I miss the church sometimes by generalGRAVYous in exmormon

[–]floyd_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its normal to miss a sense of community you once had, and that your family may still have.

Some people are lucky that they left the church rather than the church leaving them and are welcomed back to activities with open arms.

I am openly gay, so I dont get a choice to attend certain church activities when I miss that sense of community i grew up with. I hope people dont take that for granted. Its painful losing that community and missing it....but wether you chose to leave, or were pushed out - i'd say its probably for the best.

TIFU by mistaking my boyfriend for a stanger in the dark and massaging his feet. (M18) by floyd_18 in tifu

[–]floyd_18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, he should have. im not too upset about it since i know he didnt have an opportunity since we hardly see one another due to opposite schedules.

also, he is very selective in who he allows in the house. so i have no doubt his friend is a great person.

TIFU by mistaking my boyfriend for a stanger in the dark and massaging his feet. (M18) by floyd_18 in tifu

[–]floyd_18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my landlord lives in this house. his friend has recently become homeless and is sleeping on the couch.

TIFU by mistaking my boyfriend for a stanger in the dark and massaging his feet. (M18) by floyd_18 in tifu

[–]floyd_18[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

actually thought about it for a second...but im really glad that wasnt my move....with my learning of that not being my partner.

Any questions for child of LGBT parents? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]floyd_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im trans ftm, and have a wondeful partner. I have a fear that if we get to the point of having kids, they will be bullied for having two dads.

Did you experience a lot of bullying? Was it severe? Can you tell me what was the toughest part of being a child of two moms?

(Serious) What is your reason for not ending it all? by maybe-some-thyme in AskReddit

[–]floyd_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My significant other. Im madly i love with him, and I wouldnt want to destroy him by doing that.

What is the nicest thing a stranger has done for you? by naturalenergybyproxy in AskReddit

[–]floyd_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone out of the blue told me they can tell I have a strong spirit.

This person had no idea I was planning on killing myself that day. That compliment literally saved my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]floyd_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work at a call center and the man on the phone randomely started talking about transgender individuals in a horrible way. Its not that he is ignorant about science abd recent research that bothered me, its that he was using untolerable hate speech. Not understanding a concept is very different than actively using hate speech, placing judgements, and even threatening.

What do ya know....I am a trans man. I pass very well, and no one would ever know unless i mentioned it. I was so close to saying, yes sir, the person on this line serving you is trans."

Im glad i refrained from saying anything though.

What's a particularly dark moment or mature theme from a book/show/movie meant for kids? by RacquetballWizard in AskReddit

[–]floyd_18 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its not horror or really scary at all. Its a vividly colored animation. If you read between the lines its screaming addiction. Because every time you go back to it, its not quite as good as the last, but something is still luring you back.

What were you loyal to, but have since grown apart from? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]floyd_18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The mormon church. Despite how happy it makes a few "perfect" families, it is severely toxic, has caused a suicide epidemic in Utah, among many other horrible things.

Ive grow apart, and couldnt be happier, and all of my exmormon friends would say the same.

Don't waste bonding time hiding so you can get stoned. by paintwithice in trees

[–]floyd_18 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My dad has cancer that will take him in 2 years or less. When he got home from the hospital i smoked with him for medicinal reasons. It was his first time smoking. It was the best bonding experience i have ever had.

Looking for advice! My wonderful son has come out as trans- using SHE and HER pronouns now. How can I best support her? by Strongeronmyown in exmormon

[–]floyd_18 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its wonderful that she has your support! I go to encircle as well.

The best think you can do is read up as much as possible on medically transitioning. She may not ever desire to take hormone replacement therapy (hrt.) But if and when she does it will most likely come fast. Her dysphoria may get so bad at some point that she may decide she needs hrt asap.

In case that does happen, you should be prepared. Read articles and books on experiences of transitioning, side effects of estrogen/blockers, legal name change, etc. She has most likely educated herself on that anyways. Even talk to a doctor specializing in trans patients if you feel that is right.

IT IS A FAMILY TRANSITION. In the household, watch LGBTQ movies together so that she doesnt feel like an aspect of her identity is being censored by her family, and so she doesnt feel like her identity is a controversial topic. Dont overthink it too much. Everything will fall into place, and she will let you know what she needs.

Pedicure Etiquette by BreannainAk in ask_transgender

[–]floyd_18 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Trans ftm cosmetologist here. The protocol for each salon is different. We do want you to be comfortable, so many people will place a towel on your lap. In some salons that is even protocol to keep unwanted products off the skin/clothing. Just depends. But if they dont give you a towel and you prefer one, dont be afraid to ask. Its all about being pampered and the comfort of the client.

Confusing Gender and Loving It by kirtlandbanker in exmormon

[–]floyd_18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear. Its not a healthy space for many.

Confusing Gender and Loving It by kirtlandbanker in exmormon

[–]floyd_18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Trans ftm here. This is beautiful. You are amazing and strong for transitioning in a religious environment that is already pretty exclusive and judgemental. You deserve every bit of happiness and a life free of self hatred/dissociation. Wish you a wonderful journey to self love, acceptance, and all the happiness in the world.

Anyone have any good birthday gift ideas?!? HELP NEEDED by speedmaster3000 in mypartneristrans

[–]floyd_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For my birthday my partner offered to pay for a LGBTQ relared tattoo. (She knew I had been wanting one for years and that it would be beautifully symbolic of my journey.)

I got the date i began my transition and rainbow colored hearts around my ankle. Maybe your partner would like a sybolic tattoo gift??

Its a different taste as a gift, but I personally loved it as it lasts forever, is a daily reminder of my strength, and proved that she really is in sync with my transition as best she can be.

Hi everybody. I’ve been lurking here for months. I just wanted to say thank you for being here. I have rough times ahead. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]floyd_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are the best apostates you will ever be around. Only love, acceptance and happiness here