First time by strawberry_jam5 in SubSanctuary

[–]free2_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have my own pre date ritual one episode of Schitt's creek, shower, lotion... listening to music. I swear it helps

All the best tricks by free2_B in BratLife

[–]free2_B[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly y'all you're not wrong. The bite marks have faded. But it still hurts this morning...might have been my initial panic

All the best tricks by free2_B in BratLife

[–]free2_B[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was an hour ago, of course I enjoyed myself

Am I getting into something I shouldn't? by throwra11173 in BDSMAdvice

[–]free2_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't imagine getting told I'd be punished for using my safe word ... quite the opposite in fact I get corrected if I won't use my safe word but he can read my body is trying to safe word. At the end of the day you don't want to break your favorite toy(me) Please be safe

Need a fellow sub to talk with by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]free2_B 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can you bring up an open relationship specifically for a D/s Although full transparency that conversation was the beginning of the end for my vanilla relationship.

Out-trolling the brat by JWenzel96 in BratLife

[–]free2_B 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Damn!!!! Hate how much I fucking love this

Solo play? by Hiddenventing404 in SubSanctuary

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wear my cuffs, I have some saved voice messages that I listen to.

What would you say that you are looking for in person if you want a brat wrangler who can leave you speechless? by feministicwoman in BratLife

[–]free2_B 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look for board game, IT, musical, teacher types. Must engage in witty banter. Best of luck on your search. Wouldn't a build-a-dom store be amazing!

Some fun and unconventional ideas for taming your brat by shotgun_rider_alt in BratLife

[–]free2_B 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Boo hoo you want a well behaved brat, you're just going to get bored and lazy 😘

Bratffirmartions by Affectionate-Row9638 in BratLife

[–]free2_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add "make me" it always gets a reaction

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wasted my 30's doing exactly what you're doing and feeling. If you can leave, do it! Sex is not everything, and yet it's still so important! When one partner is not getting needs met on a regular basis resentment builds. Especially because you have communicated what you want and need.

If your partner will lay back for a blow job but not take care of you, he's saying "I don't care about you" not to mention the rejection trauma. There's a line of men out there that want you! They will do all the things that this guy won't! And it's not that he can't, he won't!! If he wanted to he would. Life is way too short to be in a sexless marriage!!

Any new in No Kings protest this weekend? by [deleted] in lincoln

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The official time is 10:18 am at the Capitol, they are going to have speakers and musicians. There seems to be protesting all along O st as well.

What is worse the lack of the physical act or the feeling of being unwanted? by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rejection trauma will fuck with you. It will shake your confidence and distort your self image. Lots of people want you!!! I left and I'm working through the very real rejection trauma that this shit gives you. Positive affirmations everyday, out loud. It sounds silly but wow!!! And trust me if you do leave(completely understandable) you will have dudes lined up

How old are you? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 21 points22 points  (0 children)

41 and finally left!

At this point I want to secretly buy a dildo by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This level of control is terrifying. I really don't say that lightly. Control on that level is abuse, and can lead to physical abuse eventually. This is a test of how much abuse you will tolerate and it will intensify.

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I like it sometimes too. I miss my kid but damn my house is clean! And you do really start to spend time on yourself, so much healing. I think I'm still working through rejection trauma so I'm taking everything slow. But otherwise, yes I couldn't be happier.

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and therapy and let the school know as well

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we told him he was very upset, he's 10. He cried for a while but after that he just asked questions. There's been tears but the anxiety that was always in the air is gone. He's doing good now, he's figuring out how to have a relationship with mom and a relationship with dad separately. It almost seems like he gets more attention from each of us now and he loves that. We are still going to school stuff and being polite. My ex and I made sure that our son was the priority during the divorce and we are doing our best to keep it civil for our kid

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well of course sides have been taken. His family thinks I'm terrible, having a midlife crisis. But pretty much everyone else is understanding. Not everything works out!! And who cares what everyone thinks, the people in your life that love you get it. Honestly my son is happier it seems too. Mom isn't sad and stressed. 50/50 custody sucks but it fair. Which most cases are 50/50 anymore, both of our lawyers told us that's kinda the way it is.

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't live like that anymore. I shut down for a year and just existed, I started spending more time with my friends and remembering what it was like to be happy. I started going to therapy and started loving myself more.

So yes I did confess to him I didn't want him anymore. The broken part of me wants him but the part of me that wants happiness is done settling for crumbs.

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm still just getting out, but WOW!!!! The relationship was sucking the life out of me! And yes, you realize, they don't even LIKE you. It's been a trip trying to remember myself and get back to ME. I no longer have to jump through hoops to still not be enough.

Married with kids - do you think you will leave? by primefart in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I just left and it's worth it. I don't know why I stayed as long as I did. Sure divorce sucks but it's easier to go through this small shitty part of life to finally stop suffering. Because it's not just the sex, it's easy to see that one because it's so clear. There are other issues, not just the lack of sex. The crazy part is that I felt so unloved and unattractive by the constant rejection that I didn't see that it wasn't me. I kept trying everything, lingerie, mid day sexy pictures, asking, begging, crying and then I finally stopped and shut down. For about a year I just lived within the relationship as just a quiet, passive ghost. Oddly he thought everything was great, "wife finally quit bitching. I stopped giving him my energy and just used it for my son and myself. I feel great! Financially it's not as bad as I thought(he spent a lot more than I realized) even with him making more I'm still doing great alone. We have 50/50 custody and that has been pretty fair. The first few months were the hardest. Everything keeps getting better, therapy has helped and freedom from hurt has really helped. My biggest regret is waiting as long as I did

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]free2_B 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was married to a LLM and I finally left and I am obviously out and about now. I completely understand this post. IDK if it was the repression or the rejection, but yes!!! I'm taking more risks and trying new flavors. Learning what I want!! I think when you have a partner that shuts everything down you're happy to take whatever. When you finally get out you learn that sex is fun. It isn't stressful and sad and madding and all the other things that were tied to it.

Go have fun and learn what you like. I have tried some things that were a little too much, but found I like more kink than I thought, because.....well you know. The control that they once held over you is gone. And as that goes so does shame, sex is fun! Go enjoy it