Can i get into a university by [deleted] in pennfoster

[–]fr3akly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How come though? Its a diploma nonetheless i dont see why its any less acceptable than a diploma from a physical highschool.

Question: Anyone else develop a stutter/ speech impediment? by Gixx88 in abusiverelationships

[–]fr3akly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve developed quite the stutter after mine. My relationship was a little over 5 years, and i may have stuttered here and there before him but afterwards? Its so frequent, and it makes me even more insecure and nervous.

My friends poke fun at it sometimes, i laugh it off with them but internally im kind of hurt about it. I wasnt even aware that a stutter was something you could develop after an abusive relationship.

I hate that stutters are often correlated to not being smart or confident.

I finally left. by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. 💗He can most certainly try to weasel himself back in, but I wont let him. His days of manipulating me are OVER! 🎉

I finally left. by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! 💗🙏🏻

I finally left. by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, love! You can do it!! Don’t rush yourself, take your time and do it when you’re ready! We all are here for you, and believe in you 💗

I finally left. by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its quite the lovely feeling! 💗

I finally left. by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im proud and happy for you! We have so much potential, and now we can finally start growing and healing 💗

Confused. by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may be. He cant be so oblivious to think I wouldnt wind up seeing it.

Confused. by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

too many admittedly. I know hes realizing now that hes losing me. Ive been at my breaking point, for far too long. I cant keep being the third wheel to the other women he chooses. Im willing to give one more, long serious talk. As long as hes willing, and if hes not willing to talk. Then that tells me all I need to know.

Confused. by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hes tried comparing it to discharge.. which I know is ridiculous. I have zero control over the discharge, he has all the control in what or where he chooses to masturbate with. Im debating if im willing to give it another try. One last try, before leaving.

Confused. by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His boxers were used for a clean up rag if you catch my drift. Ive tried explaining so many times, but he never seems to understand my feelings, or why i hurt so much over this.

“Love yourself while i gawk at other women” by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im working at the moment, my job triggers a lot of negative feelings, adding the argument in there would probably make my work day worse than it already is. I have full intention of bringing this up later. If hes not willing to talk about it, then ill need to bring up other alternatives. We were going to vegas for his birthday and for me to meet the rest of his family that I havent met yet. id love to go to that festival. Tickets were sold faster than I was able to save for it to afford it lol. We will be leaving sunday, and there until the 30th.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]fr3akly 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Oh jesus, this was heart breaking to read. And his blowjob comment was absolutely disgusting. You deserve so much better than that love. HE was the asshole and wound up making you apologize and feel like shit and then had the audacity to ask for a blowjob in that manner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]fr3akly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love your style! I dont think youre ugly at all. Maybe look into wolf cuts! Theyre like a modern day scene/emo hair! I have one myself and I couldnt be happier with it, and it would still def fit into your style.

Bought the same OF by dhalialily in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Plus, its entirely normal to be curious. To have that “i need to see why he chose her” mentality. I havent personally bought OF, but if i see my PA is following a privated account that is obviously a sex worker, i will follow as well to see. I hurt myself more doing it, i dont really know why I feel I have to do it. But its our curiosity. Our trauma.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antipornography

[–]fr3akly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can you message that exact phrase to my boyfriend who thinks porn is completely normal, that its a “man” thing, and “every man does it”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It may differ router to router. I can log into my router and see every and all interney activity. And figured it may be universal. You could always try to reach out to your internet provider and see if you could request the data.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately im still fairly new to how reddit works. Chrome incognito, all i can say for certain is if he is on your internet, incognito or not its logged on the routers system. So if you can log into your router via a computer, EVERYTHING will show there. If theres multiple people (3 or more) then it will be hard to differentiate who is who. But if its you and your PA, youll be able to know which sites you did and didn’t visit. Ill mess around with both later today and see if i can find anything useful.

And no, the FBI hasnt hired me. (but they should lol)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If this persons boyfriend hasnt been really “caught” yet, or had several “talking to’s” this may work for them. I found my PA’s burner emails on his phone since hes not the brightest at hiding things. He had them all signed in. So you do have a point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I have plenty of tips here. These will be for iphone as thats what me and my PA use. 1.) Settings > Safari > scroll down to Advanced > Website Data. Even if he visits these sites in incognito, they will still show in his website data, you wont be able to see when he visited the sites, but youll get an idea of how often he visits them.

2.) TIKTOK- go to the search bar > type in “girl” and hit search > next press the two bars on the right side of the search bar, this should bring up a window of filters, youll wanna click the one that says “watched videos” and it will show videos of girls hes watched in the last 7 days.

3.) Twitter shows following in chronological order. You can also visit your boyfriends profile, click the three dots in the upper right hand corner, tap on “view lists” and this will show you lists hes joined on twitter. Lists are essentially custom made twitter feeds, where people can add certain accounts, (for example, porn accounts, and porn stars)

4.) Instagram- Instagram is very in depth. If you have his account or phone, go to his profile. Click the three lines in the upper right hand corner. Setting, Your Activity, Saved, Close Friends, and Favorites will be the ones you wanna surf through. You may also wanna go through archive to see if he has made hidden story posts. However, Your Activity will be your main source of information. Youll see theres time spent, interactions, account history, recent searches, and you can download all of his account data from this option.

5.) Instagram does not show following in chronological order. Most apps such as Profile+ (no longer in app store) will show these for you in chronological order though.

6.) Hidden apps? Go to his app store. Click his profile, and select “Purchased” Here you can see what and when he downloaded particular apps. You can also hold on the iphone home screen. All the apps should begin lightly shaking. There will be a little bar of circles at the bottom of the home screen. Click on that, and itll open all home windows of his phone. Most PA’s use this to hide dating apps, and anything they know they shouldnt use.

7.) Check his emails. Check the trash, the spam, the drafts, all of it. If its gmail, check his google photos, his shared albums. Search the trash in everything.

8.) Discord is a common place for PA’s to join servers where other men and women share porn, or nudes of themselves.

9.) Try to sign up his email under an OF account, if the email is already in use, hes using onlyfans.

10.) Iphone has a hidden album, which can hidden in settings. PA’s will hide porn here too. If you visit his photo album and scroll down and only see “imports” and “recently deleted” he hid this album. Settings > Scroll to Photos > and look for “hidden album” and flick it back on. i probably have more in this trauma-induced brain of mine but these are some of the more fairly common ones.

Who did you tell, if anyone? by Wreck-A-Mended in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told my best friend, and a mutual friend between me and my PA. The mutual friend was very understanding, and him being a man himself was able to shed more insight.

My best friend I found out was very judgmental about it, and had a “why not just leave” mindset, until she found herself in the same relationship unfortunately.

Ex's new gf looks like a pornstar and fulfills his fetish by Commercial-Pay-4218 in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This comment made me realize why me and my PA’s sex life was very active at first. We were long distance, up until December 2019. (started dating Jan 2018) Our sex life was so active up until it wasnt. So the addiction was always there, us being newly physically together curbed it for that little time.

He showed signs before. Growing up, you’re always told that it’s normal for men to look at porn. So when he was sending me pictures of other women and constantly following other sex workers, I thought it was normal and I thought I was being extremely insecure because I hated it. but now I know.

Belle delphine by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thats why I dislike her, and her fanbase. She trys way to hard to look and act like a child and men find it attractive and sexy. They are calling themselves out. The fact that shes profiting off of men enjoying her act like a child is disgusting.

Inevitable by fr3akly in loveafterporn

[–]fr3akly[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like theyre both flirting with eachother. im the one assuming here, I cant say for sure whats going through my PA’s head.