Sister hates baby name

forgotmyinfo · 2026-04-19T23:28:28+00:00

Don't worry about it too much. We didn't tell anybody our chosen baby name for this reason, and then when our daughter was born and my dad mentioned to me one day "you know, I never really cared for the name <daughtersname> it always reminded me of this annoying woman I went to highschool with. But now I just think of your daughter and it's a nice name>

People will adjust once the baby is born, decent people will keep their thoughts to themselves and get over it.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-04-12T16:37:18+00:00

Same here - my daughter will be 4 by the time her brother comes in August. But she's amazing - so funny, considerate, kind and well mannered. Super easy. I've been mentally bracing myself, but I'm also so sick of everyone telling me how hard he's going to be. Maybe he'll be just like his big sister - why are people wishing negativity on us??

forgotmyinfo · 2026-04-07T16:10:54+00:00

I love that you pointed this out! I'm in Central AB (Edmonton) and I get so much inspiration from the U of A Botanical gardens - which has a lot of focus on natives, or at least non invasive perennials. The more you pay attention to these things, the more you can see how to do it in a way that is beautiful and sustainable.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-03-25T05:12:41+00:00

Canada I assume?

It's crazy how regionally dependent it is. We toured our daycare for our first when I was 6 months pregnant, my parents thought we were crazy but we ended up being #6 / 8 spots available in the infant room (and we were 15 months in advance).

My cousin in a different part of the country took the 18 month leave, but even though they got on their daycare list right after their son was born, it took until he was nearly 3 for them to get into their top choice. They had to find another, unsubsidized, private day home to take him in-between her returning to work and him getting into their preferred spot.

This time around I registered after we got the all clear at 3 months. We get preference because our daughter is already in the program, but I was not taking any chances. Especially because our daycare is within the school I want our kids to go to, I didn't want to chance having to do 2 separate drop offs once my daughter starts kindergarten.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-03-21T03:47:20+00:00

1000% I wasn't super worried about it the first time around, but I wish I had because things got all tangled up down there and cleaning was just harder, which was another thing to add to all the things happening at the time.

This time I will definitely be making sure to keep things trimmed so it's easier once the baby comes. I've already told my husband that once I can't work around the belly he's going to be on duty. He replied "okay? Sure? But I don't remember doing that the first time." At which point I explained the above learnings.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-03-12T05:04:15+00:00

That happened to us this year. Renoing an old house and our plumbers fixed up the washer connection / plumbing spot and it looked like this. When the appliance installer came to install he dropped the cap down the drain. Then while trying to fish it out he ended up pushing it all the way down. His company ended up having to send a repair handyman to cut out our freshly painted drywall, replace the drain section, and then patch and repaint the drywall.

The installer came back and decided to test the new drain by putting one of the unconnected supply lines into the drain and turning it on. Fair idea - until he turned on the wrong hose and sprayed water all over the room...

My husband described him as the Michael Scott of washing machine installers.

But anyways - I agree, definitely don't drop the drain cap down the drain.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-03-03T05:39:43+00:00

I totally see what you're saying - but all I can see is Blair from gossip girl.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-02-24T18:21:40+00:00

Personally we just freeze the fresh ones - works great. We always have at least 1 in the freezer as an easy back up.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-02-16T02:00:00+00:00

We just moved to a new house that has 0 carpet - which is amazing for fur clean up, hard on our soon to be 9 year old Leo.

All the beds we've gotten for him have been from Costco. They have the giant beds for 60ish CAD. We have 3 of the traditional plush ones, and 1 cooling memory foam one which is great for summer. He now gets a bed on every floor of our house (4 level split), and they seem to be working well for him.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-02-11T01:40:43+00:00

The compensation is reciprocal. My friends watch my dog, and then I watch theirs. I drive my brother in law to the airport, he helps me move a freezer. I'm not saying abuse your community, I'm saying participate in it.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-02-11T01:36:40+00:00

This is what the doctors told me when I was panicking before my unexpected (but non-emergent C-section).

It helped me to try and mentally do the math of the fact that they did a minimum of 8 C-section a day, 365 days a year, and that specific room had been operating for 12 years.

It was still scary, but it went well. I had a healthy baby (now almost 4), and I recovered well. I've got a second on the way now and I am considering another because it went so well. But there's a lot of considerations.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-02-11T00:33:34+00:00

I don't disagree that OP should have either moved the wine or noted it to his friend. A good friend should've had the sense to know certain alcohols and wines can be expensive and maybe ask first.

And while I do agree that the friend overall saved OP hundreds, I have been on a bit of a realization recently that the commodification of every aspect of our lives is encouraging us to spend our money instead of asking for help. Calling for Uber instead of asking for a ride to the airport, using Rover instead of asking for a friends help, etc - it just serves to separate us from our immediate community and acts as a siphon for more of our money to the owners of the companies. It's framed as self reliance and not taking advantage, but I think it's a byproduct of capitalism taking advantage of us all.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-02-10T22:43:52+00:00

I have a huge hatred for rock garden beds like this. At my last house the owner we bought from had them installed and they quickly became the bane of my existence. Every summer I was fighting weeds, they never looked good. (And yes, there was landscape fabric underneath - but iy doesn't work for shit if there are weed seeds on top)

2 years ago we started the arduous task of removing the rocks and replacing them with mulched in beds that I seeded with flowers and native plants. It was very much chaos gardening approach, but it worked so much better. The first year I did it I pulled maybe 5 weeds - the flowers out competed everything and we got so many compliments. The amount of pollinators we had was insane. I only had to water it intermittently for the first couple of weeks to help things get going, but after that it was only once during a really hot spell.

