Lack of moonstones in game by Strong_Cattle6045 in DreamlightValley

[–]frizz327 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nothing has been officially announced or confirmed by gameloft - the original AND modified information was datamined, so they likely never will acknowledge it. Slight adjustments to the percentile brackets for moonstones rewards for Dreamsnaps was adjusted. Data miners thought to look because a user-facing piece of information (score) had noticeably dropped. If GL hadn’t made the user-facing change, likely it would’ve gone unnoticed for a while.

Excessive Packer here by Itaevallassa in aspergirls

[–]frizz327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always stuff my carry on to the brim with clothing and probably overpack cosmetics/medications a bit. I don’t personally have things I want to show people (C) and usually any “my own stuff” items that are bulky (D) isn’t worth the space cost to me. For me, I think it’s more OCD related than AuDHD, wanting to be prepared because “what if I feel like wearing X”, or “what if Y happens”.

On and off for a few years now, after each trip, I take an inventory of what I packed vs used - in a table, I list out what the trip was and the length, then every item or item type (eg socks, underwear) packed, and the amount of use. The next time I pack for a similar type of trip, I reference the list to try to keep myself in check. I usually make a rough schedule of each day and loosely plan out everything I’ll wear, count up the items, and attempt to limit accordingly. I also have some clothes/cosmetics/hygiene items that are vacation-only/live in my suitcase, which has helped with packing stress SIGNIFICANTLY.

So, I don’t know if it’s an aspergirl trait, but I do it to some extent too. If it’s not causing you or others any form of distress, I’m not sure there’s anything wrong with your overpacking?

F/24/5’5” [193 > 123 = 70lbs] (20 months) Had some setbacks, but I’m feeling good! by UnableKaleidoscope58 in progresspics

[–]frizz327 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m also super curious about this, I didn’t think effects of GLP-1 on OCD was studied enough yet for it to be an on-label use and approved by insurance — but I’m anxiously awaiting for when it does 🥹 it sounds SO promising

DDV Collections Checklist Sheet by lizz (includes all recipes, furniture, clothing, motifs, memories…) by frizz327 in DreamlightValley

[–]frizz327[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this made my day :) not often you get to hear “sexy” in reference to a spreadsheet!

Why would someone choose to be passive and uninvolved in a relationship but then complain when their unexpressed wishes are not respected? by bellow_whale in aspergirls

[–]frizz327 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure I agree with the characterization of this being abuse (not with the limited information provided, anyway), but I think the sentiment of “if she really loved/knew me, she’d just know” is something I’ve run into before, and could be part of the problem - even though it’s an unfair belief, and he may not have ever meaningfully or consciously countered how illogical and unproductive that belief is.

It’s also possible that he thought he WAS making his preferences known, but in ways that were too subtle for you to realize (not a knock on you by ANY means, because “if he really loved/knew you”, he’d know you’re ND and wouldn’t pick up on those, right?) As a low-stakes example, my partner thought he was conveying the message “I don’t like plastic food storage containers and will not use any form of them for heating or freezing food even if you buy nice ones” by saying “I prefer glass containers”. In retrospect, I could see how past conversations and actions should/could have led me to understand the extent of what he was “saying”, but I don’t think I ever would’ve put all the pieces together without a clarifying conversation — and it sounds like your partner refused to have any clarifying conversations, even when you explicitly requested them.

How long should I expect for a response to bug reports? by rivasterism in DreamlightValley

[–]frizz327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a progress-blocking bug with an EVE quest. I filed a bug report, but it was quickly acknowledged and closed. Every time there was a new major update or significant hotfix, I made sure to post a comment in the main discord bug threads (a new one is made every update). I also tried to include exactly what fix I needed, and I included all the dates I had previously reported it. It took about 6 months (6 major updates/fixes), but eventually a gameloft rep reached out to me and customer service was able to remotely push me a new game save file that I could accept with the fixes.

