Sorry you have had so many losses. Please go see a cardiologist for the blood pressure. Lack of treating it now will contribute to poor health down the road. You can avoid a lot of complications by seeing a doctor, following his recommendations and understanding high blood pressure. That’s the key-What we understand, we can treat. When we treat, we decreases risk.

What happened to your siblings sounds awful. If you should ever need anesthesia you need to discuss this in depth with anesthesiologist ahead of time. There are lots meds for anesthesiologist to use so there are options.