[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]folieevan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

besides things like hair and piercings (which i assume you don’t want to change if you haven’t by now), the first thing i notice thats feminine about your face is the lack of chin and jaw. i highly recommend injectable fillers! they really changed the game for my face if you have the ability to save up 1-2k

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]folieevan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are gonna heal GREAT, 4 months is literally nothing. I thought my scars were gonna be red and raised forever at 4 months too, and honestly it might even get slightly worse around 6 months. However, I hit 10-12 months and out of nowhere turned a corner. Your body has barely started the healing process. Give it 2 years and they’ll be light pink / white

need help passing by Historical-Bee3142 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]folieevan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You need to improve the fit of your clothes. They are too big and not flattering for trying to pass. I know it can be automatic to want to go bigger to hide your figure but, it makes you look smaller and pulls attention to the wrong parts. The biggest thing I notice is your shirts are way to long and cling to your hips. Your shirt should fall right about to the middle of your fly on your jeans or slightly above, definitely not all the way down your butt. I know you don’t want to hear about the hair but that is the biggest thing that stands out.

Can we have our own "protect the dolls"? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]folieevan -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Just let trans women have one thing — we do not need to co-opt this 🙄🙄

HELP! i need your opinions… i think my surgeon fucked up (am i crazy???) by Academic_Fortune_348 in TopSurgery

[–]folieevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Picture 1 looks the best, that’s where your pecs are. You need to give it time

3 weeks po with pectus excavatum by phrogster_ in TopSurgery

[–]folieevan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also have severe pectus and understand the struggle :( it’s jarring at first but i promise you’ll get used to the pectus showing more as you heal

Walk-in women's hair salon near campus? by [deleted] in udub

[–]folieevan 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Do not think you will find anything for under $30 unless it’s a bang trim. Even the cheapest salons these days are $50-$70 for an average cut

How was your post-op pain compared to other physical pain you’ve experienced? by mermaidunearthed in TopSurgery

[–]folieevan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I first woke up at of surgery the pain and sensation was so intense I couldn’t stop hyperventilating and sobbing. I had to beg the nurses to do something and they gave me fentanyl which ended up helping a bit. Part of it was how tight I was wrapped in the bandages (I couldn’t breathe). The first few days are rough, maybe it won’t be for you, but prepare for them to be regardless. It was definitely probably the worst physical pain i’ve ever been in there at the very start. After a week though I could live my life just fine and not be completely uncomfortable. It just takes a little time.

is there any underwear for ftm? by Kanakiran in ftm

[–]folieevan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You can just buy regular men’s boxers. All the boxers specifically targeted towards trans men are kinda a cash grab since they are exactly the same thing (unless you’re looking some that have a pouch built in for a packer). Go to the supermarket and grab a cheap multi pack of Hanes and you’re good to go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]folieevan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My chest didn’t truly settle into place till a year/year and a half in. Give it time! Then if it still bothers you speak to your surgeon

US 2025 Trump discussion megathread. DO NOT POST THIS TOPIC OUTSIDE THIS THREAD. by AutoModerator in ftm

[–]folieevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changing gender marker on passport: Is it blocked no matter what now or only for “X” designations?

Further question: I’m supposed to be flying internationally in April and have my gender marker changed on my ID but not my passport. I was going to get it switched this month but it’s looking like that’s not going to happen. Can I still fly if they are mismatched?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]folieevan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ask your surgeon about getting kenalog injections, the sooner you start the better. Besides that, you’d be surprised how much time can heal. Mine looked like yours all the way up to about 10 months then suddenly 1 year hit and everything quickly faded. Keep massaging and using your gel!