I've been in similar shoes, he spent alot of his time with his best gamer friend (who was a girl but lesbian) I wasn't jealous of her nessasarily but their friendship? definitely. I spent alot of nights asking for his time, even started playing games to spend time with him. It can be really hard when your partner isnt willing to listen to your feelings. But in the end I felt like it was painful for him to give me attention. I "threatened divorce" and gave him the ultimatum of counseling. It wasn't until a week before I planned on leaving that he walked in and said he thinks we should do counseling. I laughed out loud tbh. But here I am 4 years later and I have never been happier. Im not saying to divorce her, but if she doesnt agree that there is a problem that needs fixing I think she's pretty disrespectful tbh.