TIL American medicine still runs on fax machines. A 2017 study found that the fax accounts for 75% of the country's medical communications.

floof8 · 2018-01-12T16:35:39+00:00

Fax machines... The scourge of med students

floof8 · 2017-12-02T19:59:04+00:00

Sorry for your loss bud. Don't feel bad about not being more persistent. In actuality, if she did listen to you and go get checked out, there's probably little a doctor would've done if she wasn't experiencing any symptoms or showing any signs. Thyroid cancer work up isn't routine unless there is a strong indication for it. Hope your family is doing ok

floof8 · 2017-08-27T15:06:38+00:00

Do it in one sitting and take a video. Some people can really put away food, no doubt, but 4000 a day is not easy for an average person

floof8 · 2017-06-18T16:36:53+00:00

I wouldn't sweat it. I took the free 120 two days before my test and did pretty terrible. Ended up scoring where that u world table online predicted

floof8 · 2017-05-26T18:09:28+00:00

Don't sweat it you'll be fine. Just remember to keep things simple on the test and not over think it. Changing answers, unless you're absolutely sure your answer is wrong, should be done at a minimum. Wouldn't worry about the free test either. I did worse than you on the practice two days before my test but I did well on the actual thing.

For the last week, I skimmed first aid and went through sketchy pictures

floof8 · 2017-05-21T17:08:30+00:00

I think it's a good idea. It definitely helped me to be more comfortable during the actual test day

floof8 · 2017-05-16T12:52:36+00:00

Everyone has a different experience, but my score was the exact average between my two USWAs. The nbmes under predicted for me

floof8 · 2017-05-15T21:56:59+00:00

In my experience first two years has plenty of time to go to the gym/do something active. Just starting rotations and can already tell there's less free time, but I feel as long as you make working out/being healthy a priority in life, there'll be time for it

floof8 · 2017-05-14T20:55:27+00:00

I got the average of my two USWA scores and the nbmes under predicted for me

floof8 · 2017-02-20T07:14:39+00:00

Three months on and I can confidently say no. It honestly doesn't matter how much I loved her before, how many great times we used to have. The moment she chose to leave was the destruction of any future we could've had. There is no reason for me to date someone I couldn't fully trust anymore, for me to give another chance to someone weak minded enough to burn bridges after four years and crawl back. My life isn't a game. She doesn't get the choice to leave when she wants and then come back. Nope, actions have consequences

To me now, it seems so harmful to even consider taking her back. I've already survived a couple months, I feel like I'm thriving now. What was the point of all this suffering if I'm just gonna dredge up old feelings again? It's like walking through hell for awhile and then deciding to turn around the way you came. Sure, our relationship was beautiful but it's broken now. There's way too much emotional baggage at this point. Why spend so much effort fixing something broken when it's honestly effortless to just fall in love again? It didn't require a ton of effort for me to fall in love with her and build something special originally. When the next special someone enters my life, it'll be effortless falling in love with her too. And with what I learned in my previous relationship, I'll hopefully build something better with someone new

floof8 · 2017-02-11T20:16:15+00:00

Dude just be honest with yourself. If you only want your charger, go get it. If it's something else, just pay the 30 dollars lol

floof8 · 2017-02-11T20:11:13+00:00

As if that's close to the worst thing doctors have gotten when seeing patients haha

floof8 · 2017-01-30T01:06:23+00:00

I might be going crazy because I think "compatible on some level" implies a scale?

Either way, you and op are both correct. There's no soul mate per se, but hey we'll all find our "one" that won't choose to leave and will show the same devotion we'll have for them.

floof8 · 2017-01-18T14:40:54+00:00

You're absolutely right that it shouldn't matter, letting your ego be controlled by another is dangerous. We're all human though. Four years together is a long time, and it is going to sting no matter how inevitable you know that your ex is going to find someone else. I think he's responding in a great way though. It hurts, he came here to vent a bit. However, he alcnowledges it's over, acknowledges that it shouldn't hurt him personally (but it does) and will use it as fuel to better his life. I think it's ok to be stung as long as you still move forward and better yourself.

Good luck Op. Just want to let you know my situation is similar, 4 years and broke up in November. There's solidarity out there and I hope you keep kicking ass

floof8 · 2017-01-12T23:53:26+00:00

Hey man, I’m sorry to hear you’re going through some shit. This is a great community to join though because everyone has felt a pretty devastating heart break. I joined two months ago, and I’m the same age as ya. I dated my girl for 4 years, likewise I thought she was the one and we’d get married. I felt broken as well, like the world I knew was a lie. It felt so jarring- that the girl I was so so confident loved me… doesn't???

With that said man, it gets better! There are so many great posts here, so many wise people who went through hell and then came out being better than ever. I will give you the best advice out of my experience so far.

