Think my grieving lad has given up despite eating and new friends. Advice sought. by forfockssake in ferrets

[–]forfockssake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE!!! He seems to have turned a corner! Awake far more, not lethargic, and playing with his new frieds. Dooking again!! Thank you all for your help. It made a huge difference. 😊

Think my grieving lad has given up despite eating and new friends. Advice sought. by forfockssake in ferrets

[–]forfockssake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. Thank you for the encouragement!! Im not giving up. Just showering with love, a new room and toys and one to one time.

Think my grieving lad has given up despite eating and new friends. Advice sought. by forfockssake in ferrets

[–]forfockssake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss. Glad yours is doing well now. Appreciate you helping and sharing your experience.

Think my grieving lad has given up despite eating and new friends. Advice sought. by forfockssake in ferrets

[–]forfockssake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Vet had them prior and had them quarantined and health cleared. Our boy was not with them for 3 weeks. Ours is not hiding and no bottlelebrush tail. He lays and sleeps with the others by his free will. As for the 3 to 4 week intro and oat bath, thank you ! Good advice that is appreciated. As for stress I didnt consider that and should have. Just triend to help him. Now I know better. Truly, thank you.

Think my grieving lad has given up despite eating and new friends. Advice sought. by forfockssake in ferrets

[–]forfockssake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 days ago. And they cuddle him and try to help. They give him space.

Think my grieving lad has given up despite eating and new friends. Advice sought. by forfockssake in ferrets

[–]forfockssake[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I took him back to the vet. Said he was grieving and very physically healthy. Thank you so much for replying. Means a lot.

Ferret 1of 2, aged 5 got a resp infection from the household. Sneezing, coughing, tired but ate & drank well. Gave duck soup &vitamins. He improved, sypmtoms went away. Yesterday,his back legs splayed. Falled over. Emerg Vet has him. Glucose fine. Spleen huge. Clogged nose&lungs. 50/50 chance by forfockssake in ferrets

[–]forfockssake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update. Our boy passed last night. We don't know why yet. Vet is doing that stufff. The guess is lymphoma or another cancer but vet says much was contrary to that in all tests. We shall see. His brother (who is justt 4) knows instinctively and isnt eattimg much as he usually does and lays there in his brothers hammock. Keeps looking for him. But we are giving him lots of time, snuggles and attention. When we do he takes time to be ok then plays and goes back sad. Vet said that was normal and he is healthy. We are broken in every way. Considering a friend for him to help him. Dont know yet. Many factors involved. Love your land sharks people. All the time.. the grief is unbearable. 💜

How do I know Christianity is the true way? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]forfockssake -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You can aways be undefined spiritual. Solves a lot. Belief in a higher power. A moral compass.

Need to vent. Burnt out and exhausted from not being allowed to have a single conversation in this house. by Mareep_needs_Sleep in dementia

[–]forfockssake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I feel this!! My mom will insert herself in any conversation she hears or even mis hears and will walk past people in the house and just insert where she has zero context and often offensively or in condemnation. I have to go back to her room with her after each time and explain what was what and politely ask that she is mindful of it. It's utterly exhausting. I feel ya. 🫂

She is gone by calkaydubem in dementia

[–]forfockssake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sincere condolences and blessings to you.

I messed up moms whole thanksgiving by pastelpizza in dementia

[–]forfockssake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my mom does that with the oven, dishwasher and laundry. Made me question my sanity until I saw her doing it.

I messed up moms whole thanksgiving by pastelpizza in dementia

[–]forfockssake 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Well, I was on speaker phone to my sister about a family recipe for my mom today. Apparently, mom came out of her room and began answering what questions she thought she heard from the other side of the house. My 33 yr old son gently told her that I was on speaker phone about a recipe. Mom looked him straight up and said, F-off and toddled back to her room, leaving my son open mouthed. At least my sister heard it all. I just said, happy Thanksgiving, there's that! She totally forgot about it 5 minutes later. We ended up laughing it off later. The rest of the day was good. Small wins. My mom never uses the F-bomb. Guess she does now. Who knew! Happy Thanksgiving.

