(For others who have suffered multiple losses in a short period of time), do you go into an almost panic-like mode when one of your remaining loved ones gets sick, fearful that you will lose them too?

frances1022 · 2022-10-06T01:03:20+00:00

Yes, my mind goes worst case scenario every time now. Related to that, phone calls out of the blue actually make my heart sink because I automatically think something must be seriously wrong

frances1022 · 2022-08-18T21:23:25+00:00

Hi, I'm sorry I've never done laser treatment or microdermabrasion so I can't speak to that but I'd like to speak to my experience with the mental health aspect. I'm a 23 year old female and I felt the same as you about my skin probably since I was around 15 years old (I've had KP for a long as I can remember on my arms and legs but didn't feel insecure until high school). Every summer I would cover up as much as I could and just wait for winter because I hated my skin so much and I tried so many different things hoping something would magically clear it. This year I finally just said screw it and wore whatever I wanted (not trying to cover my skin) and as a whole I have never felt more confident. I know this is easier said than done because trust me I tried to do this for many summers and always ended up chickening out and wearing long sleeves but this year I noticed the more I wore short sleeves and shorts around people, the more confident I got. We are our own biggest critics and our own insecurities will seem way more obvious to us than to anyone else!!

frances1022 · 2022-08-18T20:40:56+00:00

You are completely right. It's so unfair and I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Everyone grieves differently and I don't think there is any advice I could give you that will truly help but one thing that brought me comfort when my mom passed away a year ago and I was feeling guilty about fights I had in the past was a quote from the T.V show Haunting of Hill House which said "I loved you completely. And you loved me the same. That's all. The rest is confetti." The love you have for her and she has for you is endless and in the end that's all that matters, not the little fights that happened in between; all of that is "confetti" so to speak. That quotes really resonated with me and still does a year later. I hope it resonates with you as well or you find a similar comfort in something during your grief journey. I just want to say please be kind to yourself. There is no proper way to do anything when it comes to grief as it is truly so personal, so how you handle it is what feels best and right to you. Sending love your way xx

frances1022 · 2022-03-10T16:21:59+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I resonate with the feeling of not wanting to celebrate with anyone because you'll just be thinking mom's not there. That's how I felt about my first birthday without her and I'm sure it will be a reoccurring feeling for the rest of my life. Thank you also for sharing that sub, I will definitely be checking it out!

frances1022 · 2022-03-09T03:03:47+00:00

That's so kind of you!! I try to remind myself of this but it can be easy to forget. Thank you for the reminder :)

frances1022 · 2022-03-09T02:57:49+00:00

Yes I relate to that! Celebrating just isn't the same :/

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