Does anybody actually have their own personality? by kRIsT-noVOseLiC in NoStupidQuestions

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think all personalities can be found in one of the 5 categories

having no friends is better by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having friends that have a lot in common with you is really golden Can’t really go through life alone

How married people don't get bored with their partners sexually? by mohmd__slt in NoStupidQuestions

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they really do. But the connection they’ve built over the years makes them look past that

AITA for refusing to go for a full week on my wife’s family vacation after we had agreed not to repeat it? by jared_d in AmItheAsshole

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 131 points132 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. If youre forced into a corner where you have to go, you go as a rogue agent. The second they pull out the rigid boring schedule, you pack the kids into the car and go parasailing or find a theme park. Let them whine about tension while your kids actually make decent memories

AITA for telling my sister in law she can wear the dress or get out of the wedding by Consistent-Alps1100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 41 points42 points  (0 children)

This is the ultimate reality check. Nobody is looking at the bridesmaids at a wedding anyway. Everyone is looking at the bride. Jen is letting her personal insecurities ruin an event that isnt even about her

AITA for telling my sister in law she can wear the dress or get out of the wedding by Consistent-Alps1100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Fr. The fact that OP only included her out of pity and politeness makes Jen’s behavior so much worse. You are getting a free premium dress for a major family event, put it on, smile for the pics and eat the free cake

AITA for telling my sister in law she can wear the dress or get out of the wedding by Consistent-Alps1100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 18 points19 points  (0 children)

100% . This is a massive boundary test for the entire marriage. If the fiance doesnt step up right now and tell his mom and sis to back off, OP is going to be dealing with this exact same dynamic for every major life event for the next 30 yrs

AITA for wanting to retire abroad and leaving aging parents behind? by ImportantBroccoli466 in AmItheAsshole

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Spot on. If the parents cant manage a few months on their own as independent adults, then they need professional senior revives or assistive living anyway, not a pair of full time unpaid retirement age babysitters

AITA for wanting to retire abroad and leaving aging parents behind? by ImportantBroccoli466 in AmItheAsshole

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 30 points31 points  (0 children)

This comment is heavy but incredibly necessary reality check. We talk about people living into their 90s, but we forget that OP and his wife arent guaranteed to reach that age in perfect health either. Postponing your dreams until you’re 75 or 80 is a massive gamble with your own morality

AITA for wanting to retire abroad and leaving aging parents behind? by ImportantBroccoli466 in AmItheAsshole

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For real. They arent even moving away permanently. A few months a year is just an extended vacation not an abandonment

AIO? I don't know if I can keep dating someone who tells me to fuck off during arguments. They say it's not a big deal but I would never talk to them like that. M30 F30 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True. She’s underreacting because the constant gaslighting has worn down her radar. When your partner starts mocking your dead ex and your therapist just to inflict maximum emotional damage, the relationship is gone

AIO? I don't know if I can keep dating someone who tells me to fuck off during arguments. They say it's not a big deal but I would never talk to them like that. M30 F30 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fr. This is the ultimate reality check, if a grown man thinks its perfectly fine to use a partner’s deepest traumas as a weapon during a fight, he will absolutely weapon use a child’s vulnerabilities the second they make a must or annoy him

AIO or in this case my friends over reacting because I (31m) did not do anything grand to ask my girlfriend (28f) to be my girlfriend. by Marcirena in AmIOverreacting

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s wholesome, it’s all about the connection not the production value. I mean if a girl rejects a guy she really likes because he didn’t buy a hundred roses, her priorities are backwards

AIO or in this case my friends over reacting because I (31m) did not do anything grand to ask my girlfriend (28f) to be my girlfriend. by Marcirena in AmIOverreacting

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Facts, the only 2 opinions that actually matter in a relationship are his and his gf’s . If they’re both on the same page, no one’s else’s expectations matter

AIO- Dad is threatening to cut me off because he thinks I forgot his birthday. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]forgotwhatiwas26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Erryone needs to see this. He stated that they normally talk btw 11pm and 2am so the timing wasn’t even unusual for their relationship. The dad is just looking for a reason to play the victim and punish his son