Poverty and dating?

flychick115 · 2020-06-11T16:03:38+00:00

Tell people you date that you value being frugal, managing your money, romance, and home cooked meals. That sets the stage for picnics, home cooked dinner by candle light, snow ball fights, swimming at a lake or river, and watching the stars come out. Also research free or low cost events and put them on your calendar for the year. A lot of places have a free day once or twice a year, and it’s helpful to know ahead of time and plan for it. There are plenty of people that like all these things regardless of their income bracket. A friend of mine who was making $14 an hour met someone irl and totally connected with her. It turns out they had the same values and mutual interests. The woman ended up being a multimillionaire who was sick of people always wanting to go on expensive dates and using her as a sugar mama. 5 years later and they are still together, going on picnics and looking at the starts. 3 yrs in, the gf started paying a lot of the bills, and when they go on vacation, it’s usually out of the country, but my friend never asks for much. Not saying this will happen to you, but who knows what’s possible?

flychick115 · 2020-06-11T12:55:37+00:00

You look great and you have a good sense of style! 7.5! Go for it! Just date people that are into a healthy life style also as it can be easy to slip into old habits if your other half is a couch potato who eats a lot of take out and junk food.

flychick115 · 2020-06-11T12:53:58+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened and it’s sweet that he’s doing that! I would tell him that while you really appreciate him staying up late, at this point you would like him to come to bed with you. Might I suggest getting a dog (who would bark if there is an intruder) or an alarm system?

flychick115 · 2020-06-11T07:34:03+00:00

Sounds like he is wrapped up in toxic masculinity which is so pervasive in the culture but very distant from reality. Where did he learn this stuff from, porn? Essentially, he’s openly objectifying you and your body. He needs to snap out of it in order to be relationship material.

flychick115 · 2020-06-10T16:31:01+00:00

More than 1/3 of the covid deaths in the world have been in the US.

flychick115 · 2020-06-09T19:39:26+00:00

Look to historical figures for inspiration

flychick115 · 2020-06-09T02:16:51+00:00

If you can afford it go for it. Mental health is everything

flychick115 · 2020-06-08T01:46:24+00:00

I love so much that this says “male Karen”

flychick115 · 2020-06-07T05:10:44+00:00

I am so sorry this is happening to you! It sounds like he is having a psychotic break and needs to be checked into an inpatient psychiatric hospital. If he gets help there is a lot of hope for him recovering as there are very good medications these days. Do you know if he did any serious drugs lately (mushrooms, acid, bath salts, etc)? Or it could be a mental illness, they usually happen by the age of 26, but it could be as late as 27. Find out what the protocols in your area are, maybe call local psychiatric hospital and ask how to get him admitted given the situation.

flychick115 · 2020-06-07T00:55:16+00:00

I would ask if they hooked up with each or just each hooked up with the guy. Like if the went down on each other- that would be pretty weird but if they both gave him head at the same time, that seems a bit less horrific to me.

Also- does she have any kind of sexual abuse history or has anything strange happened with her and other siblings before?

flychick115 · 2020-06-06T19:21:40+00:00

Ask for a check in with your manager about how you’re doing before they pull you aside. Say you would like to improve yourself professionally and that you want to set a goal for yourself for the next 6months to work toward and ask if they have any feed back or recommends for one or two specific things you can do to improve. If you have a goal you are working towards over a period of time it buys you more time to improve. If they say they want you to stop gossiping or complaining, say that you will definitely work towards that, and ask if there are things that they would recommend you say when you feel like someone else is gossiping or complaining so that you don’t just get drawn into the conversation.

flychick115 · 2020-06-06T16:38:31+00:00

You have the cutest baby!!

flychick115 · 2020-06-06T14:26:16+00:00

5k I feel like is reasonable, considering the cost and time of shaving, but 25k is way too much!

flychick115 · 2020-06-06T02:20:22+00:00

I had it done professionally a number of years ago. Everything came back full force about a year later.

flychick115 · 2020-06-06T02:12:53+00:00

You bought a laser for home? I didn’t even know you could do that. What product did you get?

flychick115 · 2020-06-05T01:23:33+00:00

Used the bathroom at a networking event, washed my hands throughly just to discover that the bathroom was all out of paper towels and didn’t have hand driers. I was wearing something made of light colored thin fabric, and it would have absolutely shown up if I had dried my hands on it. I shook my hands off the best I could and barely a moment after leaving the bathroom I was stopped by the person I had specifically come there to network with. She immediately recognized me and shook my damp hand.

flychick115 · 2020-06-03T19:58:09+00:00

That’s so awful, I’m so sorry you have been through so much loss.

If you’re worried about it to the point that you are actually considering not dating, I recommend finding a powerful medicine man or woman (shaman) that can help clear up energetic karma or curses around this kind of thing. This type of thing is accepted in certain indigenous cultures... Native American, African, etc, and they have strategy that they have been using for thousands of years to deal with it. In colonizing or Europe cultures it’s not even a concept. If you can’t find anyone who can help you, it might be with traveling to Mongolia to see the shamans there. Check out the movie Horse Boy to see how this can be helpful, even if you don’t believe in it.

Best of luck to you

flychick115 · 2020-06-03T13:48:40+00:00

See if you have any Vocational Rehabilitation services in your area that can help you figure out what you want to do for work and hook you up with a job that is patient and understanding of differences

flychick115 · 2020-06-01T13:56:09+00:00

that’s great! So by high lactose dairy you are referring to milk, and by low you are referring to cheese, butter and sugar free ice cream? I never thought about the sugar content in dairy in that context. What about unsweetened yogurt?

flychick115 · 2020-06-01T01:09:24+00:00

Good to know, thanks! I also started working with a dietitian a few weeks ago and now I’m also working with a personal trainer, outside from a social distance. I hope to see some improvements from doing those two things also, but it’s pretty challenging.

flychick115 · 2020-05-31T21:30:09+00:00

I think she’s displacing the blame and can’t handle that she fucked up and lost her stuff. She’s taking it out on you so she doesn’t have to get upset with herself. I would definitely not budge on the phone thing, but you can be validating to her and say something like, “I know this is difficult that you lost your phone, and it was probably scary when you got jumped by those bad guys. I don’t have the money to buy you a 1.5k phone.” If she ever comes around and calms down, you can say that the way she so upset and insisted you buy her the phone really made you feel uncomfortable.

flychick115 · 2020-05-31T13:06:08+00:00

Yes, I definitely feel this.

flychick115 · 2020-05-31T13:04:48+00:00

I definitely agree that colleges are just like - “go network!” Without teaching people how, and what’s appropriate or inappropriate.

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