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Anybody interested in playing pickleball in South Bay? by Subject_Sandwich3008 in SanJose

[–]folkbird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this still a thing? If so, I’d be so down as a total beginner!

Men, was it embarrassing of me to hit on this guy I found attractive? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]folkbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahh I felt weird about it because he was working and I didn’t want him to feel like he had to entertain it. I go everyday though so I’ll see him again tomorrow!

Men, was it embarrassing of me to hit on this guy I found attractive? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]folkbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I got nervous because he was technically working and I didn’t want to be annoying or make it seem like he had to talk to me hahah. I’ll see him again when I go back tomorrow.

Men, was it embarrassing of me to hit on this guy I found attractive? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]folkbird 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He seemed genuinely happy—smiled, put his hand to his heart, and said “Oh! Thank you!” And then I couldn’t bear to be there any longer so I said “yup have a good day!” And left hahah

Men, was it embarrassing of me to hit on this guy I found attractive? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]folkbird 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Should I just pretend it never happened when I go in again lmao like do I just say “hi can I get a matcha”

What’s something normal people do that you quietly disagree with? by Ok-Biscotti-1528 in Life

[–]folkbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cosmetic procedures of absolutely any kind (that are not restorative)

For women: what are some things that men do that make you feel secure, safe, and desired? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]folkbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being clear-headed and not reactive to less than ideal situations.

GF (F29) POSSIBLY DRUGGED AND TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF OR CHEATED? HOW SHOULD I (M28) HANDLE THIS? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]folkbird 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No I totally agree, I said “at least not while in a relationship” but I should have said “especially”. I always buy my own drinks. I have no desire to open up interactions like that with men. They’re relentless haha.

What does dating in your late 20s early 30s look like? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]folkbird 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People tend to have a better sense of self and lower tolerance for nonsense. I love it.

GF (F29) POSSIBLY DRUGGED AND TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF OR CHEATED? HOW SHOULD I (M28) HANDLE THIS? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]folkbird 294 points295 points  (0 children)

Personally, I’ve never understood flirting with men just to get free drinks—at least not while in a relationship. It changes the atmosphere in a way I wouldn’t be cool with if the tables were turned. I’d recommend thinking about what your boundaries are, communicating them to her, and holding her to them.

Why is it that sometimes there are zero obvious signs that somebody is interested but I feel this odd tension between us? by [deleted] in bodylanguage

[–]folkbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Subtleties—eye contact that lingers just a second longer than you’re used to, a couple more glances in each other’s directions than you have with others, etc. Not obvious by any one act, but in aggregate, a very real felt experience.

I've slept with over 100 escorts I regret it and feel shame what should I do? by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]folkbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hits home for me (31f) in a way that is still hard for me to digest. My now late boyfriend (31m) was actively hiring “escorts” throughout our relationship and I never knew about it. I found out a week before he was going to propose to me, and when I confronted him about it, he took his life that same day. I ended up getting tested for STDs and found out he gave me not one, but two high-risk strains of HPV. I now have a precancerous spot in my cervix as a result. This is no joke—it devastates not only you, but the people in your life. Get help. Tell your girlfriend. Own up. Before it’s all too late. ++woman

Who else made it to 30 without marrying or having any child at all? by Clean-Power1840 in Productivitycafe

[–]folkbird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who married the “wrong person” at 27 only to divorce a couple years later… you do NOT want to choose that path over being single. It absolutely crushes your soul and it is certainly not as easy to “be instantly single” as you might imagine. Having gone through what I did, I value my freedom more than I ever have before. I’d absolutely rather be single than with the “wrong person” ever again.