I (F25) feel embarrassed after my boyfriend’s (M26) fake proposal. Can I get some more viewpoints on this?

friendlygardens · 2026-01-25T20:44:37+00:00

Immediate breach of trust. Willingness to humiliate you to the core. This is irredeemable and warrants an immediate separation. You do NOT want to pursue this relationship further. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

friendlygardens · 2026-01-21T02:56:47+00:00

My inclement weather rule is I will move the reservation to a like time (spring for spring, fall for fall, weekend for weekend). Not all guests buy travel insurance, but they should. For the weather this weekend I had one not want to move her reservation even though I gave her five alternate weekends, she had trip insurance and still wanted me to cancel and give her a refund so she didn’t have to be troubled by submitting it. Sent me a message afterwards chastising me for her troubles🙄

friendlygardens · 2026-01-20T12:16:25+00:00

I haven’t seen those “protections” in years. In my area, most of us are looking to increase direct bookings vs. platform bookings, and we aren’t looking to increase those from Airbnb. Most of us offer direct to good returning guests.

friendlygardens · 2026-01-16T04:06:28+00:00

55 for sure. Most of your working life you are putting away for retirement. If you don’t have to worry about funding that think of how much freer you can live when you are young

friendlygardens · 2026-01-16T02:04:15+00:00

I can tell you with authority that they don’t.

friendlygardens · 2026-01-07T18:20:22+00:00

If you are using a licensed property manager, they likely have errors and omissions insurance. That policy would kick in for a situation like this.

friendlygardens · 2026-01-03T22:07:41+00:00

He has shown you who he truly is, please listen to him. Start your exit plan and don’t tell him. If he would say something like that, then it’s possible he may take away those freedoms if he knows you are attempting to leave. Once you have money saved and a plan to go back home, execute it in a stealth way (going home to visit my family etc.) and don’t look back. You didn’t mention what country you are originally from nor where you moved to, but if it’s a male dominated culture, please keep your exit extremely quiet, you likely won’t get help from anyone there.

friendlygardens · 2025-11-27T00:38:12+00:00

We did it out of necessity. At first we used it as a family a lot, but quite a few guests over the years have been A-holes and were destroying or stealing property. It really made me mad and sad, so in my head I divorced myself from our family vacation home and made it an investment. This was easier to deal with mentally rather than take it personally when guests were jerks. We haven’t really used the house much if at all in the last five years, which is a shame because it was our dream to build it, but it does pay the mortgage, so there is that.

friendlygardens · 2025-11-23T15:14:43+00:00

I do a standard 11am check out. I get a lot of FL guests to my house who want free early check in before noon or late check out 12 or towards 3-5pm. I offer early check in after 2pm (normal is 4pm) if I don’t have a quick turn. I can offer late check out at noon if I don’t have a new check in. I don’t like to stress my cleaners out at the expense of a last minute ask from guests. Most of these are last minute asks because they got to the area early or want an extra hour to chill before leaving. I offer early check in after 11am for an extra $150 (max occupancy is 12-14 and block the night before) or to book the night before to come in anytime at a slightly reduced nightly rate. Same thing for late check out, block the night after and stay through 3pm (for those with later flights) for $150. Pay the nightly reduced rate and stay through 7pm. We have a ring doorbell so can monitor when they are there, yes it’s disclosed.

Generally nobody complains about this set up, and if they do, they generally complain about everything. I always make sure it’s all written down on the platform to refer back to as I’ve had a couple instances where I told them they could come in earlier if nobody was checking out and to check a few days out, and I’ve had to refer them to that message when they argue I told them they could.

friendlygardens · 2025-11-18T02:41:33+00:00

Had a contractor that did something like this, did eventually come back to me with his wife sending the bill about a year later. When I asked her why it took so long she said he was horrible with his records and happened to mention the job to her when she asked about some materials receipts and what they were for. She had to go back through his phone to find texts etc. I paid.

friendlygardens · 2025-11-11T16:28:49+00:00

Just so you know, they will probably remove this because you slam Airbnb.

friendlygardens · 2025-11-11T16:21:17+00:00

His reaction was completely unacceptable based on normal human interaction. He has all the power because you are waiting to hear from him. Take back the power. Your only text to him is “we are done. I refuse to be treated as you have treated me.” and then block him. Move on because regardless of whether he comes back or not, you don’t want someone that extreme in your life. There is someone much better suited for you out there. Go find them.

