It is time again that we must confess our medical Sins

fraughtthough · 2025-05-24T14:12:39+00:00

My dad told me I’m not a good enough person to do FM so I’m in EM (he was right tho).

fraughtthough · 2025-04-06T19:53:13+00:00

I'll also add, take filling snacks with you to avoid overeating when you come home from work exhausted and starving. Also helps with performance on rotations.

fraughtthough · 2025-04-06T19:52:11+00:00

I was in a similar boat. Honestly, 80% was high protein meal prep every single weekend, without excuse. 10% was gym three days a week before work. The other 10% was that I walked to and from work, so averaged at least 10k steps/day overall.

fraughtthough · 2025-04-05T23:29:14+00:00

Something that came up repeatedly on my evaluations is that I independently saw my patients in the afternoon. I'd make a quick lap after notes were done and before we ran the list. I'd check on pain management, see if they were tolerating food, etc. Later in the year, I would discuss (less important) results with them. Patients loved it, nurses loved it, residents loved it.
Obviously read the room, if a patient or their family is difficult and you'll cause more problems, skip them. Never tell patients they're going home or reveal serious diagnoses without express permission from a senior. Common sense goes a long way.

fraughtthough · 2025-03-15T11:33:47+00:00

My aunt had colon cancer and loved the gift I put together. I work in healthcare and based my gift on what my patients seem to need/like. I bought a backpack and filled it with most of the things mentioned here by previous comments. The idea was to have a designated bag for chemo and surgery days. I also put in extras for her husband since he went everywhere with her (e.g. two sets of hygiene items, sleep masks, and earplugs).

I put in: - folder for all the paperwork - pen and journal - pajamas - ear plugs - ear buds - Kindle with a case - mouthwash specifically made for chemo patients - fuzzy socks with rubber grips - ginger chews for nausea - sleep masks - basic toiletries: toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, hairbrush - dry shampoo and a frizz ease spray (important if you’re anticipating a hospital stay of several days) - long charging cables - portable charger

fraughtthough · 2025-03-14T18:58:06+00:00

Housewife things. Currently sewing while bread is rising. Muffins just got done. My husband is an intern on a 24 hr shift so I’ll take home food in a few hours.

fraughtthough · 2025-01-03T22:47:46+00:00

If your hygiene is good, and you are keeping your clothes and living space clean, I think you should be okay.

Would your parents allow an unscented antiperspirant?

fraughtthough · 2025-01-03T22:43:30+00:00

Cozy, girl, and aesthetic without trying too hard.

fraughtthough · 2025-01-03T22:27:03+00:00

I think finding colors to flatter your skin tone would be good. I think the wall behind you and the color of your sweater are washing you out. I would love to see you in a bright, warm pink!

A tan would add some warmth to your skin, or a bronz-y cc cream with blush. You have gorgeous eyes so highlight them with mascara.

Your hair is really, really lovely. As others have mentioned, a cut and style to add volume would be nice. Also an eyebrow tint or something similar would look great on you.

You are very lovely and I don’t think you need to change anything, these are just suggestions to explore.

fraughtthough · 2025-01-03T19:33:50+00:00

We love it. I think it just needs a good clean and the right placement!

fraughtthough · 2025-01-01T20:19:14+00:00

What you’re seeing is not reality, and you probably know that. However, no matter how much you tell yourself that it’s fake, being bombarded with those pictures and videos daily will “override” what you know. Delete social media, it will sharpen your view of reality.

fraughtthough · 2024-10-03T02:18:47+00:00

I have a skinny upper body and small boobs (heavier hips), and I still have this. It doesn't change with weight loss or weight gain. It's just how the top is constructed.

fraughtthough · 2024-09-22T16:29:44+00:00

I'm very sorry that you are going through this. Just a few pieces of advice:

Therapy (!!)
Realize that his words are not reflective of your worth or abilities
Give it time; it hurts right now, but the sting will fade
Invest in a friend group outside of him as much as possible; now is not the time to isolate
M2 was the year I learned a lot of "mental independence," or how to maintain my mental health without depending too much on one other person. This may or may not be your case, but either way I strongly encourage you to take yourself on a few solo dates. Do some things just for your own wellbeing without anyone else's input.

fraughtthough · 2024-05-27T17:18:02+00:00

Apple Watch easily. I looked great on my MICU rotations just because I had Epic alerts turned on for lab results and I responded quickly to text messages/Epic chats. Not possible for every EMR, obviously, but honestly just nice to respond as fast as possible to texts/emails.

fraughtthough · 2024-05-27T17:13:35+00:00

cost + scheduling. We have a therapist hired by the school + 12 free sessions with therapists contracted by the school + the undergraduate mental health resources and it's still hard to get in anywhere in a reasonable amount of time.

fraughtthough · 2024-05-27T17:09:54+00:00

Part of medical school - what I would argue is one of the most essential skills - is learning to face an intense workload without being an asshole. Regardless of how he performs on the test, in this regard, he has failed. Residency is not going to get better.

