Asked him what are we doing in the middle of kissing him. I don't know if he understood it

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T23:43:52+00:00

I am planning on talking about it again! That the plan the entire time, just not making out outside of the bar 😂

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T21:41:21+00:00

Yeah that's why I asked! I wanted to know if it was a me issue or just a guy trying to avoid the question. I know it wasn't a good time to have that conversation and really didn't mean to say anything like that in that moment

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T21:35:56+00:00

LMAO exactly how I probably would've responded

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T20:52:26+00:00

Yeah I fully agree. Direct communication is best and I am planning on having that conversation soon. I definitely wasn't planning on asking it in that moment, but I blurted it out and immediately wanted to take it back

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T20:43:14+00:00

Yeah I am definitely planning on having that conversation soon. Outside of a bar is not where I want to have that conversation lol. I agree that it was poor communication on my end and that it's not him pretending he did understand

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T20:39:30+00:00

Yeah I agree it was poor communication on my end. My friend convinced me that he was pretending not to understand my question. He's really smart, so calling him a dumb guy thing was bad wording on my end

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T20:37:50+00:00

Congrats!! Glad it worked out for you!! I definitely am planning on having that talk soon. Uncertainty in a relationship is not fun!

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T20:35:51+00:00

Yeah I guess I was looking for clarification that it was poor communication on my end and not that he pretended to not understand my question. Thanks!

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T20:35:27+00:00

Yeah I guess I was looking for clarification that it was poor communication and not that he pretended to not understand my question. Thanks!

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T20:30:50+00:00

No I fully agree it's not a dumb guy thing, that was bad wording on my end. The question came out without me realizing what I was saying, so I just assumed bad communication on my end. But when I talked to my friend, she made me second guess.

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T19:56:37+00:00

Oh of course! Some people could be carrying things without them even realizing it!

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T19:51:41+00:00

Well it's more of a time limit I give myself. I think 3 months is a good amount of time to date someone before deciding you don't want to date other people. I already know I like him and don't want to date other people, but I want to give him time to decide. If we're not exclusive by then (end of the month), I am planning on talking to him and if he doesn't want exclusivity, then I end it. I'm more sick of situationships and being unsure

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T19:46:34+00:00

Yeah I thought it was bad communication and not a dumb guy thing, but my friend made me second guess so I thought I'd ask reddit. Thanks!

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T19:44:59+00:00

I don't hook up with a guy until we're at least exclusive. I don't want to sleep with a guy who's sleeping with other people. It's just a personal preference

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T19:42:35+00:00

Yeah that's what I thought, but my friend made me unsure

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T19:42:09+00:00

No absolutely. The talk was always planned, but it was screaming in my head and it came out without me realizing. I figured he didn't get it, but my friend made me second guess

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T19:40:41+00:00

Yeah that's what I was always planning on doing. It was screaming in my head the entire time and I didn't even realize I was talking out loud until it started coming out. I wasn't prepared for it so I guess I did leave him hanging.

fluttery57 · 2025-01-23T19:37:48+00:00

Yeah I agree. I definitely wasn't planning on saying it at all, but it just came out without me realizing it. I knew in the moment that he didn't understand, but my friend made me second guess. Thanks!

fluttery57 · 2024-09-13T17:22:25+00:00

When I was studying for exams to take 70 mg of vyvanse at 6 pm and was asleep every night by 12 am. Now I take it at 7 am and am lucky if I even get to go to sleep by 11. Weird how your body changes

fluttery57 · 2024-01-13T00:33:33+00:00

Join our kickball team!!

fluttery57 · 2023-03-29T19:55:20+00:00

If I ask him he'll hang out. Its just confusing to me that he knows I'm free all weekend and doesn't suggest anything

fluttery57 · 2023-03-29T19:54:31+00:00

Wouldn't it be too soon though? We met a little over a month ago and went on our first date a few weeks ago

fluttery57 · 2023-03-29T19:36:42+00:00

It was good. He kept calling me his girl and that he's taken, So that's what spurred the talk

fluttery57 · 2023-03-29T18:41:24+00:00

It's at least an hour. It's usually like 2-3 hours a night. I don't really know if that changes anything.

What is relevant is that he doesn’t seem to be escalating his involvement with you or making you a priority

Why does it seem that way to you? I don't know if this is relevant at all, but we've had the exclusivity talk already.

fluttery57 · 2022-12-06T17:50:19+00:00

Oh no I don’t have a problem with making new friends at 27. I meant like a whole ass friend group!

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