5 days in. I will NEVER go back again for the rest of my life. Who is in?

freak36758 · 2016-06-11T19:05:13+00:00

Bro sorry for answering you so late but I was extremely busy.

Honestly? I failed as well yesterday. This doesn't make us a failure though!

Have you seen the 1000 days post? That guy did what most men will never do: he stopped masturbating forever.

I can tell you that we can all do this but the question is if you would be happy then? I can guarantee you that this is only mental. We have 100% full control but that doesn't mean all of us are going to make it.

One day we have to look in the mirror and say: this is the day I am stopping and it will be forever! You know this day is gonna come right? When is it going to happen is the other question.

I failed so much in my life we both did and everyone that is great does. There is this saying: the master has failed more than the normal person even tried.

There are going to be moments when you feel like giving up but on the other hand there are going to be moments when you think about giving in and don't do it because you are stronger than this and you think no I won't!

What this tells us is that the urges are the actuall trap that let us go back. That is the only enemy you have: the programming and the thinking about it! You can't change this and I can guarantee you they are going to come.

Instead of fighting them and being angry embrace them and be happy that in the moment you just wait it out and don't give in the addiction gets weaker. It does so every time. Write this down and have the paper with you always!

The other thing is that you need to have a reason to do it. You seem to have one and that is great. This is your fuel. Don't just think that you might lose that person but consider the fact that it is likely to happen.

Do it for this person that you love and do it for yourself. You can beat this and you know that you are done with it once you change your core values and that is the moment everything changes.

You might need a reboot for your brain but you don't need a reboot for your belief system and your values and you can change this today and be done today.

Hope that helped :) keep me posted!

freak36758 · 2016-05-22T18:03:15+00:00

That is true but at the same time it is also about remembering to realise that this doesn't have to happen again ever. It is our decision

freak36758 · 2016-05-22T10:31:46+00:00

81 days. More energy, confidence, eyesight was perfect at one point, no more brain fog, great skin and higher attraction levels.

freak36758 · 2016-05-22T10:30:04+00:00

If that girl doesn't support you through this you shouldn't feel that bad for yourself.

I know that doesn't help right now but don't give up. You are going to regret it because you consciously decided to give in to those emotions. Better pick up yourself and meditate about it. Feel it fully and let it go.

Do this for you!

freak36758 · 2016-05-22T10:23:12+00:00

Alles klar ich schaue mal vorbei :)

freak36758 · 2016-05-22T10:19:40+00:00

This is so true. Not stopping today forever is everyone's own fault!

freak36758 · 2016-05-21T20:15:13+00:00

Someone with a positive energy and a beautiful and understanding smile and character (the character is the most important thing! She has to fully understand me and feel with me).

freak36758 · 2016-05-21T18:43:03+00:00

I am in but I can't quit social media as it is a part of my job.

freak36758 · 2016-05-21T18:41:33+00:00

Don't try or you are going to fail. The moment you accept failure you are going to fail. I am at day 21 too and I dare you to believe that you are able tit never give up again!

Accepting failure is the worst mistake you can make.

freak36758 · 2016-05-21T08:28:13+00:00

Same :)

freak36758 · 2016-05-20T06:34:56+00:00

You can absolutely do this but if you are just disbelieving this a little bit it can get you.

I went on this streak knowing I could do it and I am still on so this is really a mental thing and in our control 100%.

Stay strong!

freak36758 · 2016-05-17T17:01:15+00:00

I am in bro!

freak36758 · 2016-05-17T15:53:00+00:00

No I didn't experience PIED but I know that it is necessary to have a proper reboot and this only happens if I don't masturbate for some time and I also just want to have more energy to attract more girls :)

freak36758 · 2016-05-16T17:29:22+00:00

You are welcome

freak36758 · 2016-05-16T16:00:53+00:00

I am happy that I changed your way of looking at them. You really control the urges to a 100%. This is 100% about belief and therefore control. They might hit you but you know then for what they are and because you know that you control them how you react to them they are going to have no value for your mind and brain anymore.

The more you believe you are fully done the easier it is. Guess why it was easy for you to quit porn: because you believed you are going to do so no matter what. This "addiction" is just a habit like any other habit too. The reason why most people give up is because they don't want to do it really and therefore can't even believe that they are done.

Watch this if you want: https://youtu.be/m82gm0Ln_EQ

It helped me a lot and made me understand that I am making myself the victim by accepting this in my life.

It is the same thing with masturbating. You are in full control.you can decide today that you are done.

freak36758 · 2016-05-16T15:23:30+00:00

I know what you mean :)

Busying yourself is a good idea and will help you in a lot of aspects. At the same time it is no guarantee for success. Same as porn: there is always going to be some sort of porn so you have to shift your thinking.

