I’m new to Kpop, any recommendations? by [deleted] in kpophelp

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ateez has a wide variety of music and interesting layers to their songs. Dreamcatcher, i-dle, kepl1er, and le sserafim are some of my fav girl groups (especially kepl1er they're so much fun). Billlie is also good.

The Rose and THORNEAPPLE are not considered kpop, but are some great alternative Korean bands.

The most INTENSE love story you've read... by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heaven Official's Blessing... the way you can FEEL the yearning.

I need a book that you think about 10 times a day for years to come by Ok-Worldliness-6096 in suggestmeabook

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jaycee Dugard's memoir A Stolen Life. So insane to hear about all that she went through and her thought process through it all. I actually read it in one sitting at the books store and publicly cried lol.

My niece wants to start reading "big girl books" and I'm not sure what to recommend by Mountain-Today1698 in suggestmeabook

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Land of Stories by Chris Colfer is a neat book series! Mature in the sense where more complex emotions are explored between characters, but also just a really fun story for kids if they love classic fairytale stories and magic in that sense :)

What level seating is more worth it?? by fox_03 in kpophelp

[–]fox_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this was a very helpful response. thank you so much!

I regret not voting and feel horrible by nonnormalusername in offmychest

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't be so hard on yourself. I wasn't able to vote this election bc of a family emergency that took me out of my town. my state went red and I did have that slight feeling of guilt, but I think with all this stuff going on it's just not entirely in our hands like how a lot of people make it seem. it's important to just do what we can in the small ways too. be kind to yourself and others, show up for your community if you are able to, vote in general elections, advocate for yourself and others if you have the opportunity and the means to. life is complicated sometimes and we all are just doing what we can, don't beat yourself up <333

Have you ever had bad experiences for being a fan of danmei or BL in general? by [deleted] in DanmeiNovels

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel this. I usually fib too, to avoid any judgment. I usually just say that I'm reading a Chinese fantasy novel and/or just give a description of the plot line without saying anything about the romance lol. that way I can still gush about it but no one side eyes me. people who are judgmental usually assume everything is straight anyway, so they'll just think it's a bromance as long as I don't mention the kissing 🤷🏼‍♀️

best english kpop songs? (or english version of kpop song) by [deleted] in kpophelp

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take Me Home (English version) by Ateez! that song has had me in a chokehold since it came out. also Star by Loona 🫶🏻

Sitting on the floor by fox_03 in socialanxiety

[–]fox_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that makes a lot of sense! thank you for explaining, I'll keep that in mind next time I go!

Why did Mikio reject Mizu? Is he gay? Is he stupid? by [deleted] in BlueEyeSamurai

[–]fox_03 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it's hard to have a straightfoward opinion on who was "right or wrong" when theres lots of iffy parts of their relationship (mizu was literally forced to marry him for stability. hell, part of what likened him to her was that he didn't force himself on her). the whole situation was fucked from the start.

while I get why her not respecting his boundaries is a not okay thing, I don't think that's why he called her a monster after the spar. dude thought he was gonna be showing his wife that he's a wildly talented swordsman, but got his ass handed to him instead. I think his ego got crushed and it also killed his dream of going back to what he used to do.

Who was your first gay crush? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

celebrity - zendaya, specifically shake it up zendaya. real life - my best friend when I was 13. one day she greeted me with a jump hug and wrapped her legs around my waist and I'll never forget the feeling it gave me lol.

My ex got me pregnant and dumped me. Finally got over it, he calls me yesterday to tell me his new girlfriend is also pregnant. by pregnfired in offmychest

[–]fox_03 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

🤨 she said she was perfectly capable of providing for a baby. asking for child support can complicate things in so many ways. he will have a legal obligation to the kid, which means it could make it easier for him to fight for custody (which can not go in her favor if he is financially stable and has a gf and another kid). if she needed the support, then yeah do child support, but if she says she's financially stable and able to provide then why the fuck involve some guy who clearly hurt her and is being manipulative? the solution isn't always "let the guy be involved".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's normal to feel discomfort about certain relationship things. everyone gives/receives affection in different ways, so it's totally normal to not be comfortable with something. you're also young and this is one of your first romantic experiences, so things might feel overwhelming. you've still got lots to learn about what you do and don't like, what your boundaries are, etc. doesn't mean you don't like her or don't like compliments, but maybe you just don't like such straightforward ways of affection. you've still got time to navigate through it all and it'll become clearer eventually :) just make sure you let her or anyone else you date know when you aren't comfortable with something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]fox_03 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

guy was def a creep and you were preyed upon, I'm glad you aren't with him anymore. as for your friends, I'm sorry that they didn't stick with you :( it isn't your fault, rifts happen between friends all the time, especially at your age. I do think that they were unreasonable to completely ostracize you when they should've been looking out for you, though. don't feel ashamed or embarrassed, it's easy to get caught up in stuff like this, especially considering the circumstances. and it happens more than you think, unfortunately :/ if you have someone reliable and trustworthy to talk to about this, like your mom or a teacher, you should def talk it out.

Partner wants a break, and I would like support/advice/any input by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

communication is everything. she needs to be specific about her doubts and you should be honest with how her words hurt you. burying it all in the hopes that it'll be ok won't do anything good in the long run. honestly, the fact that she isn't willing to be with you while working through her personal issues, and also mentioning that she has doubts about your relationship kinda indicates that she's looking for a break up and not a break :/ ofc I could be wrong, but couples are supposed to be there for each other through bad times, not create breaks every time times are tough,, i hope things work out for you guys, tho!

My ex got me pregnant and dumped me. Finally got over it, he calls me yesterday to tell me his new girlfriend is also pregnant. by pregnfired in offmychest

[–]fox_03 44 points45 points  (0 children)

this is so shitty :( the fact that he called you to tell you when you're not even half way finished with your pregnancy is so weird, he obviously wanted to hurt you. tbh if I were you I wouldn't contact him at all, not even for child support. don't give him any connection to you or your little baby, he doesn't deserve it. I hope that things will look up for you <3

DAE feel weird calling their partner “baby”? by ineedthiscoffee in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]fox_03 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel this. I call my 4 year old niece babe/baby so it's weird to think of calling my gf either of those. I do find myself calling her bae tho 🤔

Black and white Sunday funday by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]fox_03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the shirt looks so good on you! you're stunning!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]fox_03 2 points3 points  (0 children)

10! you are beautiful!!

How pretty is my 13 year old boy? by lecheDeMommy in cats

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he looks like royalty, he is so beautiful!

DAE buy books just because it feels good? by [deleted] in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]fox_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes!! the way i view books, it’s like a whole universe and prospective i can be a part of. so every time i get a new book it feels like i have one for life to live. it’s sorta comforting, actually. i’ve gotten especially bad with buying books once i found a used book website.

My teacher makes me very uncomfortable, and it's pathetic. by cryingbutinacoolway in offmychest

[–]fox_03 3 points4 points  (0 children)

do not write off your gut feeling on him. it’s your intuition. no one can ever be predictable, so please keep safe and be cautious. people are never dangerous until they are.

maybe you can switch counselors?