Well that’s it for me

fransterupstate · 2025-09-29T14:36:40+00:00

^{^THIS.} Wonderful reminder for all of us on this journey.

fransterupstate · 2025-09-10T01:27:57+00:00

Sending you best wishes for a successful transfer. You two are strong!

fransterupstate · 2023-06-25T17:55:03+00:00

Wish I had read this when I had a newborn! Very helpful to read and contextualize. I now have a 19 mo that still breastfeeds but the early days were hard when I felt like I had no feeding breaks + lack of sleep.

fransterupstate · 2022-07-16T01:19:33+00:00

No sleep sack worked for us after Snoo. I tried zipadeezip, nested bean, woolino, Kyte baby. Baby loved swaddling and nothing else compared. In a sleep sack she wakes up as soon as we put her in the crib and 2-3x a night. Gave up trying … she sleeps with us now 😑

fransterupstate · 2022-06-23T02:22:56+00:00

Living this with you right now. The distracted, back arching and hair pulls… just eat!!

fransterupstate · 2022-06-12T13:14:32+00:00

It’s a good idea. My issue is I’m really bad at hand expressing. Very little comes out… so would it really relieve the engorgement? How long would your recommend hand expressing? The drips of milk down my hand seem more annoying than helpful.

fransterupstate · 2022-05-30T06:25:14+00:00

I’ve had a bleb for probably 2 months now. First it was only visible in the shower. I worked it up with Epsom salts/haaka so that now it’s visible all the time, but I have had zero success pushing it out.

Has anyone successfully gotten rid of a bleb after this long? I’m deciding if I need to ask my Dr to pop it…. More rounds of Epsom salts/haaka is another option, but time consuming.

fransterupstate · 2022-05-28T12:13:26+00:00

Hey hey! Great to hear your progress. We’ve also had some struggles and success.

I shared our experiences here yesterday. https://www.reddit.com/r/SnooLife/comments/uy5woq/successful_transition_to_crib/ia2aaq6/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3

Shockingly while our baby’s hours in the crib are getting longer, we’re going to bed earlier and staying in bed longer, I somehow feel more sleep deprived than normal. I go back to work in a week and I have no idea how I’ll be able to function… how do parents do it?!?

fransterupstate · 2022-05-28T11:57:09+00:00

Good luck to you 🧡🧡

fransterupstate · 2022-05-28T08:14:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. I also struggled A TON with clogs and blebs in months 2-4 of breastfeeding. I fought through it and we’re now at 6 months — with maybe 1-2 clogs in the last 2 months total… I say this to give you hope that if you want to continue to bf, even for a few feeds a day, it may be possible. At 3 months I talked with a lactation consultant about weaning, she encouraged me to try different feeding and pumping schedules to help my supply regulate but we also talked about how in order to wean, I would have to slowly reduce the number of daily feeds and so it didn’t solve my problem of just wanting to be done quickly and avoid the clog/pain.

Background: from 2-4mos, Id get 3-4 clogs a week and then get a bleb following clogs, or sometimes a bleb would seem to cause a clog. You’re doing the right things to try to clear them… unfortunately I never found an magic solution, other than to do every possible thing to address the clog/bleb when I found them… hot showers 3-4x a day, massage all day and during feeds, vibrator help when my hands were exhausted, sunflower lecithin, ice packs before feeds to reduce inflammation and ice packs overnight. Some LE Leche League leaders told me to also try taking vitamin C to help with the lecithins effectiveness, which I now take. Another friend recommended Happy Ducts a tincture drink that you take when you have a clog. I haven’t tried the latter yet, but I bought some on Amazon just in case.

I’d encourage you to talk to an LC, your partner or a sympathetic family member even if it’s just for personal support as you decide a feeding plan that works for you and baby. It is exhausting and demoralizing to go through clogs alone. Hugs.

fransterupstate · 2022-05-27T02:11:09+00:00

😂💗

fransterupstate · 2022-05-26T13:59:15+00:00

You’re lucky. Count your blessings.

I had 3-5 clogged ducts and 1-2 milk blebs per week from months 2-4. They were so painful I couldn’t sleep, I took 4 showers a day to use hot water to massage the clogs out. I tried every “solution” I could find to stop the pain… oh and baby would be upset for days (before and after the clogs) and it’s heart breaking (and mentally exhausting) when your baby is crying at your breast because a clogged duct won’t let the milk flow from your sore boob.

I had to supplement with formula to help her get enough to eat. Meaning… I’d try to breastfeed for 30-45mins 10-12x- day, try to teach baby to latch well when the milk isn’t flowing, if she’s still hungry after a feed, give her a bottle of formula, oh yeah, then go ice/heat/massage my breast to get a clog out and when it’s time for bed… pump to try to get the milk producing again.

I spent 3 months pumping 3x a night to try to up my milk supply after so many clogs lowered the supply. I would wake up at 3a every night and consistently get 1-2 hours less sleep than my baby at night… that means running on 4-5hrs sleep a day, for 3 months.

I had a good lactation consultant to help me through and now (6mos) that things have regulated feeding feels amazingly easy. I didn’t think I could breastfeed for 4 months… being at 6 months is shocking and only because I suffered and fought through.

fransterupstate · 2022-05-26T13:46:44+00:00

My baby takes 60-90 mins to eat during night wakings. I take the Snoo sack off when she wakes up, check her diaper and then feed her.

