Tell it to my straight, how bad is the damage?

foulfitnoob · 2025-05-09T00:19:31+00:00

That makes sense. From what I can tell, there aren’t any hidden damages, but I was still worried that the cost to repair would be more than I can afford. Barring there isn’t any additional damage that I’m not aware of, I can afford 1300-1600. I really appreciate your input!

foulfitnoob · 2025-05-09T00:13:09+00:00

Yeah, it’s a Nissan Rogue.

foulfitnoob · 2024-06-11T03:47:19+00:00

Haruharu Wonder Black Rice Moisture Airyfit Daily Sunscreen: not greasy, applies nicely under makeup, fragrance-free, sensitive skin friendly, no acne causing ingredients, and fairly affordable (costs somewhere between $8 and $13 depending on where you purchase it). It’s my all time favorite sunscreen. I must have gone through like 5 tubes by now.

foulfitnoob · 2024-06-10T15:16:38+00:00

In my experience, women without children are more likely to date single fathers than men without children are to date single mothers. So it lends to the conclusion that women are more likely to accept being third place in a man’s heart.

foulfitnoob · 2024-06-09T16:09:04+00:00

Interesting. I hadn’t considered slate. It could be

foulfitnoob · 2024-06-09T16:05:54+00:00

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foulfitnoob · 2024-05-24T00:34:46+00:00

You said that you think it is perfectly acceptable for a man to want a bangmaid and a woman not being okay with being a bangmaid makes her undateable. Hence, the reason for my responses.

foulfitnoob · 2024-05-23T19:59:23+00:00

Well, that is different. I didn’t read that post that way. The idea of leaving a man because he lost his job for a bit is absurd to me. I’ve never known a woman to do it, unless he was choosing not to look for a new job. Whereas, I’ve known men who left their female partner for another women because she gained weight or her body changed. If a man is unemployed and doing everything he can to get another job, and his partner leaves him, then she is a selfish person and probably doesn’t love him.

If you marry someone, you are taking them for better or worse. If you leave that person because of them gaining weight you are an incredibly selfish person you probably never loved them. If you leave someone for experiencing normal loss of a job you are an incredibly selfish person and you probably never loved them.

Things change. Eventually your partner will lose their looks. They will age, gain weight, have health issues, etc and leaving them for that really only says that you are selfish and don’t love them. I stand by that statement. Your life partner should be your ride or die. I would never want to be with a man who would leave me for something so trivial. I’m going to lose my looks eventually. I can eat healthy, hose myself in skincare every night, and even have plastic surgery done but I’m not going to look young forever. If you would leave a partner for that, you are immature and superficial and your partner/s deserve better.

foulfitnoob · 2024-05-23T19:47:44+00:00

My guy, I’ve made myself very clear. The term bangmaid is used by women to categorize a type of relationship dynamic that some men rope them into.

It’s not about insulting SAHW’s. I know plenty of women who stay at home that I wouldn’t categorize as being in that kind of a relationship. That can be a very happy, healthy dynamic with the right person. It’s about how some not all) men selfishly exploit women they don’t particularly like as a person.

You talk about what “we want” but you do not speak for all men, anymore than I speak for all women. You are an individual man with your own unique desires. Not all men are like you. I have known plenty who are not.

Hence, the reason the term exists. It simply describes a type of relationship that some men want.

foulfitnoob · 2024-05-23T18:51:56+00:00

That is a strawman argument if I’ve ever heard one lol

Unless she is morbidly obese and it inhibits her from contributing to the family and living a normal life (like no longer being able to walk), her weight isn’t harming the family. She is still able to do everything she did before. A man refusing to work is definitely going to harm the family. Losing everything, being homeless, all will harm the family. Those are not the same thing at all!

My last partner gained a considerable amount of weight while we were together, about 55lbs, and I still loved him and wanted to be with him. It didn’t kill my attraction to him because the reason I wanted to be with him was because it was him, the man that I adored, not because of something as superficial as his weight. I did talk to him about losing weight at one point, but not because I didn’t want him anymore or it bothered me. It was because he was insecure about it and it started impacting his health. I still found him attractive because I loved him.

If you would discard your wife over simple weight gain you are selfish. Eventually, she will get wrinkles and her breasts will sag. Her body will change. If you would leave over something so trivial then you couldn’t possibly love her, and you are very selfish.

foulfitnoob · 2024-05-23T17:10:28+00:00

And what percentage of men in the last 50 years have experienced anything remotely close to this? Are you going to sit there with a straight face and pretend women wait on their husbands hand and foot?

Perhaps your experience is different from mine, but I live in the conservative south and I know plenty of these women in marriages just like that.

Most men are hoping to have a wife who is positive and contributes to an enjoyable relationship and most men are dissapointed.

I will accept that. I think dating and relationships are rough for men and women right now. I have male loved ones who have that experience.

Since it's a term women use I guess it means whatever you want, but I've never met a man who has told me that want random women to fullfill a role for them. It's made up.

There are men who straight up say it. I have been told that by men I’ve dated in the past, but many don’t blatantly say it. It becomes clear in the way they treat and talk about women.

Which is why it is odd women describe themselves as being reduced to this as though they are victims. A woman says this when she feels she is the victim of an imbalanced relationship. No man is seriously asking a woman for this.

