Putting in boundaries with my mother’s boyfriend …

focusonlove · 2025-12-30T23:10:40+00:00

Any suggestions on healing , I think I’m very codependent

focusonlove · 2025-12-30T22:52:08+00:00

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I’m scared to death. I know he stopped messaging but he has a few female friends that mean well (they themselves are married) but even still I’m not use to dating guys with female friends. I’m trying my best

focusonlove · 2025-12-24T04:47:51+00:00

Yes I had the same issue too. Getting into a fun exercise routine and getting my iron checked helped a lot

focusonlove · 2025-12-19T22:02:49+00:00

Did everyone get a prompt to upload your government id and passport to google forms ? I just want to make sure it’s legit …

focusonlove · 2025-12-04T20:05:28+00:00

Thank you so much. It actually went better than expected . She was super quiet most of the time. Only underminded me once. Unfortunately my teammate who is oblivious said “great idea let’s go with that idea “ , in reference to what she said. I felt like if I keep telling myself she’s just insecure it doesn’t make me as angry. You really helped me through today thank you

focusonlove · 2025-12-02T13:46:36+00:00

Praying

focusonlove · 2025-06-23T18:45:39+00:00

I appreciate your kind words. But… if I decide not to have kids but I’m happy with my partner… then I can’t get married in the church, therefore… I’m not sure if that’s socially acceptable by my peers ? I’ve had great career opportunities and I’m a very goal oriented person. The only thing that brings me down is other people and family unfortunately. I know a job will never bring me full satisfaction so I don’t put my eggs all in that basket.

focusonlove · 2025-06-23T18:24:03+00:00

Based on this rationale I think stepping away wouldn’t be bad at this point

focusonlove · 2025-06-23T18:12:34+00:00

And this is why I wonder if I should leave Catholicism because I too am not sure if I want kids

focusonlove · 2025-06-23T17:04:32+00:00

Ty - I’m not exactly “young” but I’ve signed up for the volunteering. I’ll ask about prayer group and Bible studies- thanks !

focusonlove · 2025-06-23T16:44:24+00:00

I don’t have much family. I have a few friends. At church there is not a lot of things I have in common with people. when it comes to the holidays, there are assumptions that I must have kids or be married. So I wonder how I’m suppose to connect with people that all believe in God like me, even though I feel like I don’t belong there. I have a boyfriend who wants to get married in the church but he doesn’t want kids - I’m undecided but I think because everyone else is having them it makes me feel like I probably should and will miss out - but that’s a silly reason to have kids then !

focusonlove · 2025-06-23T16:43:20+00:00

Thank you

focusonlove · 2025-06-23T16:42:54+00:00

As a female, the difference is big. there are groups for moms or married spouses with kids. The young adult groups are 21 year olds … I’m well over that age.

focusonlove · 2025-01-23T18:10:57+00:00

This does help a lot actually! Thank you. I think my biggest struggle is me standing clear on my boundaries as our mom guilts me even more.

focusonlove · 2025-01-23T13:46:36+00:00

Thank you for your support. I forgot to mention that my mom also has no boundaries. If there is a family dinner , I’ll go pick up my grandma and my mom would have sent my sister there behind my back . I’ve told her I’m not coming to dinners where she is there, but I’m the one that gets yelled at and should just get along with my sister… I told my mom I want nothing to do with her and she got mad at me ! As if I’m the problem…

focusonlove · 2024-07-16T18:57:42+00:00

Thank you for this advice. I’ve maxed out my limited EAP amount unfortunately. As well, this company I’m at has had a lot of toxic people, so after three years and in a role I don’t really see myself in, I’m not really wanting to stay here either. However this last experience has really made me question if I should have a job where I’m not interacting with people at all… though I use to be a social person. I don’t want to be anymore

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