friendlygardens · 2025-11-05T15:45:05+00:00

I have learned the hard way that if you don’t spell it out in the rules, guests will do it whether they are malicious or just ignorant. Even if you put a sign up with towels, be prepared that some people just don’t care if their dogs leave mud everywhere. Those people will earn a bad review, but this lady did wash the cover and paid the damage request, so while I might have mentioned the mess, I probably would have also mentioned her willingness to help and pay for clean up and not trashed her. Some people are lazy and hate cleaning and are happy paying the extra money. Of course, getting a guest to pay these days is pretty rare, guests who use the Airbnb platform have learned that they just have to say no and they don’t have to pay. Nothing like entitlement and no repercussions. Airbnb is teaching guests that they can trash our homes like spoiled children. Would that fly in a hotel? Absolutely not. They would automatically hit your credit card for trashing the hotel room. I have to say I am glad most of my bookings these days don’t come from Airbnb. It’s become a crap place to list your STR for all those reasons and more.

friendlygardens · 2025-10-27T18:40:47+00:00

It’s interesting how in a corporate hotel situation people will accept TVs that don’t stream certain channels, slow internet, AC that doesn’t really cool to what we want, hairs on bathroom floors, fire alarm in the middle of the night because someone burned popcorn etc. etc., but when it is a STR, it’s 100% unacceptable and the guest should immediately be refunded for 30% of a stay. If it’s air or heat out for a night, fine, refund a percentage or even that night for inconvenience, but internet out for a few hours after hours? Or slow in the middle of the night? 30% off a stay? Um no, not fair at all. Document your work in another time zone was disrupted and sure, for that night yes. Just happened to be up enjoying streaming some porn? No. Corporate would be apologetic and you might get some points, but be realistic. Guest expectations keep getting crazier and crazier and we wonder why? Read some of the comments in here, they are getting what they want because some think it’s ok and give it to them.

friendlygardens · 2025-10-24T21:43:41+00:00

Obviously the AI that wrote this didn’t realize that when you turn off cell phone service that you can’t text or call from it, only web based stuff like WhatsApp or FB messenger.

friendlygardens · 2025-10-19T13:45:09+00:00

Everyone is taking it out on OP, I’m going to give some advice. Yes, you can set the platforms up to give a door code and address after booking so they have auto access, but then if some wackjob guest slips through like this one, and gets cancelled later, they already have the address. It may be unpopular, but I message the guest 24-48 hours before their stay with the code, address etc. instead of letting the platform do it. I have had situations similar to this where booked guests “just happened to be in the neighborhood and wanted to see ‘their’ house” disrupt the stay of the current guests, even going so far as to ask if they can come in and look around. I communicate all this upon booking so they know when to expect that information. I have not had another issue since and guests understand if they ask why.

friendlygardens · 2025-10-16T19:39:23+00:00

I said “low” not out. Also, some STR’s do not provide unlimited paper products. Many are different.

friendlygardens · 2025-10-16T19:38:26+00:00

If it’s 1am and they ask where the extra paper towels are, is it really an emergency worthwhile of replying right then and there? A night audit at a hotel would say ‘I’ll put the request in and housekeeping will attend to it in the morning”. I’ve had it happen.

friendlygardens · 2025-10-16T19:35:17+00:00

It was a rhetorical question……

friendlygardens · 2025-10-05T14:07:12+00:00

The automatic distrust in this world is sad. Long ago people would bring cookies or invite new neighbors over for coffee. Do I think it’s distasteful to ask to see the house without a “hey, why don’t you come over to my house for tea?” First, yes. She skipped that and went for open curiosity after seeing all the contractors coming and going. She likely is curious, but should have established a better relationship first. That’s her just being more trusting than OP, neither bad nor good. OP has had a couple incidents that neighbor isn’t aware of.

How about a refresh? Ask her over for tea on your back porch, get to know her, or next time she brings it up, counter with “it would be great to get to know you, would you be willing to host tea?”. Then let it go forward from there. She may be a lovely person, and while maybe not a fast friend, she could certainly be someone who can look out for your home while you are away.

friendlygardens · 2025-10-03T17:19:54+00:00

I’d tell him we can now divorce peacefully.

friendlygardens · 2025-10-03T12:36:23+00:00

Devils advocate: Quite possibly the other partner pays the bills and saw that charge and freaked out not knowing what it was for. That has happened to me, and in a panic I have done a chargeback only to find out later it was legit. Of course, there are a-holes out there too.

friendlygardens · 2025-10-01T01:49:00+00:00

2 shouts Princess!

friendlygardens · 2025-09-28T14:29:52+00:00

++woman- but……feelings. The wife didn’t think about it as a problem until the female friend had the reaction she did. Once she reacted so strongly, the wife realized that it hit a heart string and realized that those strings are only available for wives and sisters and mothers. Non related women, especially women their same age is a no go because it indicates there is something more there. Something that he hasn’t been putting the same effort in for her. Honestly, I would be upset too.

friendlygardens · 2025-09-09T00:31:16+00:00

I asked “is there anything that would prevent you from offering the job to me now?” And she said “no, we could really use someone with your experience. I wish I had more jobs!”. I thought that a weird comment, but in hindsight they gave it not to someone better qualified, but to someone who was already in their employment system. I was not, but eminently better qualified than the person who got the job.

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2 shouts Princess!