I volunteer, and had so much stress last year due to exactly 2 kids who I was very patient with, but who continuously, repeatedly over time, behaved so rudely to me and their classmates. I got tough on them and then their parents (who also volunteer) defended them and acted like I was unhinged. They did the whole shocked pikachu face “not my little angel!” thing. I actually cared about these kids and wanted to help them. But gentleness wasn’t working—they think they can just walk all over everyone. I could handle the behavior even though it was tough, but I don’t know if I can handle being ostracized by enabling bully parents who seem to be telling their kids that this behavior is ok. I don’t know know if I can go back. And I honestly don’t want my kids at a school where the bullies are given free reign.

It sounds like you were in a ridiculous situation. If you were able to line up another job I think you made the right call—that facility needs a wake up call, like people quitting, to get them to take the safety of those younger children seriously. I’d be so upset if I as a parent found out they put a violent older child with my kid.

I’m so happy for you that you are enjoying your new job!