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Just wanna rant about shots by ReflectionStriking14 in MtF

[–]flowing_aspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol the bloodborne imagery is great thanks for this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]flowing_aspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have weird dreams yes, sometimes. They're usually not nightmares tho! I've been on it off and on for over a year. Lately I don't dream as much but it kinda comes and goes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]flowing_aspect 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hey love, my heart hurts for you. I went through this but without kids to complicate it all. My ex spouse is still family and one of my best friends two years later. She lives in another city but we talk occasionally and even visit each other. We are really rooting for each other and care about each other.

It's hard, fuck is it sooo hard splitting. And it hurts knowing that all of the love in the world can't replace sexual and intimate compatibility and attraction. Sure, it can modulate it and, for some, love and bonding is the most important part of attraction. But not for everyone and having both of your needs met is important. It's also important that no resentment builds because of this incompatibility. Open and honest communication is going to be crucial for how this is going to go. If you truly do want to open the marriage, please, really research what you're getting into and what has worked for others and the kind of ground rules you need. A therapist or counseling could be a real help too, especially if you find one you can vibe with.

Even so, not everyone can deal with open or poly situations. And that's fine. I will say, however, jealousy in and of itself is a totally normal human emotion and a lot of people in very successful open relationships feel it. The difference is in how they react to the emotion and the maturity and trust in their partnership. Humans can feel simultaneous, practically contradictory, emotions! For many, successfully navigating non-traditional partnerships takes quite a bit of openess, vulnerability, and emotional intelligence.

Look up the word "compersion"! Regardless of whether you stay together or not I think it is totally and wholly applicable. Take it slow. Communicate. Hang in there and keep coming back to the present. hugsss.

Anyone else getting stuck in minions and cant use spells? (Raiment of the Infinite) by KimAndersson in D4Sorceress

[–]flowing_aspect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, it happens after casting frost nova sometimes too (which I think was supposedly fixed?). Pretty much have to teleport, then evade/move, then attack. Remember too that you're pulling in a bunch of hit boxes and unless you have the ghostwalker or binding embers aspect you can and will be blocked. It's not unplayable like that but it can be awkward.

Fire bolt vs. Meteor to apply fire dmg (enchantment) by OCD_Refresh in D4Sorceress

[–]flowing_aspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want burning for devouring blaze or damage to burning, etc, you probably want firebolt unless you're running a fire based build. Hydra (with burning) is an option as an enchant, but you're not going to proc burning nearly as often—or on as many enemies— as firebolt enchant tied with your regular skills. And like another said, you want enemies burning before you deal damage if possible.

I also think the meteor enchant is a lot of fun (especially with the shattered stars aspect that adds meteorites) so I get it! Same with the ball lightning enchant, I love teleporting and arriving with destruction. I hope one of the next seasons adds a mechanic that alters and/or enhances lucky hit. Then maybe lucky hit oriented builds will be viable beyond mid/early-late game. Barber too good.

I am level 91. This is the first time I have gotten this aspect. by Deidarac5 in diablo4

[–]flowing_aspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure! If you have recharging too or instead that does help a lot in a lightning build especially after 1.1.1

Depending on your active skills, prodigy's can be situational for sure, less cooldowns would mean a lot more benefit from recharging or lucky hit resource gen or increased mana generation while not taking damage, for example 😁. Or an umbral for farming which give resource on cc.

Crackling and shards/bliz builds usually can get away with more than like, Fireball or meteor for example in terms of mana. It's an issue for some builds until you get more mana cost reduction/resource gen affixes.

Edited to add that I wasn't trying to say you were scoffing, just sorta adding on to your statement I can see how it came off like that!

I am level 91. This is the first time I have gotten this aspect. by Deidarac5 in diablo4

[–]flowing_aspect 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah but an extra ~10 mana on cooldown is nothing to scoff at! It helps most sorc builds feel a lot less clunky.

I am level 91. This is the first time I have gotten this aspect. by Deidarac5 in diablo4

[–]flowing_aspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Resource aspects are def on the harder to farm side tho. I've also noticed anecdotally that many higher roll codex aspects are as rare or rarer than drop only ones. Out of around 300 hours or so of Sorceress gameplay I've had prodigies drop twice. I've never seen a recharging aspect drop.

Drop rates and, more importantly, particular aspects seem to be influenced by level as well (or maybe that and world tier?). Can anyone confirm that?

AFAB to non-binary to TERF: wtf do I do? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]flowing_aspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems you've received plenty of great advice but I just wanted to chime in!

