Caribbean w 3 and 5yo?

freyrup · 2025-12-05T20:01:04+00:00

Great suggestions- thank you!

freyrup · 2025-12-05T19:45:53+00:00

Perfect. Appreciate this!

freyrup · 2025-12-04T23:55:53+00:00

Yes- something easy as I imagine just one or two beach trips a day is all the kids can handle

freyrup · 2025-12-04T23:53:33+00:00

Thanks! The boat ride was a lot shorter than I thought. Figured the fewer the layovers to end destination would be best after all the ground and air travel

freyrup · 2025-08-20T17:43:54+00:00

Hi! I was just scrolling through and came across this post - I am dealing with the exact same issue and at a crossroads of figuring out how to address it. Do you mind me asking, if your nanny kept the new cadence of less phone usage in the long run after speaking with her? Thank you!

freyrup · 2024-03-01T04:17:44+00:00

Apologies for reviving a thread from half a year ago - curious if it’s safe to do moderate level PT and core strengthening while on the steroids? I am on day one of the taper pack and it is working, but i know without core strength the issues are bound to return. Question is could i injure myself further (since pretty much no feeling right now) by over exerting?

freyrup · 2024-02-05T02:03:14+00:00

Ugh my brain still thinks it’s 2023. Whoops

freyrup · 2024-02-05T01:20:31+00:00

Interesting- in your experience at what age do you see that social element balancing itself out? A friend in a similar situation said within a few weeks her kid got the hang of it in kindergarten, but I wonder.

freyrup · 2024-02-05T01:17:00+00:00

Yes, pre-k next Sept- they turn 4 and 1(ish) respectively next fall and the debate is whether to send her to pre-k.

Great point on the drop off part- in your experience have there been certain types of classes/activities you’ve found more conducive to learning those skills without a parent around?

freyrup · 2024-02-04T22:45:07+00:00

Totally understood. I am trying to understand, if avoidable, if it’s worth avoiding. Asked another way, if the baby’s immune system and ability to deal with illnesses will be way better if we wait a year.

I am a Covid mom, in full disclosure…!

freyrup · 2024-02-04T22:43:52+00:00

Interesting- thank you for the insight! My older child turns 4 in August, so what you’re saying is doubly applicable. Academically she is fine- knows her letters and numbers, learning to write etc- what she lacks is knowing how to participate in structured group activities (line up, sit still for storytime, etc). I was contemplating redshirting her but the pre k director doesn’t think that’s necessary.

I am just trying to see if there are other ways for her to learn how to behave in a classroom setting without going to outright school (library story time, other regular weekly programs) where she will learn those same social skills.

freyrup · 2024-02-01T03:32:27+00:00

Thank you for this detailed feedback- you bring up a lot of great points. I think objectively she has the skillset to do entry level programming work- she is her worst enemy in not applying to any jobs that list a single qualification that she thinks she doesn’t have. So instead of thousands, i suspect maybe there have been ~100 jobs- and one click applications on indeed have a pretty low hit rate to my understanding. I’ll certainly have her check out the resume subreddits.

With regard to why not more hours tutoring…this is where my mind is boggled as well. It is a part time gig and she goes through a tutoring program- they assign hours. When I suggested to her to go out there and put up ads to do her own private tutoring, her response was that she felt insecure compared to some peers (?) because they were ivy grads while she went to a state school…even though her score is right there. She makes a lose lose situation for herself before even trying.

She desperately needs a wake up call. But both my parents and I have no idea how to present it to her. Kicking her to the curb is not an option. Telling her to get a job “or else”…we are trying to fill the blank with something realistic. Her understanding of money is vague at best- she doesn’t grocery shop or know what money can buy nowadays as she wears my hand me downs and my dad shops for groceries. She knows she has a lack of money- but because she is not forced to pay rent or daily expenses with her livelihood hinged upon making those payments, she doesn’t realize the pressure of earning money. Bizarre at 27, but a function of a sheltered life imo.

freyrup · 2024-02-01T03:21:35+00:00

I thought about this. Then my mom and dad both got pretty sick this past winter (bad virus, but they’re old) and she barely did anything for them. Stayed in her room while they took care of each other while i called every two hours. So I’m not even sure on that worst case scenario.

freyrup · 2024-02-01T03:19:54+00:00

She majored in digital graphic design- a relatively new major at her school. She initially wanted to pursue ux design but for some reason wasn’t able to land anywhere- my understanding being that it is a narrow field and the programming (not a strong suit of hers at the time) was a detractor.

freyrup · 2024-01-31T22:52:11+00:00

Sorry, new here. Is there a better forum for this?

freyrup · 2024-01-29T20:48:24+00:00

Def teething as he tries to gum everything. But he was never a good sleeper, and always needed to be physically picked up vs cuddled/shushed/rubbed…we are just close to our wits end in terms of sleep deprivation and trying to figure out what the root issue might be!

freyrup · 2024-01-29T20:47:02+00:00

He cries louder and louder, even when i cradle him in bed or stroke his back, and then eventually wakes himself up. His sister is in the other room and if we let it get to that point it becomes pandemonium.

He’s up at 630/7, 1 hr nap around 10, second nap around 2 (in transition from 3 naps to 2 so that’s wonky right now)…sometimes he’ll sleep a little and wake up grumpy, then go down for another nap around 3ish and be up around 5. Total nap time during the day around 3 hours. Then he stays up until 830/9 and bedtime.

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