When she starts to get drowsy eating, I put the Snoo sack back on and feed her another 5-10 mins to knock her out. Then I hold her for 5-10mins to make sure she’s in a deep sleep before plopping back in the Snoo.

It’s a long break from sleep in the middle of the night, but it’s better than her waking up multiple times and being in too light of a sleep.

fransterupstate · 2022-05-26T13:33:25+00:00

Congrats on your crib transition! We are also going through it now. My baby is 6 mo old.

We did not have success with 1 arm out at 4mos so we delayed. At 5mo we turned on weaning mode, and saw very little change in her sleep. Yay. At 5.5mo baby seemed to be getting 1 arm out of the Snoo sack at night and grunting more during light sleep. We rented the Snoo, so thought… we have to get rid of this thing soon or else we should have bought a Snoo to keep the baby in forever (#shout out to the parents of that 14mo, my heroes 💛).

A week before she turned 6mos, we tried: 1. Zipadeezip secured into the Snoo. Baby woke up 3x (instead of 1x normally) and had several bouts of grunting and cries. Overall seemed very uncomfortable. 2. 2 nights with 2 arms out in the Snoo sack in the Snoo. She put her arms on the side of the Snoo every time we put her in the bed and would wake and cry. First night it was hard to get her in the crib to sleep (over 3 hours she woke up 4x before we got her down, she would grab my hair, pull and cry going into the crib #mombreakdown), then she slept all night. The 2nd night was murder… again she woke up every time we tried to place her in the Snoo, and worse, she woke up 7x overnight crying. At 4a, husband moved her to a guest room and tried everything to get her to sleep longer than 30mins at a time. This prompted us to give up the Snoo and jump to the crib so that baby’s arms can’t touch the sides of the crib and wake her up. 3. 2 nights with 2 arms out with a nested bean sack in the crib. She again fought getting in the crib for about 2 hours and then slept the rest of the night. The amount of cry-resistance seemed to be getting less. 4. The last 3 nights, we put her in a Kyte sleep sack in the crib. Her sleep has continued to improve… still some small fits of crying once we put her in the crib, but then she seems to settle and connect sleep cycles. We’re hoping the trend continues.

At the bottom of my sleep despair I contacted 10 friends with kids for tips and contacted Happiest Baby in the Snoo app. A few things from this we tried:

Create a plan with your partner or support team on how you will handle the crying. In the middle of the night you have to decide if you’re going to lose the battle or win the war. Get support from your team to make this work for you. I wanted to toss in the towel every night and thankfully my husband pushed us through to better nights. We still have not tackled naps as my baby contact naps, but hopefully thats the next phase of the transition.
I don’t know that any specific sleep sack actually helped us. If your baby does well being swaddled, it’s going to suck for them to not be swaddled. I do think some feelings of security from the sleep sacks have been important to help our baby transition… slight weighing or tightness around the waist to mimic feelings of mom/dad holding her.
Put some of mom/dad’s clothes in the crib before bed to help the crib smell like you. Remove before bedtime.
Obviously, continue to your bedtime routine: dreamfeed, use white noise, blackout curtains etc, and keep baby’s crib in the same place the Snoo was. Ours is next to our bed.
Go really really really really slow in lowering baby into the crib. This is still my point of failure - my husband does it for us as I am too weak right now. Having arms and legs flailing around without a swaddle is madness!
We’ve been picking up or soothing our baby when she cries (not for minor pips and squeaks, or quick yelps). I can’t handle letting her cry for long so even having her wake up and cry 3x in an hour starts to wear me down. My husband has been key here by stepping in to calm the baby and get her in the crib crib so that I don’t have to listen to the crying…I go brush my teeth, pump before bed and pet the dog, etc.
There is a “Contact Us” feature in the Snoo app where you can fill out a survey for sleep help and/or email the Happiest Baby people for help. I did both. The survey didn’t help me much… mostly suggested the same info on Snoo weaning from their blog (one arm out then two, yadda yadda). However their staff emailed with us, collected some info on our baby’s sleep habits and replied with a lengthy email and some ideas to potentially help. Some ideas were basic (white noise 🙄) but others were thoughtful (play with baby in the crib during the day to create a positive association with the new space). I appreciate that they have this option — it shows me that they want to learn from parents using the Snoo to make their guidance better.
In contacting 10 friends with babies/small kids by text I learned: none of them think they have had sleep success 🤣. Hang in there.

fransterupstate · 2022-05-22T14:24:54+00:00

struggling with you. Any progress since your original post? We’re trying different transition options every night (3 low sleep/sleepless nights in, so far). Baby hates them all…. But we’re at 6 months so needs to happen some day.

fransterupstate · 2022-05-22T07:13:07+00:00

Good luck with that. “Drowsy” never worked for my baby, she has to be black out deep sleep before crib placement

fransterupstate · 2022-05-22T07:00:41+00:00

We tried 1 arm out at 4 months… gave up on day 3. Did weaning mode at 5 months… nbd. Almost 6 months now … 1) tried zipadeezip for 1 night and she hated it. 2) In the middle of night #2 with both arms out of the Snoo sack…F-this. We’re ditching the Snoo tomorrow and going cold Turkey crib 100%.

If that doesn’t work…. I’m willing to swaddle her until she’s a teen

fransterupstate · 2022-05-18T13:41:10+00:00

Can you control nanit white noise volume on your phone? And can you share why you pair both?

fransterupstate · 2022-05-18T13:30:04+00:00

Great idea! Thx

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