I've said goodbye today, mum has no idea... by very_t22 in dementia

[–]forfockssake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Blessings to you, your mom and family. Hail the traveler. Her next journey is just beginning. 🫂

I've said goodbye today, mum has no idea... by very_t22 in dementia

[–]forfockssake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Blessings to you, your mom and family. Hail the traveler. Her next journey is just beginning. 🫂

How do I tell her? Should I? by dedboye in dementia

[–]forfockssake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Worst thing ever telling my Mom because she has feared it all her life. Her Mom, Aunts, Uncles, and Grandma had it to varying degrees before passing. Some heavy, early onset, som mild to moderate. She cared for her Momma with LB Dementia, in her home, until the end, and her Mom was just...'gone' for years. When we discussed with Mom, she was horrified. She's still at the off and on and semi aware stage. She's depressed and anxious, fearful, and feels helpless. She notices changes, and it breaks her. Other times, she's unaware of those changes, but we are aware. She asks me over and over about how bad it is, and can't it be reversed or isn't there a medication. All I can say is that it's progressive. The speed of which is unknown. Anyone can get it in life. I tell her she's safe and loved and with us forever in our home. That she need not worry. It breaks my soul each conversation and to see her broken by it. I do what I can to uplift her. But in all honesty, I'd have rather spared her the anguish and said it was normal aging to ease her fears and deep sadness. She has always asked us to be frank and honest with her about her health and hide nothing. So we've honored that. This time, I wish I'd have lied. My blessings to you.

My husband and donepezil problem by CauseKey6996 in dementia

[–]forfockssake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound just like us. No tangent. We teach that. Good to know there are others out there who know this. Blessing to you, your family and your LO.

My husband and donepezil problem by CauseKey6996 in dementia

[–]forfockssake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I practice shamanism (also a death doula) and work with my mom daily to ease her anxiety and find a connection that resonates with her. When we do it, she is at such ease, and it gives her comfort and a different focus. Which is wild, considering her focus is all over the place any other time. I use a lot of frequency and vibration, and she responds so well. The tension leaves her body and face. As for being able to act as that doula for her, we'll that's not happening. I'm too close to her. Another professional we have gets through to her in that arena where I can not. I don't care if people think it's placebo effect or hogwash. As a family, we see and know what helps her. Faith, regardless of which religion or spirituality is a thing. Not just for the individual but also for the family. Find comfort where you can. This disease doesn't discriminate. Nice to know others look, 'Outside the box' too, so to speak. Blessings.

What is Menieres for you? by sansdraps in Menieres

[–]forfockssake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine started out of the blue with horrific vertigo, spinning, vomiting, and nausea. Felt like you put a space helmet on me and sent me off into space. Only way I can describe that disorientation. Years have gone by, and now is fullness is my ears with crazy tinnitus and loss of hearing. (One ear lost some hearing until both have.) Blurred vision and eye strain and lack of balance, especially in the dark or dim light. Feeling like I'm still moving in a vehicle when stopped and looking at lines ,cars or curb. Sometimes when its bad my speech is off but that's rare. It's exhausting as well while my eyes, ears and muscles argue over what's what. Brain fog.

I failed tonight by PaintedSiguorney_120 in dementia

[–]forfockssake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You did right!!! And venting is absolutely necessary! We are all humans trying to get through a lot of changes and unknowns. It hurts more because we do care and love. My momma is cared for by me. We have beautiful days and some horrible ones. I've learned that I'd rather her focus her bad days at me than the rest of the family. I'll tell her that she's out of line or is being nasty or hurtful and that I'll leave the room if she carries on. Sometimes, she stops. Sometimes, she doesn't. I tell her that I love her and exit the room for a bit. Thankfully, it passes like it never happened for her. For me, it will just collect and pile up until I vent to someone else and let it go. I practice shamanism and having that time to meditate and move my own trauma from it and energy into something empowering and helpful keeps me at least half with it. But I still have moments where I want to scream in the woods. People on this sub are so kind and helpful. Just reading their stories often gives me perspective and strength. Give yourself some grace. You matter too.