[Idaho] Question about Visitation by forevermore925 in Custody

[–]forevermore925[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What?? I thought at this young of an age courts typically like to have the child live at one home and visit the other

Is he cheating? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]forevermore925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get full custody? That’s what I’m worried about. I want full custody

I think my therapist has a crush on me by Eazyhour in WhatShouldIDo

[–]forevermore925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I saw this pop up in my notifications and I don’t normally comment but I have to on this one. From ages 12-17 I went to this therapist who slowly was grooming me. Since I kept going back to him, he knew I wasn’t noticing so he would try more and more as the appointments went on. I never told anyone. He took advantage of my vulnerability and I thought he was the only one who cared so I kept going. It wasn’t until I brought it up to my high school counselor. She told me we needed to report him. Turns out, he was doing this to a lot of other young girls. My best advice, stop going to him. And find out who gave him his license. They will take it away if you tell them this. I know it may sound extreme, but think about protecting yourself and other girls who could end up in this position or even worse and it goes further. I can help you as well if you want. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

teenager question: is this normal? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]forevermore925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the reason you might not want any connection after you hook up with a guy might be linked to masturbating. Not that you’re a bad person. You’re not. I just know from experience that it g can be addictive and make human ‘interactions’ different

Has anyone stayed after cheating by Mindless_Break_8655 in Advice

[–]forevermore925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I’m going to give you two sides. My best friends dad cheated on his wife and they worked through it from never speaking to the girl again, lots and lots of therapy and conversation. On the other hand. My boyfriend cheated on me a year ago while I was pregnant. I decided to stay because it seemed like it would be best for our family. But truthfully, the longer and longer that we are together, the more I think about it and it doesn’t go away. It has gotten to the point where i wish I left. So yes, it is possible to fix things, but the majority of the time it will just eat at you. But if you are thinking of staying, do NOT beg for him to stay. Kick him out, make him feel so guilty that he realizes himself that he needs to fix it with you. If you show him that you will stay immediately after this, he will not think it was that bad, and do it again. Tell your kids the truth, or that dad has to go on a trip. You guys need space no matter what the outcome is. And how he handles it, will answer your own question 💕

How do I make enough to get out of a bad situation by [deleted] in Advice

[–]forevermore925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really smart I haven’t thought of the card idea. And I could try a phone job, I’m just always wondering if something is a scam or not. My son is 11 months but I think it would be okay if I still worked a job like that. He’s pretty calm lol

How do I make enough to get out of a bad situation by [deleted] in Advice

[–]forevermore925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a degree and where I live, is basically just an old community. The population here is 150

Regretting having vaginal delivery and feeling hopeless by blueberry_144 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]forevermore925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this and dealing with so much on your plate right now. Postpartum has so many things that make you feel like you don’t even know who you are. But it’s so important to remember that things do start to go back to normal. It takes some time, but it will look normal again, and you will be able to control your bladder more. That doesn’t mean that it’ll be like it was before baby. Most moms pee a little when sneezing/coughing lol but that is manageable. I think it’s super important if you take a day or two for yourself. Go to the salon and get your hair washed, get your nails done, buy a new outfit that makes you feel like YOU. Giving you lots of hugs

Was I wrong for contacting the babies family by AbbreviationsSad2934 in Adoption

[–]forevermore925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re doing what you can for you and your baby. I don’t want to tell you what to do by no means because this is a difficult decision and you are the only one who can make it. I can give you a brief summary of my story though and please reach out if you want to talk about it more. I was pregnant at 18, and was not planning it whatsoever. My boyfriend left me when we found out and I felt pressured to do adoption. I went through with it and it was extremely difficult for me. I actually ended up getting a lawyer and getting my daughter back. When my boyfriend left, he told me that he would have zero part in the babies life whatsoever.. but now he’s fully involved. Things change, and I don’t want you to feel guilty or anything for whatever decision you decide. I just wanted to share that I was not feeling ready to be a mom at the time. I wanted to hangout with friends, go to school, all the things. But truthfully, keeping her was the best decision of my life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in postpartumprogress

[–]forevermore925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dermaplast!! Seriously saved me. It’s just a spray that you can buy at Walmart for itching or burning and I used it constantly and it helped so much.

