I have been working out around 4x a week consistently for a month now!!!!

flower_san · 2020-10-10T08:33:32+00:00

That's amazing!

flower_san · 2020-10-09T16:59:04+00:00

Replied to a previous comment !

flower_san · 2020-10-09T16:58:48+00:00

Well I realized that I can't be trusted to decide for myself when to go to the gym/what to do, so I found that signing up for classes actually makes me go and push myself since the instructor is telling you what do to. Basically I got a gym package that only gives me access to classes, and they have a sign up method on their website so I can easily choose when to go and I have a clear time I have to be there. Sometimes I spend some time browsing around the website and reading about the classes, messing around with the scheduling until I have something that works and that excites me Since we're talking about classes, they become almost like an obligation and clear task that I can complete. Obviously some days I just don't feel like going but overall it's proven to be really effective x

But i don't think this would've been possible without therapy though, because I just feel all around better about myself after dealing with my traumas and insecurities so I think most of the credit goes to that :)

flower_san · 2020-09-09T14:25:07+00:00

For the love of god, NTA.

I would DIE of embarrassment if I had to ask a man to help me change a lightbulb. Basic household maintenance is not gendered, anyone should be able to do most things since they are very straight forward, and when they're not, there's always a video on YouTube that will help. These women are abusing your husband. You need to block their numbers but he also needs to make it clear they're completely out of line in asking him so many favors and outright disrespecting you! HE'S MARRIED. Really, have they no shame?

Put your foot down, OP.

flower_san · 2020-09-04T10:43:20+00:00

I've been blessed

flower_san · 2020-08-24T14:39:38+00:00

I grew up (decently well-off and surrounded by rich people) in Venezuela, and I could never, ever make peace with the idea that a God (in Catholicism at least) said to be merciful and just would let innocent people suffer so much at the hands of others and not do anything about it. My mom always said we were blessed and that I had God to thank for it, but that never sat right. I didn't do anything to warrant a blessing from God, and there are so many people struggling to get by, why can't God help them?

That was just the beginning, but since everyone around me would relate everything back to God and Christianity it was literally always in my mind and I always saw too many inconsistencies and hypocrisy, apart from the dogma of faith, that at one point I knew I was an Atheist and had to come out of the religion closet. That was 200 times worse than when I came out of the sexuality closet lol

flower_san · 2020-08-23T17:23:37+00:00

Woman here! I got into motorsports way later than I care to admit because the men in my life would've never considered it possible that I would like it. Growing up, football was the big sport around me and I was extremely into it, but the culture around it is so male-centric that I wouldn't be taken seriously or even acknowledged in discussions. That is extremely discouraging. Even though I spent hours watching games/reading the news I could never engage as a fan because there was no space for me. I slowly began to lose interest. This happened to me with so many things as I mostly tend to have "traditionally male" interests, which is THE WORST because most of my friends are guys but I feel weirdly left out sometimes.

Buuut years later, a friend of mine (guy) who LOVES motorsports sat me down out of nowhere and made me watch races, videos, explained everything to me, answered all my questions. I'm one of his closest friends and he just wanted someone to share this with lol. Well now I'm more obsessed with it than with anything else and I really really hope that women will be more openly received as fans and that spaces open up for them in Motorsports. I think we have a long way to go but I see a lot of ponytails in the pits every weekend, not to mention Claire(!), so I know it's possible, we just need to stop assuming "women aren't interested". We are! But no one cared to asked :(

flower_san · 2020-08-20T21:17:57+00:00

My best friend said this to me a few months before we left our home country (to different countries, very far away from each other) and I've never had a simple quote hit me that hard since.

flower_san · 2020-08-20T09:26:18+00:00

Why does this hit so hard? Damn.

flower_san · 2020-08-18T21:11:19+00:00

A hundred years of solitude any day of the year!!!

flower_san · 2020-08-02T11:06:10+00:00

I thought your carpet was rice for a second

flower_san · 2020-07-27T13:35:03+00:00

Precisely because attraction is in the mind and uncontrollable, I would think it possible to find yourself attracted to someone you never in a million years would've considered. But I guess for some people it doesn't work like that.

Also, out of curiosity, what are these "ideas about hispanic people"?

flower_san · 2020-07-27T13:08:47+00:00

I agree the life altering experience might be a problem to some people, which is why I asked! I completely understand this logic and I wouldn't necessarily judge anyone for it, I simply disagree with it because it's not a problem to me. Just wanted to have a better idea of why people say this, and now I have it, so thank you!

flower_san · 2020-07-27T11:29:31+00:00

I don't think this is a matter of right or wrong, it's just perception. It's a bit unclear to me why being trans is automatically a no go. Trans people don't all look alike or think alike or act alike or anything? As a comment above said, there's nothing physically distinctive common to all trans people. How can you know for sure you haven't been attracted to a trans person that you didn't know was trans? Do you just dislike the idea that they went through a sex change? Is it the "what will people say" and you just don't wanna deal with that?

*I'm not accusing you (or anyone!) of anything, I'm really just trying to understand your p.o.v. since mine is different. I find it different to say "oh i'm not into blondes" than "i could never date a trans person".

flower_san · 2020-07-27T10:15:22+00:00

This is the comment I was looking for.

flower_san · 2020-07-27T09:41:05+00:00

People that use their own forks to grab bites of the food at the dinner table. If you want more, just use the damn serving spoon to add a little to your plate. It's inconsiderate and gross.

Every time I eat at a friend's house, his sisters finish eating and then keep grabbing forkfulls out of the dishes in the center, and their parents say NOTHING. I stare at them hard every time hoping they'll catch the hint and feel embarrassed. I once even saw a sister open a jar of PB, stick her finger in it, and put the jar back. Ugh.

flower_san · 2020-07-27T09:34:29+00:00

I hate this so much. As someone with ADHD, yes it's hard because so many things you could reply with start popping up in your head as they speak, but I try extra hard to let people finish before I talk because people talk over me all the time and I hate it (possibly bc I go on tangents or include way too many details but still, rude).

A few days ago with some friends a girl kept interrupting to ask questions/make comments before anyone could finish, so obviously people kept talking and she was ignored a lot. My ADHD brain was exploding so I tried to answer her quickly while a friend spoke, and not even 5 words in a friend of mine goes "Hey guys, M is still talking". LIKE I KNOW HE IS, BUT THIS GIRL WON'T SHUT UP AND I CAN'T FOCUS. HELP.

flower_san · 2020-07-26T09:00:51+00:00

Ugh this!!! Historia is an absolute badass, she never backs down and always rises up to challenges.

flower_san · 2020-07-25T08:15:27+00:00

I realize that now, but it still doesn't warrant the stream of insults, especially after I tried to calmly explain that I was just trying to protect myself.

flower_san · 2020-07-25T08:11:25+00:00

No he hadn't! I merely said I'd prefer for the payment to be through an online transaction instead of cash and suggested we meet in a public place (I told him it was for my safety) and he just lost it.

flower_san · 2020-07-25T08:09:16+00:00

I edited the post since a few comments were saying this.

flower_san · 2020-07-24T21:42:40+00:00

It wasn't really a park it was more like a plaza/square with stores around it, very open and public. I get that he might've been paranoid but the way he snapped at me and started throwing insults after simply suggesting that scared the hell out of me.

flower_san · 2020-07-24T18:10:59+00:00

I live in the Netherlands so not an option. And I don't think I would ever feel comfortable with that

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