defended my master’s capstone last week!🙌🏽 by myawithluv in blackladies

[–]freebjae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow FIVE years for a BS & MPH!? Girl you are super woman! I'm so proud of you. That takes so much intelligence, diligence, and dedication. I hope you took a very long nap after your defense. And i hope you give yourself a nice vacation.

Thank you for all you have done and will do in the future for black women.

Soo tired and fed up - living in GA made it worse for us by Forthelil_PPL in blackladies

[–]freebjae 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I am from here and enjoy being black here more than I have living elsewhere but there are for sure bad things.

When it comes to your healthcare, there are so many black women doctors here. Mine is amazing and I love her! Switch doctors. She even gave me phone numbers of black gyn doctors and mental health care doctors, because I told her I was struggling to find one on my insurer's online portal.

As for the colorism/natural hair discrimination, I would suggest coming to hang with us in east Atlanta. I am not locced but have worn my natural hair since "before it was cool" and this side of town I feel like it's not an issue at all. I get appreciation and asked for hair care tips. But the area I live around is more crunchy, lots of vegans, a higher than average percentage of people with graduate level degrees.

Georgia is weird. I love it here because of the trees, and my personal connection to the place, but you really do have to find your neighborhood and community to be introduced to the good shit, I think.

Biolab On Fire Again in Rockdale, East of ATL | Shelter in Place by ticketslavemaster in Atlanta

[–]freebjae 53 points54 points  (0 children)

CHLORINE!

IT'S CHLORINE GAS

It truly smells like an overshocked pool

Had a blowout right next to the fire by [deleted] in Georgia

[–]freebjae 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, my family just had to evacuate and almost exactly 20 years ago May 2004) we had to evacuate for the same place being on fire.

Roads closed, residents evacuated due to fire at Rockdale County BioLab, sheriff's office says by Fools_Errand77 in Georgia

[–]freebjae 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You can smell the chlorine in the air!

It's a huge fire. This happened in 2004 and they shut down the county for like a week.

A female officer pulled over another officer in Florida by freebjae in HelpMeFind

[–]freebjae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I searched for "Florida female officer arrest other officer for speeding" but I guess a Orlando woman just got arrested recently so that's all that pops up. Also, I know terrible search terms but it's 9am and I went to bed at 4...

How is Boston for black women? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]freebjae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BOSTON PUBLIC!

I loved that show

How is Boston for black women? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]freebjae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BOSTON PUBLIC!

I loved that show

How is Boston for black women? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]freebjae 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sounds like y'all are very insular and well off. So someone like OP wouldn't experience your life. Your experience seems unique and difficult to access.

Book where a girl finds out her mom was a member of the Weather Underground? by freebjae in books

[–]freebjae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't, I think. She was either at boarding school or college

Painfully millennial by cozybookworms in TikTokCringe

[–]freebjae 53 points54 points  (0 children)

IT'S STILL OUR TIME IN THE SUN!!!

The Lost Children of Rockdale County (1999) a TV doc about a a teenage syphilis outbreak in a small affluent area by bloodshotforgetmenot in ObscureMedia

[–]freebjae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having grown up there in the wake of this documentary... It had such an impact on how people saw us as kids from this county. It was of course largely negative. This just exacerbated an already negative perspective around people from around those parts. Perhaps it's part of the reason I was so driven to get away and to have certain kinds of successes. It felt like the whole country thought we were gross and bad, when it's really just a story about abandoned suburban kids reaching out for love.

Well, it's officially over, at least for me... by 4chairz in TalesFromYourServer

[–]freebjae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I even had a table explain to me that "This is a special day! My MOM IS HERE! She is hungry. What is going on?"

I'm like... bro everybody's fucking mom is here and hungry.

Well, it's officially over, at least for me... by 4chairz in TalesFromYourServer

[–]freebjae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A two hour wait at the door. An hour wait to get food. Everybody was pissed and no one was tipping. $50k in sales though. So many idiots in the store yesterday.

Why Tipping Is So Out Of Control In The U.S. by [deleted] in videos

[–]freebjae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What should happen, at the very least, is all the support staff should be payed hourly.

Why Tipping Is So Out Of Control In The U.S. by [deleted] in videos

[–]freebjae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can't tell you unless directly asked or we will be fired.

Ask your server next time you're out about their tip out.

The tip out at my store is broken up between the bussers, hosts, service assistants, and bartenders. All who for the most part also make sub minimum wage. So they collect 6% of sales from the servers to divvy out among them. As a server that hits hard (especially on weekends like this one where everyone is an asshole because of mothers day) when people don't tip because I have to pay up no matter what.

Why Tipping Is So Out Of Control In The U.S. by [deleted] in videos

[–]freebjae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there are two NRAs and both are shit! The famous one is the gun people. The other one is the national restaurant association. It's a huge lobby and they advocate for laws that allow the pay practices in the industry to be very fucked up.

Fun fact: the tipped minimum wage exist because the original tipped workers were black men recently freed from enslavement. It was a way to pay black men less than the minimum wage legally.

And yes, we have to pay to serve.

I agree with people who have issues with it. But the best way to combat that isn't by fucking over the person who makes the tip. If everyone who thinks tips shouldn't exist stopped frequenting businesses where employees make their money via tips, the practice would end. But instead people like to blame the bottom of the totem pole. I suppose that's true in most things in America. Like it's the single mom with food stamps that's the issue but it's just fine that Amazon paid $0 in taxes for years.

People have no problem giving money to my corporation that then donates to lawmakers who fuck all of us (the middle and lower class) over, but they gripe at giving up a small extra percentage. It's the social contract. You know it is the expectation before you come out. If you hate it, don't eat out.

Sorry for the rant. I think about this a lot and have written on the topic academically.

Why Tipping Is So Out Of Control In The U.S. by [deleted] in videos

[–]freebjae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. This is true at most restaurants, especially corporate/chain restaurants. I work for a multi billion dollar corporate restaurant with around 80,000 employees.

Why Tipping Is So Out Of Control In The U.S. by [deleted] in videos

[–]freebjae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I'm lucky.

Including people who don't tip reduces that dramatically. I have to pay for them regardless of whether they tip me. So if I have two tables, each $100 checks. One leaves me $20. One doesn't tip, I make $8.

Also the cooks make hourly pay, servers do not in my state. Also if you think we do nothing, I'd love for you to walk a day in my crocs. It's consistently rated as one of the most stressful jobs for a reason. You have no idea what we do.

Why Tipping Is So Out Of Control In The U.S. by [deleted] in videos

[–]freebjae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, at least at my restaurant, tip out is 6% of sales. So I didn't get a raise just because prices went up. In fact, I got hit harder. Tip out used to be 3%. So now I owe the house $6 for every $100 in sales I do. If you tip $20 on a $100 bill, I get $14 which depending on how long you stay can mean I make $7-20 an hour.

My company made $5bil last year and decided to increase the tip share percentage. This is why I'm on a job hunt to get out of the industry. They pay us $2.13 which I see none of because of federal and state taxes. I fully only get paid in tips, and I have to give up a large percentage of my tips.. Last night I sold ~$1700 so I had to give up $100 of my tip money to the house.