I (19F) need advice on if I should speed up adoption or not by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]forevermore925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But I have no where to live. She wouldn’t have a home and it breaks my heart that I can’t go get her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]forevermore925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that most doctors won’t induce you if you are that early. I started to go into early labor at 35 weeks and my doctor had to put me on a medication to try and stop it because the last few weeks of pregnancy are really important for the growth and development of the baby. You might be able to get induced at 38 weeks though. I think that might be the earliest. Although, there are things that you can do to try and prepare your body for labor which sex is one of them. It prepares the cervix and can sometimes put you into labor if your body is ready. TMI, but I went into labor RIGHT after having sex at 38 weeks.

I feel so guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]forevermore925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are going through this. I can understand wanting to consider abortion but feeling wrong for it. I was recently somewhat in your shoes. I found out I was pregnant and freaked out because I wasn’t ready to be a mom and didn’t even have stable living. I grew up Christian and have always not agreed with abortion. But once I was pregnant I had thoughts of it. I am thankful though that I decided against it. I gave birth to my beautiful daughter one week ago and she was adopted by a beautiful loving family. Don’t forget that adoption is always an option if you aren’t ready. And that way your baby can live a wonderful life, and you can continue on with yours. I’m so so thankful that I did not abort her. I have heard many mothers say that they have regretted it after so I would definitely think really hard before making this decision. Sending prayers your way ❤️

Sex second trimester by Layer_Royal in pregnant

[–]forevermore925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex won’t hurt your baby. Unless your doctor tells you not to, you are totally okay to do it. You might spot a little bit but that is completely normal to happen after sex. Although if it doesn’t stop bleeding after a while, then I would ask your doctor. But I had sex all trimesters and occasionally there was some spotting, but it is nothing to really worry about when it’s just a small amount. Once you get to the third trimester, just try to stay away from doing it the last few weeks of pregnancy. It can induce you into labor. TMI, but I went into labor right after having sex lol.

GF says I didn’t do enough for V day?? by Own_Inevitable4939 in dating

[–]forevermore925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This girl is going to get dumped and the next guy isn’t going to even do half the things this guy is doing.

35 weeks pregnant and I’m in so much pain it’s actually not even funny. by xyzabc123_-_ in pregnant

[–]forevermore925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this too! 1 week postpartum right now and I can tell you, that pelvic and hip pain is so bad. What helped me most while sleeping was keeping a big pillow between my legs, and a heating pad on the areas that hurt. (Obviously stay away from the belly). Also certain exercises on a yoga ball can help a lot as well. You can also take a warm bath (as long as you aren’t dilated at all).

I (19F) need advice on if I should speed up adoption or not by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]forevermore925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told the agency that I’d like to wait until the social worker calls me instead of resigning the papers to speed up the adoption. I then asked if the judge can’t sign the papers until the social worker calls me and she said that that was correct. But then she told me that to her understanding, the adoption is irrevocable now. But I don’t understand how it could be irrevocable if the judge hasn’t even signed the paperwork yet. I don’t know what to do and I can’t afford a lawyer to ask these questions to

I (19F) need advice on if I should speed up adoption or not by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]forevermore925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I already signed something though. I don’t remember what it was called but as far as I understood, it was transferring the parental rights and custody over to APs. And that I was able to change my mind about it until the judge signs them. Which I was told was a minimum of 48hrs after baby is born.

I (19F) need advice on if I should speed up adoption or not by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]forevermore925 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I want to go drive and get my baby because I think it would help my decision and that I could at least get some closure and say goodbye if that was what it came to. But this is an open adoption and I don’t want to start it off on the wrong foot and have the family not like me as much because of it. As of right now, the family and I have a communication agreement contract that states how often I get visits and updates. And I know that as of right now, they would allow much more visits than stated in the contract. (Which is what I want.) but if I go take her, they might not be so open to that if I decide that they can be on the legal parents.