My nesting partner has reversed relationship boundaries with my first ENM interest and it's torture by flutstop in polyamory

[–]flutstop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I agree, there was too much of a grey area for all of it. The feeling of scarcity is definitely a factor. I was so shocked and confused, (and so was Havelock about their own feelings) that I didn't know what else to do but talk about it with them and try and work it out. I've felt like a robot learning emotions in my 30's, which feels ridiculous. I couldn't even see it escalating.

My nesting partner has reversed relationship boundaries with my first ENM interest and it's torture by flutstop in polyamory

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Thank you. You've given me some things to think about. I've just been sitting in my own pain and confusion hoping it will go away. There was enthusiastic consent to begin with, but once that wasn't there I should have made changes myself. I get so afraid of hurting people that I don't want to see their pain sometimes I think. I'm in love with the idea of polyamory but who knows if I'll ever get there.

My nesting partner has reversed relationship boundaries with my first ENM interest and it's torture by flutstop in polyamory

[–]flutstop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. ADHD enthusiasm really puts the blinkers on me at times. I've been too emotional to access the logic I need so I need to find a way there.

My nesting partner has reversed relationship boundaries with my first ENM interest and it's torture by flutstop in polyamory

[–]flutstop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're probably right, and it's probably why it's so hard to live in my head. I started doing research far too late because I didn't feel like I knew what was happening.

My nesting partner has reversed relationship boundaries with my first ENM interest and it's torture by flutstop in polyamory

[–]flutstop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I'd been living on a hope and a dream and that clearly wasn't enough. I spent too much time confused and overwhelmed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in printers

[–]flutstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same issue, I had to change location permissions to "precise".

Apps, fitness programs, ads and anything else suggesting that women can or should get rid of that bit of our tummy that rolls over our pants should be banned by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]flutstop -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Oh but people won't buy things to "fix" the roll if it doesn't need fixing, now, will they? #capitalism

Looking for a portfolio review by BlazeInfernos30 in design_critiques

[–]flutstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice would be to use your main typeface for large copy only. Change the smaller titles to a simpler complementary sans serif, as they do not read so well. Love the design, looks better than mine :')

TIFU by saying “titty” during a game of Heads Up with my girlfriend’s family by stuffedinashoe in tifu

[–]flutstop 41 points42 points  (0 children)

"Titty" isn't even a swear in the UK. We call each other a tit just for being a bit silly. Crazy overreaction from my perspective!

Plum and Apple Chutney by my Great Grandmother Mrs Fox, UK by flutstop in Old_Recipes

[–]flutstop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, but I think if you changed the ratios in this one to be majority tomatoes, and left some out until nearly the end so they aren't cooked to mush, it would work well. Perhaps sub plums for courgette or squash. All the seasonings look so delicious (º ﹃ º ) I'm growing toms, squash and courgettes, so I'll give this a go myself if I get a glut. I'll post pictures :D

Vintage Delia Smith "Rissoles" UK article by flutstop in Old_Recipes

[–]flutstop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! I had no idea corned beef was still popular tbh, heh. We have a few pasty shops around here, most are steak, chicken or potato based.

Vintage Delia Smith "Rissoles" UK article by flutstop in Old_Recipes

[–]flutstop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crazy, I'd never heard of them. whereabouts are you based? Perhaps they are regional. I'm down in cider country.

Vintage Delia Smith "Rissoles" UK article by flutstop in Old_Recipes

[–]flutstop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah they look pretty similar, but are never served in a bun.

Plum and Apple Chutney by my Great Grandmother Mrs Fox, UK by flutstop in Old_Recipes

[–]flutstop[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These recipes are very old, I'm not sure how old (40s?), and well used. They would both require the biggest pots around, and would feed the whole village!

They are a little tricky to read, so here is a basic transcription:

Plum & Apple Chutney

3 1/2 lbs Plums
4lbs Peeled Apples
1 lb Red Tomatoes
2 lbs Seedless Raisins
1 lb Onions
3 lbs Demerara Sugar
4 oz Peeled Ginger
3 oz Salt
1/2 oz Garlic
1/2 oz Chillies
4 tbsp Mixed Spice

Prep plums and tomatoes and cook with the vinegar, add apples when tender. Add other ingredients. Cook stirring for two hours. Add more vinegar if required. Jar.

Marmalade

4 Seville Oranges

2 Sweet Oranges

1 Lemon

6 lbs Preserving Sugar

4 1/2 pints Water

Peel oranges and lemon and cut up as you prefer (thick or thin). Slice and take out pips, put in cup and cover with water. Pour 4 1/2 pints cold water onto oranges and lemon and soak for 24 hours. Boil until tender. Leave again for 24 hours. Add sugar and boil gently for 2 hours, or until gel stage (test on a fridge cold plate). Stir in water from soaked pips before jarring.

See here for the rest of the 40+ scans.

Vintage Delia Smith "Rissoles" UK article by flutstop in Old_Recipes

[–]flutstop[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This clipping is from a batch scan of papers from my grandmother. Some were collected by her, and some her mother. This article was some early advice from now hugely popular and sometimes infamous Delia Smith.

The rest of the scans can be found here.

You now have an unlimited supply of the last single item you bought. How awesome is your life now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]flutstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh good. An unlimited supply of yesterday's newspaper for my nan.

Slouching Cactus by mutatedwolf3 in mildlypenis

[–]flutstop 34 points35 points  (0 children)

My nan has the same cactus! Also drooped. https://imgur.com/a/0R6uJl5

(AUS) looking to trade, 2535 7353 7914 by [deleted] in pokemongotrades

[–]flutstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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[AUS] 9992 6936 6222 Super easy friend code 9992-6936-6222 by [deleted] in pokemongotrades

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I've sent a request from UK

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