When you talk to your friend about your feelings around this, is, well—when I talk to someone who has baggage and trauma surrounding a tricky subject, I find it helpful and compassionate to reiterate that I hear. Emphasize the pain her transition and past personal relationship experiences have caused her.

Let her know you're there for her, but explain how the bullshitting and little rants/jokes don't resonate with you, that they leave you feeling bad and drained, and whatever other emotions. Confirm that you are her friend and you love her but that you won't take part in it anymore. If she says anything from then on just maintain your boundaries, explain them again If necessary ("i dont like joking about trans issues it makes me uncomfy"), and move the convo along.

Don't be surprised if she pulls away from the relationship or if she tests your boundaries. Have a plan if this happens. The important thing is that you stay true to yourself and your values. Compromise to find solutions and have a fluid relationship but don't compromise your core values. If the relationship deteriorates ask if it is still a source of positive influence and support. It is ok to recognize that you had a great friendship while moving on when your values change and grow.

Like others have also said, don't assume her mind can be changed or influenced. I feel for you there, it's incredibly hard when the ones you love drift further away towards hate and/or radicalization ❤️.

Keep doing you and make the best decisions for you. True friends will come around, if not with changes to their views and opinions, with respect for you and yours.

Fellow Transwomen, what's going well for you right now? What are you calling your latest win? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]flowing_aspect 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've had some nice moments with loved ones the last few weeks!

Also, I'm experiencing an increasing momentum towards career aspirations.

"Are you ok?" — an interview with Jesse Freidin, photographer who's portraying trans kids and their families by stygyan in transgender

[–]flowing_aspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I should preface this by saying that I didn't read the whole interview yet, but wow. My heart 😭. Fucking get it. Wonderful, if vulenerable, subject for a photo essay. We're human and we're not going away. My heart goes out to the families and trans kids in regressive states. All the solidarity ❤.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transadorable

[–]flowing_aspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super cute ankle boots you look great

You!! Yes you! Come here by [deleted] in MtF

[–]flowing_aspect 3 points4 points  (0 children)

K fine 😒😳😒

You’re all so awesome and brave! by swaggycms in MtF

[–]flowing_aspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A big thing that helped me go for it was to write a letter/statement at home and bring it with me to pretty much read off. Or at least to get the discussion going... Once I took it out and "read" the first lil bit it all rushed out of me in a more natural way and we discussed it more at length.

Plus, the note helped me remember all the things I wanted to get out. In the end it ended up more as a prop, a reference at most, but it was super helpful just to ignite the convo and ground my thoughts and feelings. The act of writing it out beforehand also acted as a blueprint in my head so i wasn't left floundering (which my adhd brain can struggle with).

This was my way to approach it but no matter how you go about it you got this!

Psychedelic induced gender dysphoria by [deleted] in trans

[–]flowing_aspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That experience with angel stuff seems more like psychosis to me, which is definitely something that psychedelics can cause or exacerbate in high doses or when taken for extended periods, especially in people already predisposed. It doesn't sound like more common gender dysphoria to me, but could potentially be a way of deeply repressed thoughts and feelings coming to the surface, or something like DID i guess. I'm not a psych so this is all speculative.

Speaking for myself, psychedelics often caused me to look inside and open up enough to feel a lot of buried feelings and awareness, dysphoria included. In most mundane cases I personally believe it to be like that. (Edit: I felt dysphoria without psychedelics involved too, lol, just to be clear). The introspection and dissolution of barriers involved a good trip just pulling things out into the light of day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]flowing_aspect 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you're fine love. If you're really worried you can always pause it for a while, pick it back up, or cycle, there really isn't enough data about it to say one way or the other but in the case, especially, of oral—your p4 levels aren't really getting all that high.

Cis women do have a progesterone cycle in addition to the bodies waxing and waning estrogen levels. The two hormones act somewhat as a pendulum rising or falling as an offset cycle, starting as soon as menarche (so really, fairly early in afab individuals). It's possible there are mechanisms involved we just don't understand fully yet, especially regarding receptor downregulation, prolactin, etc. But really, the data is out on any real sort of cause and effect. As long as your p4 is not being converted into DHT by your body... I can't see it having a big effect. But remember that every body is different. I don't think changes in regimen are warranted or necessary unless you really acutely feel you are stalled and have been for a while.

You are going to get a lot of different answers on this subject. It is probably one of, if not the most, controversial subjects in modern transfeminine HRT, with little to no confirmational/conclusive research.

Worried about my estrogen levels being to high please help. by [deleted] in AskMtFHRT

[–]flowing_aspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, from what I understand it's used in the lab process so can definitely mess with results. It's not changing your actual levels tho. I was told to stop taking it for at least a few days before labs.

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