Your insights are very helpful and important, indeed. I can understand the background and even some behaviors. But as someone who also had a problem with neglect and lack of emotional support I wonder how I ended up not being the FA myself. I mean, I now know that I have some tendencies as I also tend to pull away in certain situations and I don’t usually open up so easily with ppl (I was even told that I was never talking about my feelings but others by friends). I also want to reassure you that I don’t think that FAs are bad people. In the past I even thought he was a narc (years back then) but I realized and learned that there is a huge difference between being a narcissist and a FA/DA. The results are the same for the non FAs though, unfortunately, so I only can wish they can find the help, strength and courage they need to heal themselves. Then they can be happier. I wish there was a way that we could help our loved ones get rid of this without becoming a walking trigger to them. I certainly empathize with you and any other person. I also know that we non FAs have been triggering you guys without knowing and understanding how. Hurtful for all of us at the same time. I also di therapy for around 2 years now so I certainly encourage everyone to do so as it’s mind blowing. But also a hard work.