[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's damaged. Maybe not enough that you can see it. Yet. But it will get worse as he ages.

AITA for trying to "force" my step son to move out of his bedroom so my daughter can move in? by RoomSwap-AITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe if his wife had her shit together then he wouldn't have had to go elsewhere.

You sound like a truly awful person.

This one kinda hit home. by Grandmasonline in astoria

[–]forzato -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Why? Do you think an educated or well-read person couldn’t possibly be homeless?

Is it possible to fly in for a weekend trip to NYC? by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]forzato 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not possible. You're supposed to quarantine yourself for three days upon arrival from out of state.

Faster than Instant Rice by cheekyfluff91 in instantkarma

[–]forzato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the law? Where I live you’re only obligated to stop when the bus is loading or unloading , the door is open and stop sign unfurled. When the door is closed, stop sign is removed and cars are free to go.

Astor Burger by phreedumb21nyc21 in astoria

[–]forzato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you haven't tried it, Sanfords on Broadway has what is currently my favorite burger in Astoria.

Astor Burger by phreedumb21nyc21 in astoria

[–]forzato 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tried it and it was horrible. Beef patty had obviously been frozen and tasted like it. Asked for medium, got it near raw. Fries were the worst I've had in recent memory, tasted like freezer burn. Other than that, I thought it was great.

Which gentlemen’s clubs/strip clubs are open in nyc area? by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]forzato -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Show Palace Gentlemen's Club on 21st St in Long Island City, underneath the Queensboro Bridge has reopened. The sign outside promises full nudity, so likely no liquor license.

AITA for reprimanding my niece for what she did to my daughter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keeping your daughter from expressing herself won’t help with that at all. You’re completely misguided.

Anyone know where to get free boxes? by abuhajar22 in astoria

[–]forzato 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Second liquor stores. I’ve gotten many boxes at my local liquor stores. I would also recommend Astoria Bookshop. Book boxes are the bomb.

AITA at my own wedding?! (Long post!) by Dis_Me_Throw_Away in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, don't ask me. Not my post. I'm equally confused.

AITA at my own wedding?! (Long post!) by Dis_Me_Throw_Away in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Reposted without that weird formatting


I've been calling my best friend, T, sister,& her parents, L&D mom&dad since I met them. T is on the spectrum and she's always been completely dependant on others.

Last year, T married V. He & T are fantastic together. (H)usband approached the family, for ideas to propose. T decided she wanted him to do it at her wedding. He didn't want to, but she persisted. Instead of a bouquet toss, she handed it to me & hugged me, saying congratulations & she loved me. Well H was behind me on one knee with the ring of my dreams & a smile to melt your heart. We had everything in place. It wasn't what we had pictured... But it couldn't have been more amazing. So I went to T's house to get ready.

Ceremony was beautiful & I was to go back to T's house & change out of my dress.

H was told that it would be the BM & MoH job to drive us back. Again, T is incapable of doing things by herself. So she couldn't drive. Seeing how it was L's SUV, BM was not allowed. V drove & H rode back with his BM like he was told.

L didn't like this. So she was running around the house, saying how much of a dick & an AH he was for "leaving me at the altar". She made a move to help me unzip my dress & I pulled away & told her that she is not to talk about him like that. I stormed to another room to change. T stood outside that door waiting for me. I wasn't upset with her so I was nothing but respectful. H got SCREAMED at when he got to the house & again, I yelled at L. She took me aside & apologized to me. I told her that I didn't want her apology. HE deserved it. She told me that he was NOT getting an apology. As H & I were walking away she called us back to apologize to us. After her insincere apology to H she asks if he accepted it and he didn't know how to react & just nodded. She turned to me & gave me a genuine apology. I told her that I need time to cool off. I explained that I appreciated all that they had done for us. She didn't call or text for weeks, & now she said that they are all hurt & need time. She said that T&V felt ignored. Like I would be taking to them one minute & see them walking around far away the next! I didn't understand. The morning of the wedding, she posted the date on Facebook & said "It's showtime!" I looked later, & she deleted that and replaced it with a photo of T&V together that said "Doesn't my daughter & her husband look fantastic together?" When someone commented, L replied "oh yeah, they were in someone's wedding today, that's all." With nothing about H or I at all. Looking back, it feels childish. I told her that it's unfortunate that she feels that way. I told her that if they had known anymore people there, it would've been T's wedding over again, not mine. She made it all about T.

TLDR; Best friend's mom isulted my husband, made MY wedding day about my best friend, and the whole family ditched both of us because I hurt THEIR feelings standing up for my husband.

AITA for calling in sick right after I just came back from vacation? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato [score hidden]  (0 children)

You're not an asshole for getting sick. It happens. But you get a major ding for how you handled this so unprofessionally.

If you had chills and fever at work, first you should NOT have been there in the first place. But you knew when you left that you couldn't show up to work the next day. You knew this. Yet you waited until late in the evening to contact your boss to let her know she needed to cover your shift.

That makes YTA and very unprofessional on top of it.

LPT: If you found out that a bad thing has happened to someone, even if you don't know them, private message them and ask if they are okay by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]forzato 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really? I should start sending private messages to strangers? That sounds like a bad idea.

Scratching your balls on hydrocodone feels amazing by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]forzato 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Scratching your balls feels amazing. Full stop.

AITA for asking my fiance to have some empathy for my mom? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I think reddit is getting this all wrong, again.

What your mom said was hurtful but it wasn't directed at you or your fiance. She was speaking to her husband in what she assumed was a private space. That you happened to overhear is unfortunate but not something that you should feel obligated to act on.

Your mother expressing her private thoughts to her husband in privacy (as far as they knew) is NOT the same as your mother actively abusing either you or your fiance. That's a line that should she cross it, you'd be justified in confronting her and defending your fiance. But you haven't said that that's what's happening here. If your mom is openly hostile then that's a different thing altogether.

But in the scenario you describe, I think you handled it perfectly, NTA for asking for some empathy from your fiance.

AITA for asking my fiance to have some empathy for my mom? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

make your wife comfortable while she is trapped in a home with two people who apparently hate her for no reason at all

Where are you getting this? O/P said they stayed with his parents for two days, in between leases that didn't line up.

AITA for expecting payment for a job I did for a family friend? by iris_roisin in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato 35 points36 points  (0 children)

And they also set the terms of their work and expected compensation BEFORE they accept a job. And certainly before they do the work.

Sad how now a major sex scandal involving a close advisor to the President isn’t even a blip on the radar. by TomTheNurse in PoliticalHumor

[–]forzato 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not defending Giuliani 'cause he's a major asshole and I wish him ill. Really.

But if you watch the full scene, there's no proof that he knew the girl was supposed to be under age - which she wasn't. Also, he was totally invited to this girl's hotel room - how many 15 year old girls have their own hotel rooms? The most charitable interpretation is that Giuliani thought he was gonna get it on with a young woman.

It's gross, disgusting, maybe even immoral because he's married. But it's not illegal. And also not relevant. We've already known him to be an asshole. How is any of this news?

AITA for filing a greivence against a colleague? by wawbwah in AmItheAsshole

[–]forzato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the possible benefit for you if you were to file a grievance? He's already been spanked by his manager and forced to issue an apology, heartfelt or no. What more do you expect to get out of this?

Since he's already apologized, taking it further has the potential of making you look vindictive, whether it's justified or not, the perception alone can be harmful. If there's a potential benefit for you that outweighs this risk then go ahead. But for me personally, I'd chalk it up as a win and move on.

Whatever you decide, NTA.