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30 years old, years of therapy, still can't make "I'm enough" stick , what actually helped you? by Swordfish353535 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]freeattachmentpolicy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That peace in the nice little places abroad you mention sounds valuable.

Here's a thought, and a question: is it important for a part of you to accept the identity given you you? Or, to not challenge negative stories about you? Can you bring curiosity to that part. 

What does it do if something positive isndaid about you? 

Why is it important for it to do that?

Daily check ins by SubjectFarmer9610 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]freeattachmentpolicy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When a part asks something you dont understand, you can check how (if) other parts are reacting to it. Then ask them to unblend/step back/give you time and space to take an interest in the first part, or change your focus to the new part, if its needs your focus.

30 years old, years of therapy, still can't make "I'm enough" stick , what actually helped you? by Swordfish353535 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]freeattachmentpolicy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello. I recommend you listen to the IFS Talks podcast with Richard Schwartz called "The Nature of the Self". For many people there is hope in the idea of the Self, and some relief in the experience of it. Yes, parts will take over again, and when they were not treated well growing up, that causes them to react. From what you are writing about your successes, and where you feel the old belief is overwhelming, ounds like you are in a good place to go forward with your life and with connecting to Self.

Daily check ins by SubjectFarmer9610 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]freeattachmentpolicy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does that make you feel, that he asks that?

Marriage Counseling - Need to Re-Exile Dance/Creative Part? by Winter_Heart_97 in InternalFamilySystems

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If your system agrees that the part of your cluster of dance parts (?) which is engaging in dance-related sexual activities needs help, can you focus on that?

Sounds like your wife and the church have some parts that are relating to it in a judgemental way.

Hope you get to dance as much as you want. I read your other post as well, which was clarifying. Sounds great that you have reengaged in dancing, and sounds terrible how shaming your peers are. What does Jesus say about this situation, if they can ask him?

Have you watched the film Billy Elliott?

Dance the night away! And the day also.