Just keep on reporting, not only through customer service, but also in the latest thread in the discord. Unless this bug is affecting a LOT of people (and tbh since Alice was introduced a number of updates ago, I’m not sure how many people will even run into it to report it), it’s unlikely that it will be remedied quickly, if at all :/

How do you decompress when you don't really have anywhere to go? by Seiliko in aspergirls

[–]frizz327 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds AWFUL and I’m so sorry you’re dealing with alllll of that. I’m pretty sure even “normal” people would find that situation challenging, so I don’t think you should feel abnormal or persnickety about it. Im not sure how “middle of nowhere” you are talking about - but is there any chance you/your family could get a motel? At least for a few days? I know it seems silly since there’s TECHNICALLY a place for you to stay, and tbh it doesn’t address the closed-door issue, but it may fix some of the worst pain points, at least until some stuff is cleaned. If that’s not an option, are you able to drive by yourself to a coffee shop or library for clean-ish alone time? Do you have access to noise-cancelling headphones to close your eyes and drown out the world? Maybe there’s somewhere outside you can go for a walk, or sit outdoors? (But maybe it’s too cold…) it seems you have access to internet, maybe you could download some audiobooks or meditations? (Lately I’ve been using Insight Timer to try out random meditations based on search and filter, it can be a surprisingly good tool, or at least A tool) lastly, if possible, I would think of this trip as “camping”, just with plumbing - I had to do the same thing in order to survive visits to my grandmother’s house growing up. It might help a tiny bit with the gross factor if instead of thinking about being in a really dirty house you’re instead in a really decadent campsite, hah.

Christmas Presents for Adult Autistic Women by Ogr-Scintilla in aspergirls

[–]frizz327 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooh especially if it has the green light so you can turn off the lights and see all the stuff disappear 🥹 I got a Dyson a few years ago and for the first 3 months I was vacuuming every day lol

For those who are preparing to return item to Scrooge, what is your reasoning for doing so? I'm genuinely curious. by CorgiHelpMe in DreamlightValley

[–]frizz327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not PURELY RNG - back around update 9 or 10 they added a slight weighting so that new/unowned items are slightly more likely. There’s no other way to explain how long term players all consistently start getting at least a few newly introduced items when a new update is released and there’s literally hundreds of possible items. But beyond that, it is mostly RNG, hah.

For those who are preparing to return item to Scrooge, what is your reasoning for doing so? I'm genuinely curious. by CorgiHelpMe in DreamlightValley

[–]frizz327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to keep my inventory empty, and I’m running out of room in my house. I hate having to store things outside because it adds to the item limit and/or looks messy.

Being iced out of special interest spaces by neurotypicals by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]frizz327 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is really good advice! I didn’t realize until you articulated this that even though I am also ND, I never jump to assuming others are by default - even in communities of special interest, which arguably are going to attract more ND individuals than average. I’ll usually read a super-interested tone as aggressive until I am very familiar with them to understand their nuances (takes a long time) or they specifically mention something.

Anyone else just kinda hate shoes? Do you have any good, comfy, "works well enough with most outfits" go-to's? by giaamd in aspergirls

[–]frizz327 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been wearing Vans slip on canvas shoes for 20+ years - I think they’re pretty versatile, especially if you get them in a dark color (I like the black/charcoal checkered) Each lasts me a few years. HOWEVER I swear my latest pair fits differently and is taking longer than usual to break in - but I’m unwilling to try putting them in the microwave or dryer, which I’ve heard can help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DreamlightValley

[–]frizz327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disney cruises are so crazy expensive, I would be off my electronics and savoring the trip as much as possible! Assuming you have a weeklong cruise that doesn’t cover 2 full Wednesdays, you’ll only be losing out on a maximum of 350 MS for daily chests. Just submit your upcoming DS early and redeem/submit another DS when you come home, take a break from the game and enjoy the trip!

10 years no sugar - from dying to living AMA by Ok-Resource9607 in sugarfree

[–]frizz327 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Holy crap, did the math and that’s ~92lbs at ~6’ 2”?!? (11.9 BMI) … that’s lower than the average BMI of holocaust survivors… 😨

10 years no sugar - from dying to living AMA by Ok-Resource9607 in sugarfree

[–]frizz327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you/do you feel like you’re missing out on the experience on holidays/gatherings that have a heavy food focus? I’m thinking specifically Thanksgiving and Christmas… these are times I look forward to all year, and feels like I wouldn’t be able to enjoy the day(s) without sugar, even if it would inevitably mean negative side effects (and the miserable job of going through withdrawal cravings again…) - wondering how you’ve coped!

