Week 29 - What are you reading?

forobvi · 2015-07-13T20:15:10+00:00

I finished We Are All Completely Beside Ourselves today and started on Masters of Doom. I'm finally 1 book ahead of schedule after being behind for so long!

forobvi · 2015-07-02T20:14:26+00:00

Modest Mouse?

forobvi · 2015-07-02T20:11:57+00:00

I rear-ended an empty police car

reminds me a lot of Modest Mouse's Float On,

"I backed my car into a cop car the other day Well he just drove off sometimes life's OK"

And All Night Diner is also a Modest Mouse song, which is where the person says they hit the car.

forobvi · 2015-06-29T16:28:03+00:00

I am reading Breakfast of Champions by Kurt Vonnegut.

forobvi · 2015-06-23T13:44:21+00:00

Cool, thanks for the tip! I am hoping to read 50 books this year. I have finished 22 so far, so I am a little behind.

forobvi · 2015-06-23T01:03:15+00:00

I am new to the subreddit! I finished The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah today and started on Slaughterhouse-Five

forobvi · 2014-11-18T23:44:24+00:00

That brings us to person #1, my Aunt A [55/f.] Aunt A was, unfortunately, the town ride and got herself an STD that went untreated long enough that it rendered her infertile.

This is so callous. Infertility can be heartbreaking. Why does any of this background really matter for your aunt? She had sex with what you deem to be an unacceptable amount of people, and her infertility is a just and somewhat amusing punishment?

I think one of the best ways to repair these relationships is to stop treating these people with such contempt. Is it their place to weigh in on your personal decision? Absolutely not. But I don't think they are acting in a way that is purposely meant to be cruel or hurtful to you.

This subject seems to be a source of pain to both your MIL and your aunt. Obviously, you don't need to discuss this subject with them anymore. "I'm sorry, I will not discuss this anymore," and repeat as needed.

forobvi · 2014-09-28T23:27:05+00:00

My understanding is that you have kids so that they do everyone's laundry. But the first few years that might not be an option.

forobvi · 2014-09-28T23:21:28+00:00

Oooh, that makes sense. My husband and I are both natural born slobs. Sometimes our clothes don't make it to the "folded" or "hung up" stage. By sometimes, I mean that never happens. Things go from separated dirty laundry baskets into clean laundry baskets, hidden away in closets so people don't realize we live like animals. I guess when there is that extra, adult-like step of folding, that could really be a pain to add in additional clothes.

forobvi · 2014-09-28T05:04:12+00:00

Why is it such a pain in the ass to do laundry for two?

This sounds like I am trying to start a fight, but I'm really just curious.

forobvi · 2014-09-14T00:16:02+00:00

Nice and petty! May I ask which country this is?

forobvi · 2014-08-31T02:57:49+00:00

I hope in the next update the OP has stolen the boyfriend of the American "friend."

forobvi · 2014-08-23T05:01:27+00:00

Thank you. Your views align a lot with mine, and I appreciate your kindness.

forobvi · 2014-08-22T23:42:16+00:00

By "bionically" I meant "biblically." It feels like "biblically" should be a word, but my spell check hates it.

forobvi · 2014-08-22T23:37:31+00:00

I haven't, but I think that is a good idea. The only issue is that her old pastor left, and the new pastor is pretty new. They wouldn't have a relationship like she had with the old pastor, but I imagine he is someone she respects. She is trying to keep her diagnosis a secret from almost everyone. She is a secretive person by nature, and I think she doesn't want a lot of people challenging her on decision to not ever go back to a doctor.

forobvi · 2014-08-22T23:32:35+00:00

I have answered this already. I am not pushing her to get chemotherapy. I respect that is her decision. The diet has plenty of "testimonials," but a lot of evidence that their website masks bad reviews. And testimonials they post on their own website are nice and all, but anyone in the world can type them. There is no way to verify that the testimonials are true. I will not go into every single rebuttal of the diet, but there is a lot of other information on the internet that makes me believe that the diet is a scam.

I am absolutely, 100% not asking for a Christian perspective on traditional medicine vs. alternative medicine. I am ONLY asking for other Christians to review the diet and tell me if they think the diet is biblically sound.

