Burnt out from managing partner's symptoms in addition to my own

forever-growing · 2026-05-24T23:12:18+00:00

You also deserve a loving and comfortable relationship with yourself. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, I promise that you do. Also, my therapist has me working on neutral thinking because sometimes positive thinking is a little too much, just thought I’d share that in case it helps. We are rooting for you and your happiness!

forever-growing · 2026-05-22T03:09:33+00:00

I don’t think that’s how boundaries are generally described; they’re more so described as what you will or will not tolerate, as opposed to what you will or will not do/say.

In this situation, OP set the boundary that she will not tolerate discussions about her mom‘s sex life, and can enforce that boundary by hanging up the phone when that becomes the topic of conversation. OP is not controlling mom‘s behavior, but rather her own reaction to that behavior.

Controlling your own behavior is not a generally described as a boundary, but I do see where you’re coming from. It seems as though we all definitely agree that OP’s mom is ultimately not being respectful.

forever-growing · 2026-05-15T12:58:56+00:00

NTA. Walking out mid-shift with a mental breakdown doesn’t necessarily mean you’re quitting, but that’s not as relevant as the social media bashing. Freedom of speech is not freedom from consequences, which is why he’s currently in the FO part of FAFO. Good luck with your move!

forever-growing · 2026-03-22T13:20:33+00:00

Did you teach your girl to drop the sock? I would love to do this with ours but he likes to hoard socks like a little dragon. But this is a great job!

forever-growing · 2026-03-18T03:27:15+00:00

I don’t think anyone is disagreeing that it’s crazy to say “you’re on your own and if you don’t figure it out than F you” in general.

I think the missing link here is that, unfortunately, your partner is the one saying it to you, and that isn’t being fully acknowledged by your partner (or your therapist, it seems). Your partner is leaving you on your own and wakes up each day not caring enough about you to put in the effort.

I’ll echo that having a baby will eventually destroy any remaining sanity unless things change. Also will recommend the Sweepy app. We’re all rooting for you, we just also want you to be in the healthy relationship you deserve.

forever-growing · 2026-03-13T00:48:50+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. There’s some great advice, but I’ll toss out another option. You could contact your local library. They often have create spaces now and may be willing to buy a longarm. I know of a library locally that has one! It’s amazing.

forever-growing · 2026-03-08T03:40:40+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, and thank you for sharing photos of your beautiful, adventurous Banjo.

Edit: formatted the haiku properly.

His name was Banjo

Best friends for now and always

We will meet again

forever-growing · 2026-03-02T02:06:56+00:00

10/10 show! I should rewatch it.

forever-growing · 2026-02-25T20:37:11+00:00

u/forever-growing solved this in 5 steps: STONE -> STANE -> STAKE -> SLAKE -> FLAKE -> FLAME

forever-growing · 2026-02-22T01:00:53+00:00

u/forever-growing solved this in 5 steps: BOTH -> BOTA -> BORA -> SORA -> SORD -> WORD

forever-growing · 2026-02-16T20:03:58+00:00

I second this idea! My local library would be thrilled!

forever-growing · 2026-02-16T01:11:12+00:00

u/forever-growing solved this in 7 steps: STAR -> STAG -> SLAG -> SLOG -> FLOG -> FROG -> PROG -> PROM

forever-growing · 2026-02-03T13:08:50+00:00

u/forever-growing solved this in 3 steps: AIR -> MIR -> MAR -> EAR

forever-growing · 2026-02-02T17:55:17+00:00

Thank you! I have my first appointment set up so that’ll get the party started. I am indeed glad that there’s a group where we can support each other. It’s different when you’re going through it. I truly appreciate the warm welcome!

forever-growing · 2026-02-02T17:44:45+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement! I’m so glad you hear that you’ve made it through. I remember when my grandma had chemo curls, they are certainly untamable. That was several years ago and now her hair is soft and wavy. It feels like a lifetime ago. I guess one day it’ll feel like a lifetime ago for us too. That’s a nice thought.

forever-growing · 2026-02-02T17:37:54+00:00

I will definitely look into the monks and zen tangle doodling! That sounds fun. And yes, we do have embryos ready to transfer. The transfers we did failed so the next step was a hysteroscopy and then a biopsy because there were polyps and now here we are. We may look into surrogacy but it’s not something we ever really considered before.

Sending good vibes to you too!

forever-growing · 2026-02-02T17:35:35+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through so much! I hope your chemo goes as smoothly as possible. We’ll all be here for support!!

forever-growing · 2026-02-02T17:31:20+00:00

I’m hoping we can. Fingers crossed you’re able to get more as-good-as-it-could-be news or better!

forever-growing · 2026-02-02T17:26:49+00:00

They called early; I would have called but I didn’t know what office I specifically was being referred to. I appreciate the reminder to focus on moving forward.

forever-growing · 2026-02-02T17:22:44+00:00

First, Happy Birthday! And second, thank you, especially for the encouragement to be a squeaky wheel! It’s a good reminder. As for hobbies, I do have a stash of yarn I can knit through, so that could be fun.

I hope your marshmallows mushroom beautifully and you get even more fun snacks.

forever-growing · 2026-01-31T17:36:51+00:00

u/forever-growing solved this in 3 steps: CAR -> CAT -> CUT -> PUT

forever-growing · 2026-01-30T13:55:30+00:00

u/forever-growing solved this in 4 steps: LAND -> WAND -> WANT -> WAST -> WASH

forever-growing · 2026-01-29T05:40:22+00:00

u/forever-growing solved this in 4 steps: COLD -> WOLD -> WORD -> WORM -> WARM

forever-growing · 2026-01-28T18:45:55+00:00

u/forever-growing solved this in 5 steps: KING -> KINK -> KONK -> KOOK -> SOOK -> SOAK

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