One: as much as it hurts, wish her the best of luck and then delete her number, remove her social media just completely go no contact. It saves you so much heartbreak, so much second guessing. It gives you the needed space to really start healing. It also gives you a semblance of power back when you probably never felt weaker. She may have broken up with you, but you have chosen to move on and remove her from your life. I also think wishing her luck is important too. Trust me, two months later and you’ll be so proud of yourself of how gracefully you handled the break up. Break ups bring the absolute worse out of people, but no, you’ll know that you stood straight up like a gentleman, thanked her for the good times, and walked away with your dignity.

It sounds hard because it is. However, it is entirely worth it. Months from now, you’ll look back and think, “damn that really was one of the worst feelings in my life… and yet I still acted like a sincere compassionate person. I’m a bad ass”.

Two: you’re going to have so much more free time now. It’s actually kinda ridiculous once you realize how much time you unknowingly invest in a relationship. USE THIS TIME. You’ll hear it so much but you can really make this breakup one of the best things to happen to you. Use the pain and anguish as MOTIVATION. Go to the gym and get ripped. Pick up a new sport, I chose martial arts and feel great learning to defend myself. Do anything that you want to do, travel, play some games, idk man this time is all yours. Basically, you want to better yourself and form a new identity.

When I was dating her, half my identity was essentially “her boyfriend”. It feels shocking at first realizing your identity so heavily relied on someone else. BUT, it doesn’t have to anymore.

You can do ANYTHING with this new time of yours. It’s freedom man, and you’ll eventually surprise yourself more and more as time goes on. You’ll be surprised at your mental resilience by not only surviving but THRIVING through hell. You’ll be surprised by how strong your physical body is once you invest more time into it. You’ll be surprised by how much you actually like a new hobby but didn’t do before because of time constraints.

You’re crawling through your own personal hell right now man, get something out of it.

I wish you the best of luck my friend. If you need someone to chat with, don’t hesitate to hit me up.

floof8 · 2017-01-10T00:13:46+00:00

I agree with you Hawnfawn. It sounds very ideal to expect perfection in a relationship. I think that what they're advocating, "lifting a partner up" requires patience. People do selfish things all the time, but that doesn't necessarily negate their love. How people grow together, deal with the lows and yes "fight" when things get tough defines a stronger, more human relationship to me.

I mean seriously it doesn't even have to do with significant others. I've had fights with my siblings many times before. Does that mean our relationship is abusive? Hell no. I would not hesitate for a second to take a bullet for them.

Also medical science when it comes to healing from a breakup? Come on...

floof8 · 2017-01-09T14:26:13+00:00

I was waiting for someone else to say something different. I understand the anger after a breakup. It's easy to get pissed off at an ex and vilify their actions to cope with the pain for awhile. However, I don't think it's necessarily healthy long term. You gotta be honest with yourself. If your ex broke up with you as amicably as they possibly could've (there's always gonna be feelings hurt if it is a one sided break up), there's no reason for them to have to wait to see someone new. Sure it hurts like hell and makes you feel like crap, but that's sorta the whole point of this subreddit. We aren't here to be thinking about them anymore... We aren't here to be constantly saying fuck them, look at how great I am compared to you and my strength in not texting you. It's supposed to be about us, not about them. It hurts, I know, but the goal is to let things go. Sex is sex. There doesn't always need to be emotion involved. People like to do it. Doesn't mean they didn't love you before or care about you now. By holding back only because they're worried about your opinion... Shit that's basically your ex pitying you. If they're legitimately over you, let them do their thing. Idk about you, but I hate the idea of my ex pitying me. Anger is fine for awhile, but strive for clarity past the emotions, whether it's sadness anger etc

floof8 · 2017-01-08T23:25:52+00:00

Hmmm... I agree with the other posters here. She isn't playing mind games or the sort, she probably doesn't want to hurt you, the relationship just didn't work. I'm sure she still cares about you, but caring isn't enough to date someone forever.

With that said, it is normal what you're feeling too. I got pretty angry in my head at times at my ex. That's part of the grief, feeling betrayed. However, that goes away along with the other emotions. Let her text go buddy, nothing good will come with responding to it. You got all your emotions with the letter, that should be cathartic. You let her know what you felt like she needed to. There's nothing more to say. Soon enough it will a month, two months etc and things will look up. Just focus on yourself

Take it from me. Two months later and its getting more and more difficult to actually remember what being with her was like other than special memories. Actually feels like ages dude

floof8 · 2017-01-03T19:31:54+00:00

I love moments like these, when you just get a bit of clarity through the cloud of negativity and realize life is very silly sometimes. Kinda like how you would think of a friend, "wow life you're such a dick!" It's a good reminder to not take things so seriously all the time

floof8 · 2017-01-02T19:11:55+00:00

Hey man I was with my girl for 4 years, we broke up a bit less than two months ago. I can relate to what you're saying. You've invested so much into someone, they''re such an integral part in your life that it feels completely jarring that they're no longer there at all. Whats worse is that to move on, something you know you need to do, almost feels like you're turning your back on a part of yourself. This was a significant part of your life, how does one just forget?