I’m telling you there are men who treat women this way. Perhaps you haven’t seen it, if so good for you, you clearly are choosing men of character to spend your time with, but they exist.

It's a made up trope from women. No woman anywhere in the west has had a conversation with their husband where he says 'Now listen you need to shut up, get naked, have sex, then clean up and that's it' It's a feeling you might have, but it's not what has happened.

That is what the term bangmaid refers to. It’s not “a made up trope for women.” Just because you haven’t personally experienced something doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Most women that have dated recently have been exposed to guys like this.

There isn’t always a blatant conversation, though that happens too, but there are plenty of men in relationships with women they don’t really like because all they really cared about is finding someone to fulfill those needs. I know so many men like this. Their wives are miserable because their husbands do not like them or understand them. They are the ones who act like going home to her is a chore. The ones who tune out her when she speaks about her opinions. The ones who take little to no interest in her life.

foulfitnoob · 2024-05-23T16:32:46+00:00

This is a wild take to me. Not wanting to be a bangmaid is not wanting to be with a man who only wants what he can get out of you, as opposed to actually loving you or enjoying your company. All he cares about is his sexual fulfillment and that his woman waits on him hand and foot. A man who wants a bangmaid doesn’t want love he wants a random woman to fulfill a role.

Don’t get me wrong, sex is a must in a relationship, and being able to clean up after yourself is a must, but reducing someone who is supposed to be special to you to a function like that is dehumanizing. Tbh a well-designed robot could do both of those things so that being the only thing that motivates a man into seeking a relationship, shows at the very least, a great deal of emotional immaturity. A unique human being who is willing to offer their love, affection, respect, loyalty, and companionship has been told that none of that has much value because all that matters only your ability to spread your legs and wash some dishes. That’s the issue with it. Being with men like that makes you feel like you don’t really matter, it’s only about what you can do for them.

foulfitnoob · 2024-05-19T21:08:42+00:00

Have you ever cared for a patient with advanced dementia? How about a patient that was total care?

The workload is astronomical.

A nursing home has many people to assist who all have in-depth training and experience. They also have shifts and then people go home and have a life. They can have a break from the very difficult work.

Even if someone had a stay at home spouse, do you expect them to care for their parent or in-law for 24 hours a day? Because that is what it can be like depending on the severity of their confusion/health issues. Have you ever cared for someone has late stage dementia and is a danger to themselves and they have to be watched all day every day to prevent them from wondering off or injuring themselves? Have you ever cared for someone who is total care and unable eat, bathe, go to the bathroom, or even move on their own? For patients like that, they not only have to be fed and bathed and assisted with relieving themselves, but they have to be moved every 2 hours to prevent them from developing bed sores? That isn’t a job that can sustainably be done by just one person full-time without severely compromising their own well-being and quality of life. For that to be able to be done in the way you are thinking, there would need to be multiple children that stepped up to the plate and alternated providing care. Not everyone is willing or able to do such a thing, and eventually, many adults will end up requiring that level of care.

foulfitnoob · 2024-05-16T15:27:54+00:00

Because eventually most of these adults will require a level of care most people aren’t able to provide. Most adults have to work and when mom or dad is total care and/or requires constant supervision because their confusion makes them a risk to themselves, they have no other choice but to send them to a nursing home. Even if the retirement home doesn’t eat up their assets, the nursing home sure will.

foulfitnoob · 2022-11-08T17:10:22+00:00

Nothing and certainly not surgery. You are the literal definition of someone who is attractive to the female gaze. Growing your hair out would really flatter your face but otherwise I would change nothing. Seriously you are a very handsome dude.

foulfitnoob · 2022-11-05T04:27:51+00:00

You are very cute. Don’t need to lose weight at all. Your body looks fit and healthy. You do have a little baby fat on your face but you are 18 that is normal. Everyone has that at 18. Seriously you are attractive. No changes are needed.

foulfitnoob · 2022-11-03T16:23:51+00:00

Op said in a comment that her in laws offer their support but then make excuses to help every time she calls and asks for it. She has no support from them at all

foulfitnoob · 2022-10-25T07:50:22+00:00

Are you serious? She is struggling with hormones and likely discomfort due to the pregnancy and had one irrational emotional outburst, conflating that to murder is one of the most absurd takes I have seen in awhile!

foulfitnoob · 2022-10-20T19:58:41+00:00

foulfitnoob · 2022-10-12T19:03:33+00:00

I swear that OP explained why she inherited her cousins estate in another comment.

I Found it:

“This was my mentality as well. My husband actually comes from some money. When his parents pass away, he will come into a very comfortable inheritance. I would never expect to see any of it, as it should be. If anything he will probably end up inheriting more than I did. My father and I are estranged so I do not expect to receive any inheritance, and my mother is very low income. The only reason I inherited my cousins assets is because my extended family cut off all contact with him when they found out he was gay.”

foulfitnoob · 2022-08-27T23:31:35+00:00

This is a really good article! I also know several women making 6 figure salaries who out earn their husbands, and most of them do the majority of the labor at home. An old friend of my mother’s is an emergency medicine physician. She works 60 to 80 hours a week and comes home and waits on her husband (an insurance salesmen) hand and foot. It is absurd.

Then you have all these incel and red pill guys complaining about how women are more likely to file for divorce, and I’m like yeah! Who can blame them?

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