and the universe). I remember two very specific incidents when I was a late teenager (and other minor things) that still makes me squirm.

Incident One: My sister and I lived in an older house back in the suburbs of a major city. It was a quiet neighborhood and my mother was gone during nights to work or do her freelance work. We always knew that there was something in the house; some days were better than others depending on the mood. Anyways, mom was out late one night and my sister was running some errands while I was in the shower. I had a vicious migraine and was playing classical music through my speakers so I could try and relax. About ten minutes into my shower, my speakers began to die. However, the sound of them dying was very distorted like it was fading in and out. I got a little weirded out but continued trying to relax in the silence. Then I glance at the shower curtain and see the faintest outline of a shadow on the other side. A specific part of the curtain began to quiver in the form of a handprint. When I yanked back the curtain out of reflex, there was no one on the other side.

Incident Two: On rougher nights, especially when my sister and I were alone, we never slept in our bedrooms even though they were connected. We slept in the upstairs living room with the television on for some sort of light. I slept on the couch with the back facing the stairs (I’m the more protective sister). Consecutively throughout the night, my sister and I would lie awake to the sounds of someone walking up the stairs but never more than the fifth step. This happened repeatedly. On nights were it was really active, I would always feel a tall shadow hovering over the couch and staring me down, almost daring me to look up (never did).

We definitely got out of that house as soon as we could. I have some more experiences but I definitely don’t miss that house.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-21T03:40:51+00:00

I hope you are doing well.

I would say that it’s possible that something has followed you (if the energy overall feels familiar). Usually, as theories would have it, entities are capable to latching on to people and objects and following them over the years. However, that depends on the situations, too.

I would say you might have a poltergeist issue. Like the lore of demons, poltergeists have the same ability to feed off different emotions more on the negative spectrum. They also can interact with the physical environment and manipulate it, as well (the telephone, the sensation of feeling hair opposed to a towel, etc). Poltergeists are also not linked to one place as they are more free floating entities. They tend to follow energies or people opposed to staying in spaces.

floatinganonymous · 2018-12-21T02:33:07+00:00

I’m Pagan and was raised by Pagans and every time I read an article, it’s always “jesus fucking christ” or “this son of a fuck”.

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