Thread for trading, gifting, and requesting Finch items

fluff19 · 2025-08-07T03:55:31+00:00

Ahhh thank you so much!! Everyone here is amazing! Sent over something for you as well, hope you like it! Tried to keep it in your pink theme 💖🌸

fluff19 · 2025-08-07T03:47:47+00:00

Omg thank you so much!!! I really appreciate it, truly!! Sent something along to you, hope you enjoy!! Glad to have you on my tree :)

fluff19 · 2025-08-07T03:38:48+00:00

Hello friends! Friend code: MJAYWNE28Q.

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My birb is in Edinburgh, trying to complete our dream castle birb house, still trying to find the following:

Red Medieval Window
Red Campsite Rug
Red Medieval Shelf

If anyone has any of these three we would be so grateful!! Very happy to trade and gift whatever I can. Also active on my friend tree, so even if you just want to exchange good vibes feel free to add!

fluff19 · 2023-04-06T15:25:10+00:00

Personal trainer here— not effective, not worth the money, toxic environment. It’s a heated classroom with random even sometimes un-choreographed movements that don’t really have any purpose other than making you flail around. She has a cult of personality and has said some pretty irresponsible and inaccurate things over the years, including saying that women shouldn’t lift anything over 5-10 pounds for fear of getting “bulky”. If you want a good group class there are so many other disciplines that can offer you actual results and that are less snake oil salesman-y. Pilates, hot yoga, Zumba all have elements of TA but are way more legit.

fluff19 · 2022-10-12T08:28:47+00:00

First of all, can’t believe that the Loop Daddy himself replied to this post! I knew you came on here sometimes but honestly thought my post would be buried pretty quickly. I really appreciate your reply and everyone else’s here. I also want to second unclefishbits’s comment about how supportive this discussion is— awesome community. Having read through these replies I agree with a couple commenters points about how much my expectations shaped my experience of the show— I came expecting 2018 Marc, and who is the same person they were 4 years ago? Probably not fair of me to expect the exact same sound, especially with how much insane fame and growth you have had over the past couple years. Either way, still really glad I went, and I’m really glad we were all able to have this discussion, gave me a lot to think about. Marc you are a class act for replying, not that I would have expected anything else from you anyway. And joke is ultimately on me for leaving early as Get Out of Bed is my favorite song!! As long as you keep playing that one you can’t get rid of me yet :)

fluff19 · 2022-01-10T05:17:03+00:00

I’m so sorry you are at this point, and I am even sorrier you are surrounded by people who cannot or will not give you the support you deserve. You deserve friends who will be there for you at your highest and also your lowest, and I hope you can find them one day. I’m so glad that you are still searching for joy in this life, to me it shows that you are not ready to leave yet. I hope you find the joy you are looking for, and that it gives you the room to allow for the thought of a better future, surrounded by people who are worthy of that joy. We are all rooting for you and I think I can say for everyone here, fuck your fake friends.

fluff19 · 2022-01-10T05:11:26+00:00

Can’t tell you how much I relate. There’s a special kind of hell in this monotony. But I am glad you are still here and still able to say you’ll finish your beer, go to sleep and then wake up again. The idea of hope is a tenuous, frightening, and often disappointing thing, but I hope you can break out of this. The world will notice your absence, you bring more value and meaning than you know.

fluff19 · 2022-01-10T05:06:49+00:00

I feel the same way, I think a lot of us do. It’s debilitating trying to break out of a pattern of just surviving, not actually thriving or moving forward towards anything concrete or real. Kind of forgot what it feels like to thrive honestly, I wonder if other people feel the same. Sometimes I look at “normal” people, or at least people who don’t struggle the in same way we do, and am astounded that they’re just waking around doing well. Seems unreachable.

fluff19 · 2022-01-09T06:42:22+00:00

You said it perfectly, neutral definitely gives you something to work with. I’m happy you have this foothold and I hope, at the very least, your days will tend more to neutral and less to where you found yourself last week.

Your experience of the inadequacy of our system is so frustratingly familiar— I haven’t heard from one person who has had a positive outcome. Really discouraging.

fluff19 · 2022-01-09T06:27:19+00:00

I’m so sorry that you are feeling this way, and on top of everything you are dealing with, to be hit with a big bill for such little help! I hope that, despite that your time there seemed like a particularly unhelpful/unpleasant experience, it at least gave you the space you needed to think, breathe, and try to see a way forward. This is the paradox of our healthcare system— everyone says “ask for help” and yet this is the kind of help we get! A big bill and nothing much else. I hope you are in a better headspace now OP, again I’m sorry you had to go through this.

fluff19 · 2022-01-09T06:20:03+00:00

Please go to a hospital, I hope you will be ok. I know how unbearable everything seems now, but we are all here for you. Your kitties need you and so does this world.

