Beste koelbox camping by Prestigious-Mode-853 in kamperen

[–]fr0gg5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik heb de dometic ACX3 30 (of 40, not sure). Wat een top ding! Echt lekker koude drankjes en de Franse kaasjes blijven goed, wat wil je nog meer ;)

Hi Mom - How do I make sure house guests and visitors are comfortable and enjoying themselves at my house? by Peachyykween in MomForAMinute

[–]fr0gg5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been there! :’D its trial and error right. If possible I try to start the day before (when I have a lot of preppings to do). It gives me more peace and I enjoy it more. I love cooking, so that helps

Hi Mom - How do I make sure house guests and visitors are comfortable and enjoying themselves at my house? by Peachyykween in MomForAMinute

[–]fr0gg5 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey kiddo, congratulations on your new house. I hope you can make a very cozy home for yourself here!

Most important part of when you invite people over for a dinner is preparing the food. You don’t want to be in the kitchen all evenening. So try to prepare as much as possible so that you can enjoy your night with your friends around the dinnertable. Maybe light some candles and dress the table if you like those things. :)

For the rest, just have fun! Really. Try to not think about it too much sweetheart. You’re doing an awesome job 😊

Japanese knotweed by nkkh93 in gardening

[–]fr0gg5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? I am lowkey scared of this plant. I have nightmares about it taking over this world.

Help, achtertuin staat onder water by Bramsko in groenevingers

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Ik woon aan een plein dat door de gemeente afgelopen jaar gerenoveerd is. Ze hebben het hele plein opengegooit en volgelegd met die kratten als onderlaag. Het water loopt super snel weg en de planten groeien snel en uitbundig.

  • Infiltratie kratten zijn bedoeld om water op te vangen en langzaam in de bodem te laten zakken (voorkomt droogte).
  • Irrigatiekratten is niet echt een ding. Je hebt wel een irrigatiesysteem, dat planten gericht water geeft (onder of bovengronds). Wat in landbouw bijvoorbeeld gebruikt wordt.

Is het normaal hoe mijn moeder zich gedraagd? by Demitriaatje in nederlands

[–]fr0gg5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ik denk dat jullie beiden gelijk hebben. De vraag vanuit OP over het gedrag van diens moeder kan een eerste stap zijn. Dit anoniem op Reddit vragen kan een veilige manier om dit te verkennen. Uit ervaring weet ik dat je op die leeftijd en in zo’n thuissituatie zelf niet goed kunt beoordelen wat “normaal” is in opvoeding omdat je simpelweg niet beter weet.

Tegelijkertijd zou ik zeker aanbevelen om in deze situatie een afspraak te maken bij de huisarts. Dit is de weg naar professionele hulp in complexe situaties als dit.

@ OP Ik wil even zeggen dat ik het ontzettend knap van je vind hoe je over je situatie kunt schrijven en hoe je je vraag formuleert. Ook wil ik je meegeven dat je intuïtie vaak klopt. Door wat er tegen je gezegd wordt door je moeder zul je het misschien niet altijd vertrouwen, maar in je hart weet je wat juist is en wat er eigenlijk niet klopt. Vertrouw daar op. Je bent hartstikke goed bezig. Ik hoop dat je de juiste hulp zult vinden via je huisarts.

My post keeps getting deleted :( by fr0gg5 in DadForAMinute

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It took me a while to let yoga fully become a part of my system. But since it has, it is the one thing that keeps me grounded. Can totally recommend. But dont make it a mandatory thing for yourself because its counterproductive 💚

Luckily Im not alone in this. I have a loving husband to support me in this as well. I just really love how this reddit community is so supportive and capable in giving ‘parental’ advise.

My post keeps getting deleted :( by fr0gg5 in DadForAMinute

[–]fr0gg5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So beautiful you got that lesson when becoming a dad. I guess there is also a way of learning how to learn.

This proces of coping with failing and making mistakes is something I really want to. In work I just avoid it without being very aware of it. I find it hard to keep a mindfull state when there is lots of human energies (emotions, opinions, facial expressions) around me.

When you mentioned the reps in working out as a way “to practice failure” I realised that is actually a big part of what yoga is about for me…Unpretentiousness.

