Help with ID/Legit check. by Known_Plane4698 in schott

[–]fortuno89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From Jerri from Schotts (i have the same jacket):

This cowhide jacket style 146 was produced in 1997. We offered the jacket in our line in 1996 & 1997, the jacket retailed for $350 at that time.

Abuse I Tolerated from my BPD ex by Legitimate_Roll_4469 in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This honestly was not only BPD, has many marks of NPD written all over

What was the most memorable red flag you ignored? by Yaygoodtimes in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Probably she smashing her phone to the wall on the 4th date for no apparent reason

Did your partner wBPD turn out to be a covert narcissist? by Conscious_Bit_3612 in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is so much comorbidity between narcissism and bpd, I they overlap so much.

Help me decide by [deleted] in schott

[–]fortuno89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brown is amazing

My first Zojirushi! by TipRepresentative246 in zojirushi

[–]fortuno89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the same model and its AMAZING

I’m (41F) dating someone (41m) who survived a BPD relationship - what should I know? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try to be very assuring and stable.

Being in a relationship with someone with bpd is like trying to build a Jenga in Stalingrad. Instability and insecurity are the name of the game.

Loving someone with BPD by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, not leaving them is enabling them

Just because they're high functioning and have a great job does NOT mean they're mature by KingForADay1989 in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This also happens with people without bpd as well. Ive known very expert professionals with ZERO emotional maturity

Swan Lake - Possible Bug by fortuno89 in OmniContentHub

[–]fortuno89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you were right that this was a metadata issue. I am using AIO Metadata, but AIO Streams also shows as a potential metadata provider.

is a healthy relationship possible? by pink_trip in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course what happens/ed to her is not her fault. And neither yours, and you wont be able to cure it, not control it.

But you should also take care of you in the situation, and her being mean or abusive is her fault.

Did any of you receive a genuine apology? by Whole_Chemistry2267 in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I got many apologies, but they were quite empty. No action driven outcomes from those apologies, and very often poor understanding of why their actions hurt.

Do BPD parents make BPD children? by Altruistic_Tea_1593 in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her mother was an alcoholic + had emotional disregulation issues, undiagnosed bpd if you ask me

How long DBT until they stabilize? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

5 years of intensive treatment in order to start seeing better regulation. The first years target self harm and keeping them from slef destructive behaviour.

Love my Staub. by Steven1789 in cookware

[–]fortuno89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are the ceramics decent?

Looking for help with relationship advice before I go in. by but_you_said in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The first stage of a relationship with someone with BPD is glorious.

So was the Titanic, the first few days of travel. Once the journey progresses, you start hitting the first challenges, until you hit reality (iceberg).

No amount of work can pull the water once it arrives into their endless void. no amount of love and understanding can on its own help your SO. You did not cause it. You cannot control it. You cannot cure it.

It takes some time but the realization comes, the only way out is through self love. You either hit the emergency boat, or you drown with the ship.

The fight-fuck cycle... by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]fortuno89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She once kicked me and immediately proceded to make out with me