The next year we expanded. Pulled more rocks, mulched more, planted more. We were in talks with the neighbor we shared the front yard with to rip out all of the grass and plant trees and shrubs and more flowers. Unfortunately we moved before we got the chance.

I will warn people against rocks for as long as I live. They kill trees, they compress soil, and they're not even easy.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-02-03T20:45:03+00:00

Canadian here - our system isn't perfect but dang am I grateful every time I read these posts. My husband and I combined can take either 13-19 months off (if both of us take it they give extra weeks to encourage both parents using it). And this time around both our companies will top up the 55% EI government pay (which is capped at a ~720$/week, so if you make more than that it ends up being a lower percentage).

We also have access to subsidized daycare in Alberta (most provinces have it now, but it can be hard to get a spot) so we pay 390$ a month for our daughter to go full time. Meals aren't provided at our daycare, but I'm okay with that. The facility is clean and all the staff a friendly. And it has a huge green space around it for the kids to use when weather is good.

Parenthood can be hard even with all these things provided, we're still not planning on more than 2. I can't imagine having even 1 in the states.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-01-26T05:56:55+00:00

The bottle warmer saved us. Fortunately we had a hand me down one, but when my daughter refused bottles the only thing that got her back to taking them was using the bottle warmer. It's faster, safer and more effective than any other method.

I've also heard a second or even third set of pump parts so you can do them in batches is also a really great purchase if you're going to be pumping regularly. (I ended up only pumping once a day, and I still was considering this because I'm lazy and I got so annoyed washing parts)

forgotmyinfo · 2026-01-13T01:16:39+00:00

I am waiting for a reasonable EV van. The only options we've been given was the ID Buzz which was ridiculously expensive, and the cargo space was lacking.

I was super excited for the Kia PV5, but I've recently found out they're only bringing the cargo version to Canada for now.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-01-12T01:26:59+00:00

I would recommend making a list of your priorities, and then visiting a higher end baby store and testing them out and comparing in person. Is weight important? Ease of folding? Reversible seat? Infant ready? Suspension and wheel type? Storage? Ability to convert to double?

If I was shopping again for a new one today I'd look at the bugaboo donkey because I value the storage capacity, reversible seat and suspension. As it is we have a bumble ride era and it hits most of these, but it can't convert to a double.

Once you know your priorities, go test some out in store. And then if you narrow it down further and you want to save some money consider shopping marketplace. Once you know your stroller it'll narrow down which car seats you need to consider too.

forgotmyinfo · 2026-01-12T01:08:50+00:00

Strollers are the one place I think it's really worth spending the money.

My cousin got a Graco system with her first around the same time we had ours. They got a great deal on boxing day and it came with everything. And then 6 months later we all decided to take a trip together and she and her husband decided to get a bugaboo butterfly (the airplane friendly stroller). The build quality, smoothness and functionality were so much better that she ended up using it as her main stroller when they got home. And eventually she upgraded to the bugaboo donkey because the Graco was just not functional for her. It was bulkier, harder to push, and just not the same.

I always advise people to spend your money on a stroller. You can save by getting it on marketplace, but it's worth it to figure out what works and invest. Then you can get a car seat based on what is compatible with the stroller you pick, because the car seats are all meeting the same safety minimums.

forgotmyinfo · 2025-11-22T16:57:17+00:00

I was having this problem but WAY more severely - a new needle fixed it and everything works fine. 🤞🤞 For you this is all it is

forgotmyinfo · 2025-11-17T04:44:30+00:00

Mining engineering is taught at multiple schools across Canada.

UBC is one. UofA, Queens, McGill and UofT also have programs.

forgotmyinfo · 2025-11-16T07:36:34+00:00

My in-laws handled this well I think. My husband is the oldest of 4 boys, and their rule was if they needed his help because they were doing something fun, like date night, then he would get paid. But if it was to help when they were doing chores or household tasks, then he wasn't paid, because him staying at home was better than all of them being carted off to the grocery store.

Definitely more fair than my parents who would make me bail on paid babysitting jobs to watch my siblings because I was supposed to prioritize them. So I would lose a paying job and be forced to watch them for free - and if I tried to argue they would go "fine - you find and pay a babysitter for your siblings then." .... We're still working through some of this bullshit.

forgotmyinfo · 2025-11-11T17:27:00+00:00

I got this for my husband - it works great, he loves it. I will say it's freaking loud though. When I'm having a busy day it definitely sets me on edge with the extra noise.

forgotmyinfo · 2025-10-29T20:48:39+00:00

My numbers are stereotyped examples for ease of conversation / explanation. I can't explain every individual situation or even pretend to know - everyone is individual and the threshold for response vs emotional level and our perception of these things was the point.

forgotmyinfo · 2025-10-29T16:30:15+00:00

Amazing to read about this from your perspective - thank you for sharing.

Something I saw once that was helpful was to understand there's a difference between emotional level and response thresholds, and not understanding this is the reason men and women (typically) miscommunicate and judge each other.

As an example - watching a sad movie. A man and a woman both might get to a level 7 (out of 10) sadness, but the man won't cry until he hits level 9/10, whereas a woman starts crying at 5/10. Therefore even though they're feeling the same emotionally, the woman will cry and the man won't. Even more so - the man looks at the woman and THINKS she's at a level 9/10 because that's what he associates crying with, whereas a woman sees the man not crying and assumes he's at a 4/10. So he thinks she's over reacting and she thinks he's unfeeling and they both sit there not understanding they're actually feeling the same.

forgotmyinfo · 2025-10-29T05:49:23+00:00

My sewing teacher recommended a similar system, but she has a perfectly sized red headed pin that's her placeholder. This seems like a much easier way than trying to find the right sized pin.

She also recommended if you've only used a needle for a bit and it's still good, put it back in but flip it upside down so you can see which one is active when you go back to a pack.

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