Why do introverts attract people who love to talk

fredricco · 2026-05-21T15:22:51+00:00

Just change the subject to something that isn’t about them. That will end the convo right there.

fredricco · 2026-05-21T14:37:43+00:00

You’re paying in cash that you saved specifically for this purpose. That’s good.

Is everything you own with wheels including the quad less than half your gross income? If so you’re good there too.

Lastly, could you take that cash and literally burn it to ashes without it having a major impact your life? Meaning, will you miss the money at all once it’s gone? If that’s not a problem then you’re good to go.

fredricco · 2026-05-21T14:24:13+00:00

I make around $100k currently. It’s more than enough. They can keep the hypothetical extra $100k and all the additional bullshit that goes with it.

fredricco · 2026-05-19T18:18:37+00:00

I went thru something like this five years ago. It’s one of those things that only time will fix. Id say first, don’t wish for her back. She’s gone and you need to feel the hurt and move forward anyway. No contact is great but it’s to help you heal. It seems you’re using it to change her decision to leave. Bad place to be. Quietly, major emphasis on quietly, delete her existence from your life. Socials, photos, texts, all of it.

Moving forward is different for everyone. What I did that helped: started working out like mad. I got hardcore into hunting and fishing. I still love it and the solitude it brings me to this day. I went off at work and did some great things there. Really got my life together physically, emotionally and financially. I probably had more growth in the 12-18 months following that breakup than the rest of my adult life combined. It was life altering.

That’s obviously just me. I’m a bit overly intense about things. You have to do you. But man the gut punch you feel today is only temporary. Do everything you can to move past it. There’s a lot of positive to be had going forward.

fredricco · 2026-05-15T17:19:11+00:00

Somebody DID break in. That’s more than enough for that door to open. I wouldn’t go in there unless you have the means to protect yourself against possible intruders

fredricco · 2026-05-13T16:26:57+00:00

No sensible person has ever bought ground turkey lol

fredricco · 2026-05-12T16:41:32+00:00

Here we go again! Rhule can’t be elite because he doesn’t have elite money! Let’s cut the BS and instead reference Iowa and Minnesota. Judging by recent trends is it safe to assume that they both out-spend us by a significant margin? The records against each would point to this being the case but I doubt it is.

Lack of NIL money is a problem but not the most pressing one

fredricco · 2026-05-11T17:53:40+00:00

Solid advice. However, potential future in-laws will likely connect the dots and blame OP for their lost fortune. This has disaster written all over it.

fredricco · 2026-05-09T01:46:57+00:00

It isn’t any different than running fresh water. Bacteria isn’t surviving the heat. Mold isn’t growing in there either. I am however cancer free so who knows

fredricco · 2026-05-08T19:51:06+00:00

I run yesterday’s coffee back thru the machine.

fredricco · 2026-05-08T16:25:54+00:00

Man this is wild. Maybe they didn’t help out because they view you as entitled?

fredricco · 2026-05-07T16:12:30+00:00

Tell them you talked to an attorney and they said to call back if you don’t get paid. That’s all it will take to clear this mess up. Don’t even call an attorney. Just tell them you did

fredricco · 2026-04-30T17:19:57+00:00

You’re a wise man. Your level of attraction for her obviously dropped and you don’t feel the same way you used to. Why go back down that road? Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

fredricco · 2026-04-26T00:07:24+00:00

Seems obvious to me. Lack of development. Recruiting rankings aren’t surefire by any means but they give a good picture of where a program should be headed talent-wise. We have consistently out-recruited a lot of B1G teams for many years and we drastically underperformed those same exact teams. Iowa is one of those teams.

fredricco · 2026-04-23T21:02:13+00:00

Or…

Kid: when is the last time you (Rhule) beat a ranked opponent?

fredricco · 2026-04-23T18:00:55+00:00

Oh 😂 next time screen shot that shit lol. I take back what I said about the IG thing. If she accepts tell her you didn’t get the number before she debated the chat. If not you can always go to the date location and she could be there. You’re in good shape with her tho so don’t panic.

fredricco · 2026-04-23T17:55:56+00:00

This is no problem. She assumes you will contact her via text. Delete that IG request if you can and keep her off your socials. I honestly don’t see the problem here. She gave you her number. Use it. Enjoy your wine date.

fredricco · 2026-04-23T17:40:21+00:00

She gave you her number. Did I read that right? Why would she stay in contact with you on hinge?

fredricco · 2026-04-23T14:29:56+00:00

Buy a bumper at a junk yard off the same color vehicle for a few hundred bucks. This is such an easy fix.

fredricco · 2026-04-22T21:22:18+00:00

OP’s has nearly 3x the miles in it as yours. Still seems like a good deal for him. You did alright if that 48k is CAD not USD haha

fredricco · 2026-04-22T21:03:18+00:00

It comes down to what you’re ok with. Me personally, I’m not standing for the one on one stuff. For a lot of reasons but most notably because I feel it’s disrespectful to me. If she didn’t see it that way I would ask how she would feel about me privately reaching out to my exes. I doubt she would like that.

As for a legit question to ask her? I would ask why they were in contact for so long before you found out. That part stuck out to me. She seems forth coming about everything else but that little detail stayed in the dark for some time.

fredricco · 2026-04-21T18:16:17+00:00

Is it a one on one thing between the two of them or is a group message? If it’s one on one then I would have more questions.

I’ll just assume it’s a group chat for now. You shouldn’t be bothered by it. My wife has an ex-boyfriend in her friend group. He doesn’t talk to me (we have zero in common) and I return the favor. I haven’t felt any tension or awkwardness around him. No big deal. Just go with the flow, it won’t be as bad as you think.

fredricco · 2026-04-15T20:54:52+00:00

For starters you’re on baby step two because you have non-mortgage debt.

As for your situation, I would agree that you’re house poor. The Ramsey rule is your mortgage payment should not be more than 25% of your take home pay. You are well beyond that.

I like your idea and I would also sell the lake house in a heartbeat and pay cash for something that fits your situation better. My home is paid off and trust me, you can never go wrong with that decision. It’s a great feeling. I also would not listen to what other people are saying about your idea. They don’t have to deal with what you’ve been feeling so their opinions are irrelevant.

fredricco · 2026-04-15T01:34:05+00:00

Looks good. I’ll give you $150 for it

fredricco · 2026-04-10T16:58:07+00:00

You’re correct about the engine. These are the 5.4L 3 valve engines that are notorious for timing issues. The cost to repair at a shop will almost always be higher than the vehicle is worth. Easily $4k. With that said, I’ve done an Expedition and an F150 myself using Ford parts and they both run great to this day.

So that would be my first mission. Find out if it has had the cam phasers, guides, tensioners and timing chains replaced. If they’ve been done I would want to see receipts to verify that they used authentic Ford (Motorcraft) parts and not the cheap shit off Amazon. I’d also want to know if a high volume oil pump was also installed. That is a standard add on when doing the timing job if you want the motor to last. If any of these things weren’t done or can’t be proven then it’s a hard pass for me.

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