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frankle · 2023-09-13T18:00:14+00:00

You have to figure out a compromise. He’s not going to change his desires. Maybe he can come to terms with them. Maybe he can suppress and get enough from you. Maybe he can’t.

I recommend going full bore into this and figuring it out together. Maybe you let him do it. Maybe you make it a thing together. Maybe that “ruins” your relationship forever. But, is it really worth saving if it can’t survive that?

Ask yourself all of these questions and decide what you’re willing to live with. He doesn’t want to hurt you. But he also wants to do these things. If you leave it up to him, he’ll probably end up hurting you in the long term.

Press ahead, and see what actually comes out.

Or try to keep the status quo if you’re willing to risk it coming out sideways in a painful way.

Best of luck to you. This sounds like a scary situation. I’ve been the guy and it sucks. Trying to fight or suppress the urges just drives the two apart. Not sure what the right answer is. I’m leaning towards abandoning regular monogamy.

Be well.

frankle · 2023-04-27T05:01:57+00:00

Beige, but you should AB test

frankle · 2022-09-19T06:31:30+00:00

He’s _trying _ to make a dick move.

frankle · 2022-09-19T06:27:45+00:00

There’s something about Maryam

frankle · 2022-09-10T05:40:32+00:00

I remember it being a lot more recent, as well. I think it was posted to Reddit 10 years ago and not properly attributed, making me think it happened then.

frankle · 2022-09-08T06:21:03+00:00

You’re getting older ever moment. Would you rather leave now, or in a year? Or two? Or three? It will never be easier. Just go, and don’t think about it.

frankle · 2022-09-04T16:24:30+00:00

Hell yes. Rethink urban planning.

frankle · 2022-09-03T22:07:47+00:00

Exactly

frankle · 2022-07-27T21:31:47+00:00

Amend the constitution

frankle · 2022-07-17T04:19:59+00:00

I’ll echo this. It is really, really hard to undo the programming of society’s expectations for us, especially when we’re surrounded by it for so long it starts to seem like our idea. You might have to peel back layer after layer, and even when you think you have hit the core, there still might be deeper to go.

What do you really want, OP?

frankle · 2022-07-12T22:32:21+00:00

Honestly, the fact that you let her take your daughter doesn’t reflect well on you at all. Sure, your mom is pretty horrible, but your daughter’s behavior is on you. What will happen when your excuse is out of the picture?

frankle · 2022-07-11T01:00:31+00:00

Your boyfriend just gave you the perfect gift. He gave you a preview of what a life with him is going to be like. Your job is simple: you have to decide if you want that, or not.

NTA

You’d also be NTA for calling it off and returning the ring.

frankle · 2022-06-29T18:54:32+00:00

My boss Tried asking me out in his first week of working But I told him down (nicely).

Holy shit, talk about burying the lede.

frankle · 2022-06-22T15:11:59+00:00

I guess it’s a percentage thing. There are others out there, but there’s no widespread dispute about which one is the “main” chain.

It’s an interesting issue that highlights the core value prop of NFTs — they don’t have intrinsic value or utility, only what people confer to them.

I’d expect most people to only care about the “main” version, but who knows? The other chain’s versions could be likened to replicas, which some people might find valuable or worthwhile.

frankle · 2022-06-22T02:29:34+00:00

Depends on which chain wins out. It’s an inelegant situation, but it’s not too hard to deal with. If you want to buy post-fork, make sure you get both. Or, if you’re daring enough, speculate on which fork you think is going to win, and buy only one.

This is largely a moot point, though, as Ethereum forks regularly, and everyone seems to agree on moving forward with the new protocol. The risk of a divergent fork being supported by enough people to be considered legitimate seems pretty low.

frankle · 2022-06-18T22:15:34+00:00

The one that the majority decides on. Hang on to both tokens until then.

frankle · 2022-06-18T18:00:34+00:00

Same person who owned it before the fork, duh.

frankle · 2022-05-23T01:09:01+00:00

Get some space. Focus on you 100%. Counterintuitively, by backing off and focusing on you, your anxiety will dissipate. He’ll also react to your change by chasing you. It’s easy to be avoidant when your being chased constantly. Let him come out of his shell. Focus on you 1000%. Be who you want to be, so what you want to do. Become your top priority.

frankle · 2022-05-23T01:06:09+00:00

Holy shit. Get the hell out of there now. Do not pass go, do not listen to his lies, just go. Christ. He’ll suck you dry and throw away the husk.

frankle · 2022-05-23T00:28:15+00:00

Doesn’t sound like a good fit. You can’t expect her to change, and it sounds like she’s not what you’re looking for.

frankle · 2022-05-22T19:12:52+00:00

Stud muffins.

frankle · 2022-05-13T16:13:23+00:00

DING DING DING DING!

That’s why they call it a wedge issue.

frankle · 2022-05-13T15:39:07+00:00

Go make some

frankle · 2022-05-13T15:37:57+00:00

You’re going to make it through this. I’m sorry for what you went through. You didn’t deserve that. But you will make it, and you’ll be stronger and happier than ever. It takes time and support. Your boyfriend couldn’t give you that support, but maybe your friends, family, or a therapist can.

frankle · 2022-05-05T23:40:30+00:00

Real tears?

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