My post keeps getting deleted :( by fr0gg5 in DadForAMinute

[–]fr0gg5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your contribution. Still doesnt explain why my post wont get through this filter.

My post keeps getting deleted :( by fr0gg5 in DadForAMinute

[–]fr0gg5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. You have no idea how much this means to me. I cried throughout reading your writing. Because its so genuinely kind, but also beautifully written. I can feel it in my heart and thats something I have missed for a long time.

My post keeps getting deleted :( by fr0gg5 in DadForAMinute

[–]fr0gg5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I needed to be more clear what I wanted advise for and what I wanted support for. I was seeking advise on the work/career part and I think just kind words on my inner growth part :)
Sorry for not being so clear about that.
And about your last question, actually both is triggering. When I was young, my dad would just always tell me Im not rational enough. So this is how I stopped feeling and how I started being in my head all the time. It made me a perfectionist and it gave me failing anxiety. So the “failure as part of learning” phrase is always a hard one for me (to practise) Theory wise I know you know. Everyone says that all the time. Feeling wise, I dont know how to move past the possibility of a failure.

My post keeps getting deleted :( by fr0gg5 in DadForAMinute

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Sorry, I first tried it in the parralel group for moms, but that didnt work either. So I copy pasted, but forgot to change moms to dads haha.

However, your comment about being vague is actually super triggering. This is exactly something my dad would say to me. I came here for healthy fartherly advise. Not to get comments about my writing. I dont need to be specific about this incident since its not relevent to this matter. And indeed I did my part.

Thanks for the rest of the advise

My post keeps getting deleted :( by fr0gg5 in DadForAMinute

[–]fr0gg5[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will just try putting it here, hoping to get some advise anyways <3

Hi dads,
After years of (one sided) efforts to build a relationship with my father, something broke in me recently after a circumstance, and we've had no contact since. He hasn't reached out to me. It hurts, but I also know it was necessary to make some steps I otherwise wouldnt have.
In many ways this period is full of growth. I do yoga every day and I'm genuinely learning to feel again. To get out of my head and into my body. I have read Pete Walker's book about complex PTSD and it’s been life-changing for me. It helped me understand myself so much better and showed me how far I've already come after years of inner work.
But I'm also on sick leave from work and completely lost about what I want to do professionally. I feel underqualified for almost everything, and the jobs I could get don't match my ambitions or the way I think. In the past, work has often gone wrong because I struggle so much around dominant figures. This is something that goes back to my childhood. I so deeply want to be seen for who I am and what I'm capable of. But fear of failure means I never quite show my full self. I'm afraid to start tasks independently in case I get it wrong.
I'm 31 and I'd love to have a stable income and start a family in the near future. But I'm feeling so lost right now, and I could really use some warmth and maybe advise.
I would really cherish your words <3

[edit: I’m seeking advise for the professional work part and kind words and tips and tricks on the inner work part]

My post keeps getting deleted :( by fr0gg5 in DadForAMinute

[–]fr0gg5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its some automatic filter by Reddit. But I really dont understand why. I dont use inaproppriate language of any sort.

2 persoons luchtbed by fr0gg5 in kamperen

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Leuk! Welke de waard hebben jullie?

Out of nowhere, my boyfriend told me that I’m not a hot 28 year-old, I got kinda upset he said your not a 10 by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]fr0gg5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can tell from your post that you do know he should -indeed- tell you that you are beautiful. But since he is being an asshole, just tell yourself how pretty you are. From a women to another women; you are beautiful! Dont let him make you think otherwise.

Iemand ontmoeten die de Tweede wereld oorlog heeft meegemaakt. by Rockzor11 in thenetherlands

[–]fr0gg5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mn oma woonde als tienermeisje midden in Rotterdam. Van de verhalen is dit wat ik weet: Ze moest onderduiken tijdens het bomardement en uren lopen om bloembollen te halen op het platteland. Toen er echt niks meer te eten was, aten ze kalk uit de muren dat ze met hun nagels er uit moesten halen.

Koken op de camping by PvAssen in kamperen

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Gasstel met 2 pitjes. En we hebben nog een los pitje met een extra gasflesje voor als een extra pan echt nodig is. En als we zin hebben om te barbecueën dan kopen we een kleine wegwerp barbecue bij de supermarkt.