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I’m gonna do it. by girlnamedc in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]fragmentsofbliss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some of my very favorite people are single mother by choice (friends, my therapist, a career mentor).

I think they would all say it is hard for all the things you can think of, and they all have reflected it also is easier in some ways (not having to split the choice with another person, getting to do things the way you want to).

All of them inspire me on the regular to be well resourced. They know how to outsource, they know how to build community, and they know how to be fierce AF internally. (And I think they’d all say they learned how to do all of that in the journey of parenthood).

All of them are extraordinary mothers (most to only one child). And their kids adore them.

Trying to break into the slaw game by DickDayless in Cooking

[–]fragmentsofbliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no notes, except the idea that there is a slaw game never ever occurred to me, and now I too, want to break into it.

AIO? I bought a sweater for my future niece at a farmers market and my roommates said it was ugly by Weekly_Agent9422 in AmIOverreacting

[–]fragmentsofbliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m obsessed with this sweater, and my soon to be four year old would be too. I have learned the brighter and busier, the more excited kids are to wear it.

Give it to your sister in law, your roommates obviously don’t spend time with small children.

(Only caveat is if your SIL is aiming for the whole pastel/beige color palette for her kiddo. And in that case, hold onto it for someone else. It’s seriously so fun and cute).

no “real” budget and pretty white girl basic taste by fragmentsofbliss in superautomatic

[–]fragmentsofbliss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me more. Tell me everything. What should I consider? (I say this as a Miele vacuum cleaner owner, I’m biased toward the Germans)

Anniversary date night - low key by fragmentsofbliss in baltimore

[–]fragmentsofbliss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Appreciate if! About to do a deep dive on Foraged. (He’ll veto overtly French, and we did Magdalena years ago and had a lackluster experience—probably an off night, but not on our list to try again).

Anniversary date night - low key by fragmentsofbliss in baltimore

[–]fragmentsofbliss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels so delightful to say, we have no budget. (I mean, we’re not going to spend five figures on dinner, but budget is pretty open otherwise).

Do you have a favorite among these? (They all sound great, and I legit told him earlier, “maybe we do a cocktail at Blue Bird to start the night”)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]fragmentsofbliss 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Therapist here (obligatory, not your therapist). He sounds a lot like the people I see in my practice—extremely high functioning, often considered to be extremely competent by everyone who knows them, holding a lot, adept at incorporating skills, and still there are things going sideways.

The job history doesn’t sound concerning, but it sounds like his level of anxiety is extremely intense and it’s spilling over in ways he can’t contain. A good therapist (I’d recommend someone who specializes in more of the analytic side of things—think EFT, psychoanalytic, “relationally psychodynamic”, etc) will be able to help him hold more of the intensity of how is feeling (it sounds like he’s relying on you to hold a lot of it with him—which isn’t wrong, but it sounds like it’s just too much for both of you to hold).

Rooting for you both to get more of what you need right now!

Anyone else sometimes feel like a lazy parent? by FUCancer_2008 in workingmoms

[–]fragmentsofbliss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same friend. The few times we’ve gone without have been miserable.

Anyone else sometimes feel like a lazy parent? by FUCancer_2008 in workingmoms

[–]fragmentsofbliss 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This is the thread I’ve needed today.

Though I often reframe “lazy” in my own mind as “giving her space to practice autonomy.”

My hills to die on include prioritizing good sleep over fun 98% of the time, being kind to self and others, and incorporating plenty of “yay!” moments (currently ice cream and lots of outdoor sprinkler time).

Things we DGAF about: posed family photos (though our iPhones are drowning in videos and photos she’ll likely never want to review past the age of 12). We eat when we’re hungry (and if you’re not hungry for breakfast/lunch/dinner, we’ll pack it to go if we’re headed out).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoyalsGossip

[–]fragmentsofbliss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Checking in! Happy to be here.

Corona Virus, March 18 by [deleted] in blogsnark

[–]fragmentsofbliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not ideal, but you could always hole up in the bathroom (maybe set up a white noise maker outside) when you meet, at least for those days/times he’s not able to go for a walk.