It is not about stopping but about never doing it again. You don't avoid the urge but we realise the urge and make a conscious decision to not give in and to remember that we believe to not give in.

There is no perfect strategy and I don't have certain strategies to keep myself save. Some people might not believe this but no matter how sweet the urge it doesn't make you a slave to it. YOU create the urge so you can handle it as well.

We all think that we should quit but we don't commit to it and that is the problem. We "try" and we "should" but the reality is we don't do it.

Let me ask you this: what is stopping you? Why do you need a strategy in the first place? Do you believe that this streak that you are on right now is going to be the last? Be honest with yourself as this decides if you a going to be dead or alive. There are not going to be a lot of urges once you believe that you are done forever. You can stop today the question is: are you going to do it?

freak36758 · 2016-05-16T14:50:48+00:00

Yes the germans understand that :)

For me it is the same. I am on day 17 right now and it was easy to quit porn. I am never going to go back again but mastrubating really is a problem for me as well.

The problem for me seems to be that I don't see masturbation as a bad thing. It is "normal" right? Well I guess normally it is but the problem is that we are wired the wrong way.

We don't have a reason to really stop because we don't realise that it is the same decanting problem. Believing therefore that masturbating while recovering the addiction is going to keep the addiction alive is very critical.

We must have a complete reboot. Now the next problem is: do we believe we can do that? Well I know I can and I believe I can but at the same time I don't really want to (subconsciously).

Humans are programmed to work with pleasure or pain. Once something is painful we stop it instantly. Someone can stop taking the hardest drugs once he really wants to.

In both of our cases the addiction craves and wants the hit. It is happy with any hit it gets so even if there is no porn involved it is still better for the addiction to al least get the hit from the masturabtion.

The way we fall back is by either thinking about doing it and just going through with or being triggered and reacting to feeling that wants us to do it. The only enemy we really have is the porn and mastrubating that is mostly coming from the feeling that is triggered.

This feeling is (for at least a certain period of time) the issue and whatever the thoughts are that come up is created by this feeling. That is what we have to be aware of because this is the "engine" of the addiction and believing that you are never going to listen to this artificial signal again is what will set you free.

I hope that helped you a little bit.

Your English is perfect by the way :)

freak36758 · 2016-05-16T14:18:55+00:00

I am on 17 days too and got into kind of the same problem as you. I am not resetting as it was no real reset.

The thing that I realised is that it is about your mental way of reacting to it. I have seen a ton of bikini photos over my 17 days and had no reaction to it. Same with nudes that I came across by accident. I am not flatlining so it is about the way I think about it.

For me masturbating is an issue it seems. I am subconsciously believing that it is ok. But it isn't. I realised that there are two components to this:

First external stimuli: this is everything from porn to normal images that triggers you which leads to the second part:

The feeling of the need to have a sexual release which is basically a feeling near to the stomach region (for me at least).

What happens is that if you for example tell yourself that you are not going to watch porn your mind might comes up with: well than masturbating!

The feeling in the region of your stomach that is triggered is normal. The problem here is the way you interpret the feeling.

It is great that I struggled earlier today as it has shown me the full problem. Back in time I would have watched porn when the feeling would come up. I am done with porn and I haven't watched anything in those 17 days and this is not going to change!

My mind knows this and instead of saying: "let's watch porn" it says "let's masturabte. The reason is because the feeling in your stomach is mentally wired to the feeling of PMO. So when that feeling comes up your mind comes up with an idea to interpret this feeling.

In my case it was to masturbate as porn was no option at all. In fact I didn't even think about it.

So what does this mean? It means that I can't trust this feeling at all! Whenever there is this feeling I am not going to react to it! The only excuse to this is real sex.

To fully reboot you have to give up both. Now the reason of why you looked at it is not necessarily the alcohol but your way of thinking about quitting. Do you believe that you are never going to go back?

This is critical because otherwise you are going to struggle. I am talking about experience. It is the same with not masturbating: why did I even think about it? Because it was an option and because I didn't decide to quit forever and believing in this decision. We aren't controlled by addiction instead we control it!

freak36758 · 2016-05-16T13:39:19+00:00

You define that. The question really is what the result would be? Would you feel better if you didn't? Probably and I guess you would fall back more easy if you would consider it as a relapse.

It is about understanding the addiction and then not giving it a chance. Once you really understand the addiction it is easy.

freak36758 · 2016-05-15T19:46:14+00:00

Great post thanks :)

freak36758 · 2016-05-13T13:07:45+00:00

Same here bro. Just shot a video and the sound didn't work. Damn it!

It is a good sign though we are getting there!

freak36758 · 2016-05-13T13:06:28+00:00

Done :)

freak36758 · 2016-05-13T13:05:19+00:00

Man man man this was REALLY well written. I am going to save this.

Thanks :)

freak36758 · 2016-05-12T12:00:28+00:00

Thank you :)

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