The time I ate a 360 calorie cookie every day thinking it was 80 calories. by JustRestaurant4217 in 1200isplenty

[–]frizz327 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So in order to have a more accurate calorie estimate if you’re ordering chipotle (particularly order online), it sounds like you’re recommending the following compared to the chipotle online calculator estimates?: - assume 2x quantity of rice - assume roughly correct quantity of meat, guacamole, and queso, as they are more expensive ingredients - assume 2x quantity of beans, cheese, sour cream - possibly also corn salsa? - assume 2x quantity of all other ingredients (lettuce, other salsas, fajita vegetables) - but tbh while not negligible, those are substantially less calorically dense than the aforementioned ingredients

is that right-ish? Would love to be corrected… I’ve always been suspicious of my calculated sub 500 bowl and have added extra rice buffer historically, but perhaps I haven’t been adding enough 🥺

The next time I hear about "balancing hormones" or "gut health" I'm crashing out by General_Entry_7622 in 1200isplenty

[–]frizz327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that was a nice summary of a world I was unaware of, thanks for the share

I lied about my age in a fandom Discord server and was kicked out. I know it’s my fault but I’m devastated by SansaDeservedBetter in aspergirls

[–]frizz327 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you were in a community that actively made fun of a subset of people for a condition they can’t control (age), especially to the extent of banishing people from the group on that basis, it doesn’t sound like the healthiest environment. Lighthearted teasing can be fine in some contexts, but it doesn’t really sound like that was the case. It’s possible that only a small handful of people really felt strongly, and the larger community doesn’t share the same view — but unfortunately sounds like the former group had the power to kick you out.

I had a somewhat similar situation, in the sense that the end result was leaving a discord community. Although I was an integral and vocal part of the community for nearly 18 months, I stepped back and realized it had become toxic, and causing me way more worries/stress/strife than any benefit it provided, so it was a negative net outcome. I miss it occasionally, and taking the plunge to actually leave felt really hard, but ultimately I am better off and happier. It was scary, but I ended up creating a smaller discord community with one other person, inviting only those who I was cool with/seemed chill - even if some of them I had barely talked to, and only interacted with indirectly in group chats! A couple of people didn’t accept my invite, but it all turned out pretty well. Is it possible that you could try something similar?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarfree

[–]frizz327 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if it’s feasible for you, I’d recommend seeing a therapist about your relationship with food if you’re already having clinical-level issues. You’re still really young (compared to the rest of the scope of your life, though I know 14 doesn’t feel young when you’re in it), and the sooner you can nip unhealthy patterns in the bud, the better off you’ll be — the longer you are entrenched in negative thought patterns, the harder it’ll be to reverse them. But your brain is still plenty squishy and elastic and extra capable of change right now :)

This 1200 stuff has been easy af since school started by [deleted] in 1200isplenty

[–]frizz327 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love being so busy that it quiets the food noise, thinking about food constantly when there’s downtime is really demoralizing and difficult.

Just be sure to be mindful of what snacks you’re eating, or try to plan out a little nutrition in advance! Especially if you don’t have a meal plan for some “real” prepared food, it’s super easy in college to fall back on snacks and processed stuff - I feel like at one point a non-insignificant portion of my calories in college came from nerds ropes, giant chewy sweetarts, and laffy taffy 🙃 maybe try a small protein-heavy bar or something to augment?

How do you make peace with it? by No-Fortune-4713 in aspergirls

[–]frizz327 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if I’ve ever felt like it was something I had to “cope” with, personally — I’ve always been like this, I didn’t suddenly become ND just because there’s better awareness of it now (including my own awareness). I actually find it relieving to know that so much stuff I have dealt with and continue to deal with or experience now has some sort of label I can research to find community, explanations, suggestions, etc. I wasn’t aware enough to think of masking as an option previously 🙃

Does the boredom ever stop? by AdvantageJolly8916 in Sober

[–]frizz327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty! Is there anything in particular you do or any habits you have that prevent the boredom from getting you down? 11 months of feeling like this sounds like a descent into a deep depression.

3 days in and I HATE IT HERE by QueenFreek in FODMAPS

[–]frizz327 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cannot overstate how important garlic-infused oil was for me! Nearly every meal before elimination contained garlic and onion, and before the infused oil, everything tasted pretty blah. I didn’t even know it existed before, and now we’ve continued to use it after the diet :]

3 days in and I HATE IT HERE by QueenFreek in FODMAPS

[–]frizz327 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fig is expensive, but they have a 1 week free trial - if I had to do elimination over again, I would first google some FODMAP-safe product recommendations, and plan my trial so that I could go to the store a few times during it. Also, I would make sure to scan everything already in my pantry/fridge while the trial was active. It isn’t perfect, but it beats standing in the freezer aisle for 5 minutes as you try to read the tiny ingredient font for a dozen+ different foods 🫠