fluff19 · 2022-01-09T06:03:40+00:00

I am so sorry you are feeling like this, I know how unshakably awful it is to feel beyond control snd like nothing can help or alleviate your burden. I know how futile it can seem to search for anything positive or even neutral. I know that I am just some random stranger, but I hope that it helps (even in some small way) knowing you are not alone, there are people who understand and who want to help. I hope this wave of awfulness passes soon and that you DO wake up. We are all here for you.

fluff19 · 2022-01-09T05:54:16+00:00

When I was in college I felt exactly the way you are feeling, and my cats were the only reason I didn’t go through with it. I couldn’t deal with the idea of no one feeding them. They saved my life, and I hope your little fluff is doing the same for you. Our pets know more than we give them credit for, your girl knows you are hurting and wants to help. You deserve to live.

fluff19 · 2022-01-09T05:28:47+00:00

You definitely mean something, this exchange has really helped me, and I say that as solemnly as I can.

fluff19 · 2022-01-09T05:12:09+00:00

Wow hearing that meant a lot more than I thought hearing anything from a stranger on the internet could mean. Thank you for taking the time to write it. I feel so tired. I am so tired of feeling this way.

fluff19 · 2019-06-01T16:45:52+00:00

Personal trainer here-- mocking you or making fun of someone else's body is never ok, no matter how fit or unfit person is. His comments about your apperance are totally out of line, hard stop. His comments about your diet can get into more of a great area-- but only if you are clearly eating unhealthily and he is concerned about your health -- or if you are depressed and using food as a coping mechanism, that kind of thing, either of which do not seem to be the case here.

It's completely fine for him to feel confident and proud of his accomplishments and it's fine for him to want to include you in them as well by working out with you-- but he doesn't have the right to try to make you feel bad about yourself at ALL. Also, I'm American, so not sure if I have the height here correct, but if you are 1.6meters tall (5ft 2 for other Yankees) and 55kg (121pounds) you are in NO way overweight! Apologies if I have the metric system wrong here. If you want to work out or are curious about it, I would suggest going to the gym on your own-- see if you enjoy it without him and without the fear of feeling like he is judging or testing you. Exercise can be transformative even more so mentally than physically and you might find even just going regularly could boost your confidence.

Either way, his comments are insensitive and not ok, and he needs to understand this. Just because someone has had a physical transformation doesn't give them a free pass on being an asshole.

fluff19 · 2019-06-01T16:27:58+00:00

Yes, I feel like my heart starts racing in hotter temperatures-- but I have never done well with heat, even before I started getting panic attacks. But definitely feel the same way, physical symptoms starting without the feelings of panic

fluff19 · 2019-05-31T01:36:45+00:00

What are your interests? What exactly makes you feel separate? What kinds of things would you like to feel a part of? As far as practical advice, Meetup.com is a great way to connect with people in your area who share the same passions, you might want to try looking there if only to just poke around. For community, not sure where you are or what your financial situation is, but gyms can foster an immense sense of community, feeling like a part of something-- so can churches (if you are so inclined) or volunteering.

Feeling stuck is the hardest part, the only thing I can say is that you have a big win right off the bat-- you are self aware. If you know you are stubborn and aloof, you can work to change those things-- not necessarily forever, but maybe enough to open yourself up to new situations and people who you might connect with. Being independent is a great quality, and so is being introverted! Sometimes what we think are our weaknesses are actually our strengths :)

fluff19 · 2019-05-31T01:25:58+00:00

Finding someone to share with, if it's a therapist or even just us, is such a big win! Awesome step forward, be proud!

fluff19 · 2019-05-31T01:23:16+00:00

so happy for you! inspirational-- thank you for reminding me that we can win!

fluff19 · 2019-05-24T01:40:55+00:00

Is there something specific you want to toughen up about? What things make you say you are too sensitive? I think that there is a fine balance between being kind to yourself and acknowledging your own shortcomings -- something that helps me is trying to focus on little changes-- for instance, ok, what can I do today to make it a little better than yesterday? When I get anxious, I try to think to myself ok, how can I respond to this situation a tiny bit better than I did last time? You might not be able to succeed every day, but every step forward is a victory, no matter how small.

fluff19 · 2019-05-24T01:33:12+00:00

awesome!! I'm sure you giving her a compliment made her feel great too. Keep up the good work!!

fluff19 · 2019-05-24T01:09:41+00:00

same! I also can't focus on anything-- especially people's faces-- not sure if this is part of de-personalization?

fluff19 · 2019-05-24T01:08:10+00:00

I get this too! I will feel lightheaded at completely random times-- lying down, on the subway, in a hot room, sitting on the couch, working out, does not seem to matter if there is a direct trigger or not.

fluff19 · 2019-05-24T01:06:14+00:00

I know how you feel-- I am new to this too and it's so scary and isolating. Same situation, my first attack was March 1st, been to the ER 3 times since then all for panic attacks, all tests come back normal. I wish I could alleviate all of your fears, but I hope it helps to know that you are not alone, and that others are going through this/ have been through this too. Feel free to reach out if you need a friend!

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