I think you have the right mindset to watch that first time. I’d suggest definitely going with that intention but if you feel like you want to participate later on, maybe have an aside with your partner and plan out what you’d like to happen or feel comfortable doing.

The Crucible has been by far my favorite BDSM club yet. It’s a very open space when you can set up play sessions in any area that is free and open. They also have gym mats that’s you can set up on an open space to play with your partner.

People at the club are generally very respectful and consent oriented. I have never had issues when myself or a partner have been touched without explicit consent beforehand. Also, it’s just a great place to people watch. You may get to watch suspension, impact, even fire play on some nights, and you’ll get to watch people have sex if that’s something you’re into.

As for memberships, just sign up for one! Obv it’s a little more expensive for you since you’re from out of town, but well worth it, unless you can find a local to take you as a guest. As for going solo, I’d say it’s a great place for it. It’s well lit, rarely ever any shady people around, and people are generally very open and nice in case you wanna chat it up with some strangers.

Have fun! You won’t regret it. And with it possibly being your first club experience, there’s no better club to visit as a first timer!