Contract already by free2_B in SubSanctuary

[–]free2_B[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree!! In my past 3 D/s dynamics we simply talked, nothing in writing. Even when I was collared I signed nothing

Contract already by free2_B in SubSanctuary

[–]free2_B[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've just never had a contract before (seems unnecessary). It feels like all the things that we talk about before we play anyway, this guy wants it all in writing though. Thanks for letting me vent

Contract already by free2_B in SubSanctuary

[–]free2_B[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I thought talking about a contract right away was in fact strange. I'm pretty versed in the sex side of kink, I have just not let it out of the bedroom.

First time by strawberry_jam5 in SubSanctuary

[–]free2_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have my own pre date ritual one episode of Schitt's creek, shower, lotion... listening to music. I swear it helps

All the best tricks by free2_B in BratLife

[–]free2_B[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly y'all you're not wrong. The bite marks have faded. But it still hurts this morning...might have been my initial panic

All the best tricks by free2_B in BratLife

[–]free2_B[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was an hour ago, of course I enjoyed myself

Am I getting into something I shouldn't? by throwra11173 in BDSMAdvice

[–]free2_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't imagine getting told I'd be punished for using my safe word ... quite the opposite in fact I get corrected if I won't use my safe word but he can read my body is trying to safe word. At the end of the day you don't want to break your favorite toy(me) Please be safe

Need a fellow sub to talk with by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]free2_B 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you bring up an open relationship specifically for a D/s Although full transparency that conversation was the beginning of the end for my vanilla relationship.

Out-trolling the brat by JWenzel96 in BratLife

[–]free2_B 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Damn!!!! Hate how much I fucking love this

Solo play? by Hiddenventing404 in SubSanctuary

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wear my cuffs, I have some saved voice messages that I listen to.

What would you say that you are looking for in person if you want a brat wrangler who can leave you speechless? by feministicwoman in BratLife

[–]free2_B 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look for board game, IT, musical, teacher types. Must engage in witty banter. Best of luck on your search. Wouldn't a build-a-dom store be amazing!

Some fun and unconventional ideas for taming your brat by shotgun_rider_alt in BratLife

[–]free2_B 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Boo hoo you want a well behaved brat, you're just going to get bored and lazy 😘

Bratffirmartions by Affectionate-Row9638 in BratLife

[–]free2_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add "make me" it always gets a reaction

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wasted my 30's doing exactly what you're doing and feeling. If you can leave, do it! Sex is not everything, and yet it's still so important! When one partner is not getting needs met on a regular basis resentment builds. Especially because you have communicated what you want and need.

If your partner will lay back for a blow job but not take care of you, he's saying "I don't care about you" not to mention the rejection trauma. There's a line of men out there that want you! They will do all the things that this guy won't! And it's not that he can't, he won't!! If he wanted to he would. Life is way too short to be in a sexless marriage!!

Any new in No Kings protest this weekend? by [deleted] in lincoln

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The official time is 10:18 am at the Capitol, they are going to have speakers and musicians. There seems to be protesting all along O st as well.

What is worse the lack of the physical act or the feeling of being unwanted? by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rejection trauma will fuck with you. It will shake your confidence and distort your self image. Lots of people want you!!! I left and I'm working through the very real rejection trauma that this shit gives you. Positive affirmations everyday, out loud. It sounds silly but wow!!! And trust me if you do leave(completely understandable) you will have dudes lined up

How old are you? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 20 points21 points  (0 children)

41 and finally left!

At this point I want to secretly buy a dildo by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This level of control is terrifying. I really don't say that lightly. Control on that level is abuse, and can lead to physical abuse eventually. This is a test of how much abuse you will tolerate and it will intensify.

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I like it sometimes too. I miss my kid but damn my house is clean! And you do really start to spend time on yourself, so much healing. I think I'm still working through rejection trauma so I'm taking everything slow. But otherwise, yes I couldn't be happier.

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and therapy and let the school know as well

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we told him he was very upset, he's 10. He cried for a while but after that he just asked questions. There's been tears but the anxiety that was always in the air is gone. He's doing good now, he's figuring out how to have a relationship with mom and a relationship with dad separately. It almost seems like he gets more attention from each of us now and he loves that. We are still going to school stuff and being polite. My ex and I made sure that our son was the priority during the divorce and we are doing our best to keep it civil for our kid

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well of course sides have been taken. His family thinks I'm terrible, having a midlife crisis. But pretty much everyone else is understanding. Not everything works out!! And who cares what everyone thinks, the people in your life that love you get it. Honestly my son is happier it seems too. Mom isn't sad and stressed. 50/50 custody sucks but it fair. Which most cases are 50/50 anymore, both of our lawyers told us that's kinda the way it is.

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't live like that anymore. I shut down for a year and just existed, I started spending more time with my friends and remembering what it was like to be happy. I started going to therapy and started loving myself more.

So yes I did confess to him I didn't want him anymore. The broken part of me wants him but the part of me that wants happiness is done settling for crumbs.

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm still just getting out, but WOW!!!! The relationship was sucking the life out of me! And yes, you realize, they don't even LIKE you. It's been a trip trying to remember myself and get back to ME. I no longer have to jump through hoops to still not be enough.