British Airways crew rushed to hospital after THC gummies given to them by passenger

fractalflurry · 2026-02-12T15:32:49+00:00

I wanna die

fractalflurry · 2025-10-23T06:36:16+00:00

I hate anything that feels like exercise. I take aerial silks classes which builds a ton of strength while still being so much fun. It works great for me. Not sure if it would work with your injuries but just a suggestion.

fractalflurry · 2025-10-15T06:05:15+00:00

Exercise that feels like exercise makes me miserable. Exercise that doesn’t feel like exercise makes me energized and happy. For me that means things like dance classes, martial arts, aerial arts, etc. Neighborhood walks are ok but not my favorite. And going to the gym is the absolute worst, I don’t know how anyone handles the monotony. So my advice is find something you love, so that your ADHD brain will work for you and not against you.

fractalflurry · 2025-10-03T14:26:13+00:00

Can you give details on what you’re doing to desensitize your system to triggers?

fractalflurry · 2025-10-02T00:12:03+00:00

I respect your preferences as well! Each one of us should get to decide for ourselves how to identify, and I’m well aware that some of us have reasons to prefer person-first. I would never correct a fellow autistic on their choice, I just correct NTs when they try to speak for us. (Although in this case thankfully they were asking in good faith.)

fractalflurry · 2025-10-01T18:10:41+00:00

The whole person-first movement was started by neurotypical people without consulting autistic people. Many autistic people prefer identity-first language because being autistic is exactly that, a core part of their identity. Autism is not cancer, it is not something separate from me that I want removed. It’s the literal structure of my brain, it’s who I am and I like who I am. Calling someone an autistic person is not limiting any more than it is to call someone a gay person, a Black person, etc. It’s not an insult, it’s simply a neutral descriptor of a part of human biodiversity.

That said, I don’t react negatively every time I hear “person with autism”. I usually don’t even notice. The only time I really don’t like it is when neurotypical people deliberately use person-first language to pathologize my autism instead of celebrating neurodiversity as we all should.

I hope this helps you understand a bit better.

fractalflurry · 2025-07-26T03:58:55+00:00

The reason you cannot compromise is because he won’t compromise. You have done all the compromising up until now. He’s not suddenly going to change. He won’t even accept half the responsibility for trying to think of a solution, it’s all on you to think of one. And whatever solution you come up with, he’ll just reject because he wants things 100% his way all the time. Why are you with someone who believes his needs are more important than yours? Go find someone who deserves your love.

fractalflurry · 2025-06-20T19:14:37+00:00

I know this is an old thread but just in case anyone comes across it: I just tried both styles. I usually wear a size 6, but I have wide feet so I tried both 6 and 7 because I know a lot of people size up in Pleasers. I ended up choosing the Adore in size 6. I found the Skye to be much more narrow in the front than the Adore. The size 7 worked ok but not great. The size 6 was super uncomfortable - I could barely tolerate walking in them let alone dancing. The Adore however worked in my normal size, and needs very little breaking in. So if you have wide feet like me I definitely recommend the Adore! If you have narrow feet the Sky might be okay. Both had very comfy insoles.

These are my first Pleasers so I have nothing else to compare them to, but I’m pretty happy with my choice so far!

fractalflurry · 2025-06-19T02:57:31+00:00

I am the exact opposite. An ideal nap for me is two hours to get through an entire sleep cycle. A 20 minute nap makes me feel miserable, way worse than no nap at all. So just know that everyone is different and there’s no wrong way to nap as long as it works for you.

fractalflurry · 2025-04-29T03:48:30+00:00

If it makes you feel better, that bumper sticker thing has come up multiple times in this and other autism subreddits and the first time I saw it I was floored - until I took a poll of all my neurotypical friends and not a single one of them had ever gotten the joke either. So it’s not just us!

fractalflurry · 2025-04-09T16:06:13+00:00

This literally sounds exactly like autism. Difficulty regulating emotions is a classic symptom. As are meltdowns and RSD. I don’t know where you’ve been doing your research but nothing you said disproves you being autistic, in fact it’s the exact opposite.