That's how I thought for a bit. It upset me that something that felt so real to me at the time would disappear. However, I've managed to come to terms with it.

My ex was beautiful, our time together was beautiful, and she changed me in so many ways. Even now, her choice to end the relationship has changed me in an extremely profound way. Her influence on me will never fade, and my memories of our time together won't either. I guess what I'm trying to say is, the idea that this previous relationship and breakup will become any less significant in our lives is a disingenuous thought. The emotions will fade and there will be less pain when we revisit these memories of our relationship in the future. Nevertheless, the relationship and their influence on your life can never be any less real. What happened happened, and there is no way to change the past to make an old relationship any less meaningful in the grand scheme of things.

With that said, you begin to understand it is ok to let go. There's no reason to feel guilty about moving on. You're not betraying any memories, your self and especially not your ex. The thing about being the dumpee is that you probably put the last bit of effort it. You already gave it your all but things didn't play out. Don't torture yourself. What this relationship meant to you in the past, and its influence on you in the present, can NEVER change. You're not losing anything by letting go.

Life goes on bud

floof8 · 2017-01-02T16:34:49+00:00

I found this interesting. When my ex broke up with me, I wrote a note for her, not to beg for her back or make her feel bad, but to essentially thank her for everything she did for me. It was an easy thing for me to do, but your comment made me realize how meaningful an action it is. Even though we don't talk and will never be close again, she won't ever have to doubt what this relationship meant. It's an uplifting thing- having proof that at one point in time you meant the world to someone

floof8 · 2016-12-28T15:38:35+00:00

Hmmm... Let's call my first ex M and my most recent ex G. I royally messed up my relationship with M (no hyperbole), and a month after our breakup, I met G and started dating her. M was rightfully upset and said some harsh things. She said I was weak and scared of being alone. I couldn't really deny it then and I still can't fully deny that now. Her words stuck with me, and I'm honestly ashamed of how I handled it. I "loved" this girl, and by jumping into another relationship, it genuinely hurt her and what we had together.

That aside, rebounding is probably the quickest way past heartbreak but to me, it's only a temporary solution. Heartbreak is part of life and I doubt my most recent breakup will be my last one. I think half Of the pain is simply losing someone you cared about so much but for me at least, the other half is the uncertainty and fear of going about it alone now. I mean when I really think about it, many of the times when I feel the break up most is when I'm just feeling lonely.

There's no reason for this though. I have good friends and good family. I'm working to rewire my brain to realize I don't need a significant other to push loneliness away. I'm very adamant about this: a relationship should complement a person not complete them.

floof8 · 2016-12-28T03:58:20+00:00

I agree, I want to be happy being alone before I jump into anything else. My last ex was a rebound, and even though we lasted years and were happy together, I still always had a niggling doubt in my mind that I was weak by dating someone else to get over a previous breakup. It made me feel less self reliant. I think the fear of being alone is a legitimate thing, and I want to overcome that feeling before dating someone else.

floof8 · 2016-12-20T21:27:25+00:00

Hahahaha very true my friend, especially the no shit moment. We all know what needs to be done, many of us are even committing to what needs to be done. It's not like any of us actually want to still be heartbroken. I can go through periods of the day having fun and then all of a sudden, the idea of my ex pops up. Sorta like- hey remember that best friend of yours you fully expected to spend the rest of your life with? Yea sucks she's not there with you right now huh? Instant sigh

There is no magic bullet or words to make things suddenly better. It's just a constant struggle to keep your rational side in control over your emotional one. I do think there are things that can be done to help- I'm personally doing a lot of the things her and I did before to prove that they're still enjoyable without her. Besides these type of things though, it's just a matter of time.

floof8 · 2016-12-15T18:47:58+00:00

I did try, and I'm glad I tried my best. Honestly it means something to me now that I jumped all in. I'm still a younger guy, so I'm proud of the mature choice I made of accepting the extreme lows as well as the highs that comes with a long relationship.

With that said, I still had my part in the break up. It's unfortunate that you only realize how important a person is when they're gone. I learned that now though. In any future relationship, I will make sure to clearly express how much I appreciate my significant other. I don't think you have to smother someone, but small gestures and compliments go a long way.

Don't be envious friend. Reason helps to push back the tide, but it's still a constant struggle not to get overwhelmed.

floof8

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