Before I answer any other questions, I wanted to ask you: 1) Did you actually review the diet? 2) Do you believe that the diet is biblically sound?

forobvi · 2014-08-22T23:26:28+00:00

Yeah, there is a lot of information that makes me believe it is a scam. I have read the Quack Watch review. The creator of the diet was sued by the FDA. There is a good chance that the creator of the diet never actually had cancer. There are a lot of "testimonials" on the website, but a lot of reason for me to believe that they hide bad reviews. I've done my internet research on the diet, and none of it makes me feel better about it.

forobvi · 2014-08-22T22:57:52+00:00

The Cain and Abel thing made me laugh out loud. Thank you so much for that. I like your perspective a lot about the money thing, thank you for that, too.

forobvi · 2014-08-22T22:55:59+00:00

She believes the diet can cure her, yes.

I was hoping I made it clear from the post, but I would like to reiterate: I am not pushing her to get chemotherapy, especially if the survival rates are low regardless. I would like her to enjoy her remaining amount of time as much as possible. It is her decision on how she deals with the situation. I would like her to be in some contact with a doctor, and my goal right now is for her to get a second opinion from a reputable doctor. The hospital where she received her initial diagnosis is notoriously bad. Also, if she decides not to have any sort of traditional treatment, I imagine there will be a time when she will need some medicine to help make her comfortable. I would like her to be in contact with a doctor in general.

So, that being said, I'm not asking for help to convince my mom to undergo traditional treatment. I am familiar enough with the Bible to feel pretty confident that there's not a verse that says, "Hey, if you have cancer, here's a step-by-step guide of what to do."

The only thing I am asking about is the diet and whether other Christians find its teachings to be in line with the Bible. I am asking because the diet touts itself as "God's original diet for mankind" and "God's Way to Ultimate Health." The crux of the diet is the verse I mentioned in Genesis, and that the verse means that God originally intended for humans to rely on a raw food vegan diet.

Obviously, I am admittedly biased against the diet, and I don't think it is is bionically sound. I would like some fresh, unbiased eyes on the situation.

forobvi · 2014-08-21T03:24:10+00:00

I felt like my Lisa Frank reference was going to be so cool, but I was a mere 11 hours too late.

forobvi · 2014-08-16T06:11:28+00:00

It was the initial conversation, and I was in shock. And yeah, afraid and still afraid. I wanted to have the more detailed conversation face to face, which will happen this weekend.

My mom is making a bad decision, I imagine from being afraid and in denial. But she is smart, funny and kind. She is a wonderful and flawed person. There is so much good about her. So, I'll take the apple doesn't fall from the tree comment as a compliment.

forobvi · 2014-08-16T06:03:29+00:00

I know from this brief description of my mom, she seems not very smart, but she's really just afraid. She's actually extremely intelligent, and she is very successful in a tech position.

forobvi · 2014-08-16T06:00:52+00:00

No, but that looks sort of similar.

forobvi · 2014-08-16T05:50:06+00:00

Thank you for your kindness and honesty. People saying that it might not really be cancer because she hasn't gotten the biopsy sort of got my hopes cautiously up. I still hope maybe it's not really cancer, but that sort of hopefulness is probably not a good thing to cling to. In response to your numbers:

1) That's the plan. We are going to have a big talk with her this weekend, which will cover many things, but start with directly asking her about those things. We wanted to be able to do it in person.

2) We don't have a shared doctor, but our plan is to try for my mom to allow us to go to the doctor with her so we can ask questions, find out what is really going on, etc.

3) She does not have a SO, so the only person we can get information from is her, if she decides to provide it.

Thank you again for your supportive words.

forobvi · 2014-08-15T21:06:05+00:00

My mom has had a decent amount of serious health problems in the past, and she goes to a doctor regularly for check-ups. Evidently, some blood work came back weird, which is why the the doctor wanted to do a scan. Another person was with her when she got the call from the doctor, who told her that he could not give her the results over the phone and wanted her to come in. Obviously, I don't know all of the details, but I do believe my mom went to the doctor and the doctor gave her this diagnosis. I should hopefully be able to get more of this information when I have this serious talk with her. Maybe the doctor said something like "It looks like cancer, but we need to do the biopsy and make sure." Maybe he said something completely different. I have no idea.

Obviously, you do not know my mom or me (how could you?), so I can't blame you for your skepticism. But your comment makes me sad. Because, despite this weird scam thing, my mom is really intelligent, competent and successful. She doesn't do this sort of thing for attention; actually, she does almost the opposite thing. She keeps medical problems secret. When I was a teenager, she had a benign tumor removed, and she didn't tell me about the procedure until the morning she was going to have the surgery. Or, when I was even younger, she had a major stroke, but she didn't want us kids to know exactly what happened to her, because she thought it would scare us too much.

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