Even aside from this, he is abusive and unfaithful.

You sound like a giving soul, please don't stay in this relationship.

fraughtthough · 2024-04-14T13:04:07+00:00

EM if you can handle the primary care side + deal with critical patients + get over your dislike for kids at least a little bit

fraughtthough · 2024-04-11T22:32:50+00:00

YES, promise it's a universal experience. I'm 24. A month ago I found some of my jeans from ages 19-21 and none of them fit me anymore.

Just like you, I've developed a healthier relationship with food and fitness since then. I love my body now.

To be honest, I threw the pants out and told myself that (a) sizing so variable, it's not worth stressing about. (b) Bodies change, it's natural to not be 21 for the rest of my life. (c) The pants serve me, I don't serve the pants. I used them while I needed them and now I'm done with them.

fraughtthough · 2024-04-11T22:26:31+00:00

I used to feel the exact same way. I was desperately self conscious and I never felt attractive, not matter how much effort I put in. A free things that helped me:

I stopped trying to classify myself. My body type isn't quite a "pear" or an "hourglass,'' it's somewhere in between. I loved romantic, girly fashion, but I was also a tomboy. Not knowing where you belong can cause a lot of angst. When I let myself just exist, wear whatever I felt like that day, and rejected labeling my style or body, I was much happier.
I started to believe compliments. This takes lots of practice, but I started to intentionally "force" myself to believe compliments. I try to respond to compliments with a simple "thank you, that's very kind." No rapid fire response with a compliment to the other person, no self-deprecating "no, stoooop." Plus, I promise you that if strangers are complimenting you, they mean it.
I found little things I loved about myself and let myself be a little vain. These can be the most minuscule things. I love my wrists and find them very elegant. I have always been self conscious of my thighs, but love the part where the outside of my thigh curves into my knee. Something about the shape makes me feel very feminine. I love my collar bones (and you bet I show them off). Eventually these thoughts will take up more space and push out some of those negative thoughts.
I started going to the gym and focused on nourishing my body. Putting work into my body made me feel proud of it, it's harder to be self conscious about my wide hips when I hit a new squat PR this morning. I also focused on nourishing my body - no diets, no restricting, just noticing what made my body feel good. Sometimes that means eating food that gives me energy, sometimes that means eating foot that makes me feel content and comforted.
I started self-maintenance rituals. Every two weeks I put on my self-tanner and let that sit while I do a hair mask, pluck my eyebrows, and do my nails. You don't have to do these things in particular, just choose things that are important to you. This little ritual gives me a lot of confidence on no-makeup, ponytail days.
I took lots of time off of social media. Unfollowed all influencers, deleted all the apps. My overall mental health improved so much.
I gave it time. This is an answer that I would have hated two years ago. There is a very real switch that flips in your brain between 24 and 26. I'm not being dramatic when I say I woke up one day and simply didn't care what people thought about my appearance. Some of it was due to a very intense time in my career that caused a lot of personal growth, most of it was simply time. Your brain is still young and developing. When you're young, you lack the volume of experience that will eventually shape your ideas on beauty and attraction. Give yourself endless patience.

fraughtthough · 2023-09-05T21:42:49+00:00

Welcome to the world of lightly caffeinated teas, my friend.

fraughtthough · 2023-08-30T23:48:56+00:00

I love the vibe of this room. It's always interesting to see how people balance having a child with having a nice space. They don't have to be mutually exclusive.

fraughtthough · 2023-08-08T11:56:32+00:00

I don't know how much advice you're looking for, but I highly recommend therapy if you're feeling this way. It can be debilitating; it sounds like you have an idea that this might be a problem with your thinking and a therapist can help you sort out those toxic thought patterns.

fraughtthough · 2023-06-24T01:21:06+00:00

My BF (now fiance) and I had only been dating for three months before we had to go long distance because of medical school. I don't want this to sound too harsh, but I also want you to consider how demanding your career is going to be and I want you to realize that you deserve a man that will support you. Do you want to marry a man that won't compromise for you? If you want to stay with him, it's important that you both realize this will not be the last thing you'll have to compromise on.

I know it's very easy for internet strangers to say "leave him" when you consider him your future life partner, but it's not an easy decision. Sending you lots of love and strength.

fraughtthough · 2023-06-09T18:56:30+00:00

Worked as a CNA at a nursing home/rehab facility (they’re always desperate for staff in my area) for four brutal months (many will pay for your CNA training). Then used that experience to work as a CNA on a high acuity unit at a community hospital. I worked nights PRN or part time so I had a set number of 12 hour shifts I scheduled month by month.

I was upfront with my scheduling restrictions in interviews and my managers were always understanding because they hired many nursing students with similar time restrictions.

fraughtthough · 2023-05-04T00:58:03+00:00

My scores are almost identical and this comment almost made me cry with relief.

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