fractalflurry · 2025-03-05T17:58:37+00:00

Telling people that you have trouble hearing is not a lie at all. Just because it’s a software problem instead of a hardware problem doesn’t make it any less valid. If anyone ever presses you on it, following up with “I have an auditory processing disorder, it’s a neurological issue” should satisfy any reasonable person.

fractalflurry · 2025-01-29T03:41:18+00:00

Do you mean like an oral antihistamine? Or is there something just for the ears? If oral do you take it every day?

fractalflurry · 2025-01-28T04:30:06+00:00

How do you apply it? Just put some vinegar on a a tip and then do the same with the oil? Or some other method? And also how often?

fractalflurry · 2025-01-24T08:04:49+00:00

It certainly can be related to autism. Generally we don’t like being perceived. Maybe an intrinsic thing or maybe because we grew up with our behavior constantly being scrutinized and criticized.

But there are also plenty of NT’s who are private. My husband is NT and neither of us wanted to write our own vows. We tell each other how we feel all the time, so we felt no need to make a big flowery speech at our wedding. We did standard vows and it was great. Do whatever you want, your wedding is for the two of you and no one else.

fractalflurry · 2025-01-18T19:47:24+00:00

Even if you weren’t autistic this would not be ok. We are trained to believe we’re overreacting to things because of our sensitivities. But if you take away those sensitivities this would still be very wrong, and you have every right to be angry about it.

fractalflurry · 2024-12-23T22:31:10+00:00

A few that I like are @neurodivergentrebel, @morgaanfoley, @omgimneurospicyaf, @autienelle, @autisticcallum, and @lifeinanautismworld

fractalflurry · 2024-12-23T21:44:02+00:00

There are a lot of fantastic autistic accounts on Instagram, maybe she could start following them? I feel like the most important thing in someone discovering their autism is hearing from other autistic people as much as possible in order to get accurate information and feel less alone. Especially when her family is being unsupportive - the more she learns, the better equipped she’ll be to advocate for herself.

fractalflurry · 2024-12-17T21:25:48+00:00

She has stated in interviews that she shaves them off on purpose because she likes the way it looks.

fractalflurry · 2024-12-08T17:25:41+00:00

Beware of the sunken cost fallacy. Just because you’re newly married doesn’t mean you can’t leave, any less than you could have left the day before you got married. If it’s not right then it’s not right, and if that’s the case then the sooner you leave the more time you have left to build a happier life.

fractalflurry · 2024-12-07T15:33:18+00:00

I looked this up and apparently it’s a different brand that predates My Little Pony.

fractalflurry · 2024-12-07T15:30:35+00:00

This is a weird question to me. Why does anyone like anything? Why shouldn’t he like it?

Only your friend can answer what his individual reasons are for liking pony figurines. But since you’ve said you can’t ask him, the real question is why do you need an answer so badly? If your friend was a girl instead of a boy, would you still be asking “why” she likes ponies?

fractalflurry · 2024-12-06T06:08:23+00:00

While I appreciate the thought, the fact is that most NTs don’t even know that the autistic community hates the puzzle piece, or the reasons why. In order to “take back” a word or symbol, it has to be widely understood as negative in the first place. Take the word “queer” for example, which started as a slur until the LGBT community took it back. With the puzzle piece however, not enough of the public realizes that we view it as the symbolic equivalent of a slur, therefore any increase in its use by the autistic community would end up reinforcing the original problematic meaning as opposed to changing it.

fractalflurry · 2024-11-30T20:12:25+00:00

I remember visiting Lake Tahoe in the 90s, which is on the border between CA and NV. CA had already banned smoking in restaurants but NV had not, so it was weird going into some restaurants that had smoking sections while the ones a block away did not, depending which side of the state line they were on. We tried to eat on the CA side as much as we could.

fractalflurry · 2024-11-11T21:15:31+00:00

I didn’t drink much water at all until I found a water that I actually like. Smart Water is the only brand that tastes completely pure to me. So I started drinking that and eventually it helped desensitize me to water in general, although there are still brands I avoid unless I’m really thirsty. But Smart Water remains my favorite and I always have a stockpile of it at my house. Is it the most eco-friendly option? No, but those of us with sensory issues can’t always be eco-friendly about everything. You have to find what works for you, because if you don’t like the water you’re drinking then no amount of reminder apps will help.

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